Let me respond by telling you that I know exactly how you feel and before you say there is no way...trust me, I know.
I got pregnant at 19 and had my son at 20 - father did not want to get married.
I then married an Air Force guy after 5 months of knowing him.
He left for Vietnam six weeks after we married. I did not know him and found out that he was a violent man after a couple of years upon his return from the service.
We had two more sons and after 15 years of being hit and hurt and just horrible things I found the strength to divorce him.
I then married a younger man who was unfaithful and after 15 years with him, I divorced him.
After many years the father of my first son came back into my life and we have been married for many, many years and happy as two people can be.
Why am I telling you this? Because as bad as things may seem now, GOD has a way of steering you in the right direction.
From your story and having gone through my divorces I have to tell you that as happy as you were in the beginning, the signs you have told us indicate that this woman has found someone else.
Her screaming at the children indicate to me that she is struggling herself.
Sometime shame and fear can cause the anger to occur.
I know that for me and what I went through with both of my husbands, they were angry, violent, and destructive. GOD brought me through those horrible years.
I don't know how old you are but it took me 15 years for my first marriage and 15 years for my second marriage.
And now I have made it 22 years with the man I should have married in 1964. GOD knew it would not work back then and HE wanted me to have my two other sons. Both of which are angels.
I wish you the best and pray for you, but although I am not a Doctor, my human suggestion would be to "let her go" and give GOD a chance to turn your life around.
If you want to discuss further, please feel free to DM me.
Aumone
As I said before, GOD will open the path for you as long as you let HIM. I did leave out a lot of what I physically went through with both of my first marriages; way too horrid to put in writing.
But as I said before I would be happy to work with you privately if you wish to do so.
GOD Bless you!
One idea... try sitting quietly by yourself and look within. Do this peaceful activity once a day. You have all the answers to your questions inside you. This has saved my life and continues to do so. Remember, you really don't know if something is good or if something is bad, so don't label events that take place. Some even say there are no mistakes. That often makes me feel better! Watch and wait for opportunities. They will arrive. Blessings to you on your amazing journey.
My wife and I are both on our third marriages. Your post was too long for me to read it all but know the gist. We have been together 20 years now and thank God, we found each other. Accept what is happening and find someone who loves you the way you deserve. I never had children of my own but have raised many. My marriages have been 12 years, 7 years and 20 years. My wife is 6 years older and first she married 4 years younger so hers were longer. You have no idea who God will put in your life including special needs children that you only help right the ship that is their parents for a year or two.
I'm sorry, fren, but I had to pull your post due to the buymeacoffee link. The rules in the sidebar make it clear that we do not permit fundraising on this site. If you would like to repost this without the link, that would be fine.
Sorry for the difficult time. The dream was God's warning to you of what was happening in your marriage. So God is aware of what is going on in your life and He is the one that want to spend intimate time with you and He can supply all your emotional needs. Go back to His Word, Seeking God and His ways as you go through the refining fire. You have the gift of Mercy, I believe, which is why you go out of your way to help people. The scripture also calls for you to love yourself. So, if you are not making sure you have enough to make ends meet, then that is something you need to seek God's wisdom for. You write a lot so people will understand you. But you can go to God and you don't need all this writing because God already knows what is going on with you. But it's time you seek God's guidance now. Not man's.
My advise is to surround yourself with other Christians, and definitely a men’s Bible Study. Read Gods word daily, and get involved with your church.
You have alot of child hood trauma that needs to be addressed - and only the Lord can heal that, however: look into some Christian counseling. You have many wounds to heal, and hope you find the right path moving forward.
I can say that my later in life breakdown was difficult- but I’ve come out the other side a much more joyful and grounded Christian! Finally living my best life!
It sounds like you'd make a good pastor or something, but in order to help others you need to take care of yourself first. Giving what you have in excess is fine, energetically or monetarily but don't let anyone take advantage of you. You'll be able to help more people if you set up a non profit or get trained as a pastor than you would by just giving away money that you don't have.
For food, go food bank, food stamp/ebt (my city if u make under $2400 a month would still qualify for it or under $3288 a month for two persons) non profits organization etc (trader Joe or supermarkets would donate groceries it gone bad)
If qualify for is there Lifeline internet and Obama phone u could apply? Internet $100 can be cut, unless there is not public library or free internet near u…
Look of Rental Assistance Demonstration (RAD) from local government agencies or nonprofits agencies, my city $7k to $10k max once every 5yrs, free and no need repayment until ran out then it turn into loan …
Let me respond by telling you that I know exactly how you feel and before you say there is no way...trust me, I know.
I got pregnant at 19 and had my son at 20 - father did not want to get married. I then married an Air Force guy after 5 months of knowing him.
