My college recently decided that non vaccinated students would have to go into a 7 day quarantine when they arrive on campus. My dad has been pushing for me to get vaccinated for months, but I’m 18 and my mom has been on my side this whole time so he has basically been all bluster. However, now he’s gone full tilt into rage mode that I won’t do what he thinks is “best for the family.” He has moved all of my stuff from around the house into my bedroom and is telling me that “I wanted to give you the choice but you are getting vaccinated by Friday.” I’m holding firm but I just wanted to share another story about how these deranged psychos will tear everything apart for their narrative.
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I would point out that my dad is retired and spends almost all of his time either golfing or watching TV. I understand that my family is in a tragic situation, but that does not give him the right to pretend like any mild inconvenience is just beyond the pale and a personal betrayal. He has also tried to tell me to get vaccinated before for other reasons, so I doubt that motivation.
It sounds like it's not really about the vaccine... it's about control. He might be feeling helpless right now with your Mom's health. Him demanding that you get the experimental drug could be a way that he feels in control. Sending 🙏 to you and your family.
This sounds about right..
Lost my Mom at 19 to cancer, she was 46, it was devastating. I am sorry that you are experiencing this especially with your circumstances. I'll pray for you and your family.
Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.
How is your relationship with your mom? I'm assuming you're are an only child.
Your dad sounds very stressed despite the fact that he's retired and golfing.
My relationship with my mom is very good. I do have a brother who’s already out of the house, and he’s also refusing to get the vaccine. I haven’t noticed much stress from the old man but he’s about as likely to talk about his feelings as he is to admit Trump did something right.
Stand your ground. Dad will get over it.
Could you stay with your brother for a while until this blows over?
Possibly. I will consider such actions if things do get worse. For now, I’m waiting as seeing, since he can’t actually force me to get the vaccine, so he might finally just suck it up.
Can you live with your brother? Your father is a ticking time bomb. I think it is best for you to remove yourself from this abusive environment.
I wouldn’t go so far as to say abusive. While I definitely am worried about his behavior, he isn’t violent and I’m mature enough that his temper tantrum doesn’t do much more than make me angry at him rather than actually hurting me. My brother has a girlfriend and a small child, so I would also feel quite awkward entering into that situation. Regardless, it is something to consider if things do escalate further. Thank your for the advice!
Normally I would suggest moving out of the house. But if you're mom is terminal (although I don't believe anything is truly terminal) then you might consider staying until she is gone. Life is too short and you won't regret spending all the time you can with her.
Good that you have solidarity with your brother. Your dad watches too much television programming, but you already knew that.
He's not that stressed if he's moving his sons possessions all over the house.
OP - Im not aware of your situation, but come up with a backup plan that you can execute if shit hits the fan.
Like a place to stay and continue school without skipping a beat, for starters.
Stress can make people fidgety..