Client at Adult Daycare "abused sexually by relative" investisgation just started.
🤢 These people are sick! 🤮
I just strarted working in an Adult daycare Facility. And found out one of our Clients is being "abused sexually" . I immediately reported it to my Admin. Whom of course reported to all proper channels. Now a big investigation is going on. We both, along with the client got questioned today by investigators. We are very adiment about this person safety! Have any of you frens been through this? This is my first time. How can i help my client? They are high functioning mentally challenged. Also, how can my admin and i keep ourselves safe? All advice is appreciated. Thank you.
See to it that this case does not get shelved as commonly happens. Then you will have done your due diligence. And for those who wirk at nursing homes, keep an eye on your own co-workers too, sorry to say. Especially the ones who are responsible for doing rhe bathing that takes place in a certain area of the facility. In particular, the bathing being done on females that are taken in that area via Hoyer and in a sling. Use your imagination. This is the voice of experienced observation speaking. Families need to be very, very aware. If a female in a facility keeps getting "UTI"s it is highly likely that a male worker is repeatedly raping them.
Good Lord, that’s freaking terrible.
When my mom was in skilled nursing after a fall, and then again after a stroke, UTIs were always running rampant. And a lot of times it's because the patients are having sex.
oh lord. this is horrific. my MIL was in a memory care ward, and had frequent UTIs. Jesus help us. I cannot tell my spouse this.
I'm so sorry. The information and things that go on are so new to me, I usually do home health. This breaks my heart. Now I'm involved in a case. But, I know I did the right thing. God bless you fren . We have to fight for those who can't fight for themselves.
You absolutely did the right thing. you gave a voice to one that could not speak. you gave evidence and symptoms to look for to help the silent. i guarantee more on this board didn’t think this would possibly be a vulnerable spot.
had i known, i would have approached my MIL care in a different way. she passed years back. but i recall her frequent UTIs as being weird. Sex and a catheter were the only 2 logical conclusion i had. who gets it on with strange at that age? but everyone dismissed sex between residents at the home. i now shudder to think that her caregivers…
it’s ugly. thank you for being brave.
My Mom was in a facility too, got a lot of UTIs, however they had zero male employees and it was a small facility. I don't think UTIs are a guarantee of abuse.
That is a much better thought than the one i had and the conclusion i drew! thanks for the perspective
Elderly patients, especially women, frequently get UTIs. In fact UTIs can often make dementia worse before it is treated. It has more to do w lack of estrogen and is not necessarily indicative of assault.
Can confirm. Even in males, UTI will make a an early dementia patient look like they are completely demented overnight. Clear up the UTI and they come back to the functional level they were previously on.
Isn’t it fascinating? Thanks for the reply
Thank is comforting. Thank you for the insight.
As a social worker, I see police and even other social services workers just say well this person is mentally challenged so they’re likely confused or don’t know what they’re saying. Best thing one can do is advocate for mental functioning and capacity. Speak to their abilities, awareness, orientation to time/space/place, etc. then just always keep an eye on them.
I will, I keep a notebook and pen at all times. Thank you for the reminder. All info is much appreciated! God bless.
Conceal carry, make sure you have lights and cameras outside your home, a good and sturdy fence. Have a good guard dog.
Thank you fren, we are Patriots! Home is well protetected.
Now, I also hope you are not in a woke city where they ask you run away when someone invade your home.
Portland is bad. They don't want you to fight back but ask you to run away.
I live in bum fuck Egypt! LOL pardon my French. South GA. We are Patriots down here. And have Q painted on the side of buildings!
Oh don't say things like that. At least you are not in Egypt the country nor Portland or Seattle.
Lol
Ps. We have 4
Great.
Oh yes. And a ya know in every corner. ;)
Amen.
That's right!
One of the challenges of accusations from mentally handicapped or dementia patients is they can be made to believe certain things from suggestions by a manipulative nurse who has a vendetta towards someone else. Obviously not saying that’s the case here but can’t rule that out either. There are some devious psychopaths out there
Very true. The client had admittedly told the previous admin and aide, unbeknownst to myself or the new administration nurse. Until I reported it. Then, all this info came out that it had been going on for smh, crying, can't sleep, a long time. I'm so mad, upset etc... and beyond! As you can imagine.
So the daycare did a previous investigation already? But they didn’t get rid of the assailant?
No, this is the first time it's been reported! I did My Job! My Admin did hers! The previous Did NOT! Now there is a big investigation! Thanks to moi!
The aide who's been there longer than me, admitted, he's told her. But since she didn't have since enough nor did her old boss to do the right thing. Now it falls on myself and the new administration. Since I reported it. I've been there 2 weeks. Other aide been there 9 mnths! Explain that to me. I can't sleep. I'm heart broken.
Most humans are weak and incompetent. Stay strong fren and watch your back.
I came here to say the same thing! We all know about manipulating systems to accuse the innocent. Doesn't seem that way in this case but we always got to keep an eye out
Prayers for you, your admin, the client and for the justice to be served here. Keep your strength up, be prepared for anything, and make sure you protect yourself in terms of due diligence, paperwork, etc. Dont give them an inch to complain about.
I am sure other Anons here can provide you more solid advice!
Thank you so very much! More than you know Fren.
My admin and I feel like little voices. But, as funny as it sounds, I hear Trump saying return the diamonds! I think he means the trafficked kids. But... what about, the people ie.. with no voices also? Idk?
Not just kids but adults are trafficked too.You did the right thing, sounds like you have a good admin too. Stay strong.
This kind of shit shouldn't happen. Elderly abuses are very common but I am glad you are standing up and start the investigation.
Thank you, yes, I started it. I will always do what's right!
I spoke to my mom who is retired from working at an Adult Day Care. We thought one of the best solutions is to get the victim removed from the offender by having the Client placed in a group home. Most of these are 6 clients to a house. With a supervised Nurse at all times. There usually is a waiting list, but due to the emergency situation and with the help of your Facility you can get this fast tracked.
We are trying to do that. Thank you and your mom.
Yes this is common. Women that are plagued with dementia or some other mental issue literally have to be bathed and cleaned obviously with their clothes off. Naked. If male workers and the nursing homes are inundated with Filipinos and blacks, happen to be male, and many women even of an older age can be quite blessed body wise, you can see what could happen.
Personally I don't think a man should be taking care of a woman in such a state. It should be women care givers only.
Which brings up another point. Why do women see male doctors? Really? You do know male doctors are ordinary men? Yet you'll strip your clothes off and bare all to a man? Come on man er woman.
Great job catching this scum and reporting. I have a special needs son, currently he just goes to school and I believe he is safe there, but I am always looking for signs of abuse.
I have not been through anything like this, I don't have any advice. Just wanted to say thank you.
Thank you God Bless You!