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How do you think I became a psych nurse?
My family? No. Of course I'm in contact with them. They are all nutz. The only thing I've ever done that's helpful is to take care of myself.
How about in your professional capacity of treating and observing patients? Most pros I’ve heard say that NPD is virtually unrecoverable because an inherent property of the disorder is denying any personal flaws or faults, so the sufferer doesn’t see the need to improve.
I’ve had several sociopaths in my life, and they do cause damage to other peoples psyche. It’s taken me the urge to recuperate from the mental abuse from these people. ; I am armed and ready now. I am very well trained in there, tactics, and I can see it a mile away. It has been really helpful during this great awakening, to be able to see the evil in the world and how these people operate.
No, when I interact with people, I can spot a sociopath a mile away. I know how to manage them, and it really bothers them a lot. As soon as you break down the argument, and just let them sit in their own personality, it makes him extremely uncomfortable. They need to have power over you, as soon as that is gone, they’re stuck with themselves, and they don’t like what they see.
Key Tactics: Gaslighting; this is one of their main forms of attack. They can gaslight you into believing what is truth is a lie, then they win. The world is operating this way right now on a grand scale.
Lies; for Gaslighting to be affective, everything has to be a lie! These people lie so easily, and they actually believe their own lies. This reinforces the sociopathic tendencies.
Confusion; the more people are confused, the easier it is to manipulate them, and to move them into the person you want them to be. This is the entire objective of a sociopath, to control you and mold you into their own image.
Do the above tactics seem familiar to you? Yes, because they’re from satan. He is the father of all lies, the father of confusion, and the father of trying to mold you into himself.
It’s all out war right now! Put on your armor, and enter in to the presence of the living God.
Although my experiences with those people were heartbreaking and mentally damaging, I have come out the other side… And guess what! God will use what happened to me for good now. I’m able to withstand the mental psyop of this fifth generation of warfare.
My mental illness has actually been the best weapon against all of this madness. I am aware! I am so grateful that God has used my pain and suffering for good now.
Thank you Jesus for loving me, and getting me through some of the most difficult times in life. I have come out the other side victorious! Thank you, Jesus.
Wow, that’s crazy. I’m happy that you did not get involved with that person, because it does cause damage to other people around them. You don’t become a Sociopath expert, without having scars to show it. Lol.
I am grateful that my cousin is no longer in my life, he was really bad. My husband was one of them as well, and it was really sad because he did have a heart that could care for people, but the damage he caused to me mentally, was almost insurmountable.
I’m sorry to say this, but I’m kind of glad he passed away, because I would’ve been stuck with him for the rest of my life. Whether we were married or not. God has a plan, and I have to stick with that.
But I can spot a sociopath a mile away. I am very well trained. It’s funny because sometimes I’ll meet somebody for the first time, and I’ll know exactly who they are. Sometimes I call them out to their face as well. I just tell them straight up… I’m very well trained in sociopathic tendencies… Move along. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🔥
In Elly May voice: "Gosh, I hope there are no narcissists on GAW!" 😮
After learning about narcissism and how it works in relationships, I have come to the conclusion there have been times in my life I was a narcissists chew toy. That love bombing technique that they use, when I had been most vulnerable, caused me a lot of anguish and doubt and confusion. It does not have to be a romanitc relationship, good friends can do it also, when you find yourself giving and giving and giving, then wake up one day and ask for something from them, even if it is just to be responsible for their share of a workload, or emotional support, and find the well is dry. Their need for attention and supply feels toxic, unsettling, and exhausting.. and setting boundaries for yourself usually turns into an even more toxic situation, yep, been there, have the pamphlets and receipts.
I dated a bunch of narcissists. My parents both had narcissistic tendencies along with at least one sibling. They are everywhere!!!
Here is really good book on emotional abuse I have had cause to buy it for a couple of people I know.
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/289845/why-does-he-do-that-by-lundy-bancroft/
It lays out all the red flags and you will be able to translate in real time what a manipulator really means when he says things.
They do not respect boundaries, if they want you as a supply. They will do this by love bombing, telling you how wonderful you are, how you are the only one who "gets" them, will slip in things to impress you which may be hard to believe (because they are not true). They will do this in spite of the fact you may be busy, they will pull you away from whatever you are doing, to tell you they love you, to ask for a favor, to 'need " to talk, it does not matter what you are doing, they don't care about what you are doing, not one iota, but they do care that you are available to them whenever, because in their eyes, they are the most important thing that matters. If you do something to claim your own space or time, they will give you the silent treatment.They are superficial, not deep at all.They want all your time and energy.
When people love bomb from day one. This doesn't just apply to dating it applies to all types of relationships. You have to stay a little detached and ask yourself "does this person know me well enough to be making such positive judgments about me?" It's so flattering for a new boss to single you out but what you find out a few months later is that it isn't to help you it's to isolate you from others, manipulate and control you.
I have an inner sense. It was always there I just never knew I was supposed to pay attention to what my gut was saying. Just those tiny uncomfortable twinges, you have to pay attention to them.
I contend in convo with girlfriends who have gone through similar relationships that God has been preparing us all along. After all the experience with narcs we are now the Watchers on the Wall for the current culture. We spot them easily...
Sorry this isn't very specific. I could write a book but there are already plenty of books out there. Bottom line is you won't change them but you can change how you interact with them. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. They won't like that. Do it anyway.