He left for Vietnam six weeks after we married. I did not know him and found out that he was a violent man after a couple of years upon his return from the service. We had two more sons and after 15 years of being hit and hurt and just horrible things I found the strength to divorce him.
I then married a younger man who was unfaithful and after 15 years with him, I divorced him.
After many years the father of my first son came back into my life and we have been married for many, many years and happy as two people can be.
Why am I telling you this? Because as bad as things may seem now, GOD has a way of steering you in the right direction.
From your story and having gone through my divorces I have to tell you that as happy as you were in the beginning, the signs you have told us indicate that this woman has found someone else.
Her screaming at the children indicate to me that she is struggling herself.
Sometime shame and fear can cause the anger to occur.
I know that for me and what I went through with both of my husbands, they were angry, violent, and destructive. GOD brought me through those horrible years.
I don't know how old you are but it took me 15 years for my first marriage and 15 years for my second marriage.
And now I have made it 22 years with the man I should have married in 1964. GOD knew it would not work back then and HE wanted me to have my two other sons. Both of which are angels.
I wish you the best and pray for you, but although I am not a Doctor, my human suggestion would be to "let her go" and give GOD a chance to turn your life around.
If you want to discuss further, please feel free to DM me. Aumone
As I said before, GOD will open the path for you as long as you let HIM. I did leave out a lot of what I physically went through with both of my first marriages; way too horrid to put in writing. But as I said before I would be happy to work with you privately if you wish to do so. GOD Bless you!
all i know.....when a woman says .....i think we need to go our separate ways and see other people.......she already is
One idea... try sitting quietly by yourself and look within. Do this peaceful activity once a day. You have all the answers to your questions inside you. This has saved my life and continues to do so. Remember, you really don't know if something is good or if something is bad, so don't label events that take place. Some even say there are no mistakes. That often makes me feel better! Watch and wait for opportunities. They will arrive. Blessings to you on your amazing journey.
Not trying to be a dick, but you, yourself, need therapy. Most therapists have programs for low cost sessions. Even phone therapy.
Best wishes and prayers.
My wife and I are both on our third marriages. Your post was too long for me to read it all but know the gist. We have been together 20 years now and thank God, we found each other. Accept what is happening and find someone who loves you the way you deserve. I never had children of my own but have raised many. My marriages have been 12 years, 7 years and 20 years. My wife is 6 years older and first she married 4 years younger so hers were longer. You have no idea who God will put in your life including special needs children that you only help right the ship that is their parents for a year or two.
Prayers on the way fren,
Love you brother. Thanks for sharing your heart and testimony. Praying for you. Feel free to reach out in Dm f you ever need a fren to vent to
I'm sorry, fren, but I had to pull your post due to the buymeacoffee link. The rules in the sidebar make it clear that we do not permit fundraising on this site. If you would like to repost this without the link, that would be fine.
Sorry for the difficult time. The dream was God's warning to you of what was happening in your marriage. So God is aware of what is going on in your life and He is the one that want to spend intimate time with you and He can supply all your emotional needs. Go back to His Word, Seeking God and His ways as you go through the refining fire. You have the gift of Mercy, I believe, which is why you go out of your way to help people. The scripture also calls for you to love yourself. So, if you are not making sure you have enough to make ends meet, then that is something you need to seek God's wisdom for. You write a lot so people will understand you. But you can go to God and you don't need all this writing because God already knows what is going on with you. But it's time you seek God's guidance now. Not man's.
My advise is to surround yourself with other Christians, and definitely a men’s Bible Study. Read Gods word daily, and get involved with your church.
You have alot of child hood trauma that needs to be addressed - and only the Lord can heal that, however: look into some Christian counseling. You have many wounds to heal, and hope you find the right path moving forward.
I can say that my later in life breakdown was difficult- but I’ve come out the other side a much more joyful and grounded Christian! Finally living my best life!
It sounds like you'd make a good pastor or something, but in order to help others you need to take care of yourself first. Giving what you have in excess is fine, energetically or monetarily but don't let anyone take advantage of you. You'll be able to help more people if you set up a non profit or get trained as a pastor than you would by just giving away money that you don't have.
For food, go food bank, food stamp/ebt (my city if u make under $2400 a month would still qualify for it or under $3288 a month for two persons) non profits organization etc (trader Joe or supermarkets would donate groceries it gone bad)
If qualify for is there Lifeline internet and Obama phone u could apply? Internet $100 can be cut, unless there is not public library or free internet near u…
Look of Rental Assistance Demonstration (RAD) from local government agencies or nonprofits agencies, my city $7k to $10k max once every 5yrs, free and no need repayment until ran out then it turn into loan …