This decision can have such long term ramifications. I don’t mean to sound harsh but this is going to affect me now and I am stunned she did this without even consulting me. She knows how strong I feel about this and we could have talked about this together.
I know why she got the vaccine and I know her hands were tied. She didn’t want to get it and I would have held her hand and went through all lawsuits possible to get justice.
I might not be able to have kids with her.
If she'll do this behind your back, what else will she do behind your back?
I get that maybe she felt like she had no choice, but she could have at least had the honesty and courage to tell you before she got it.
It comes down to respect— no one who has respect for another would do such— enough said.
Correct ..respect and loyalty is ...LOVE..she failed at both! Saying I love you is like saying I hate you, just different emotions ..my Fren , I’m a female , I’m also a Marriage family therapist .if you don’t run from this , I’ll See you in a few years! Be grateful that you aren’t married .. you are already making excuses for her deceptive betrayal..”..you said “ I understand why she did it “ I hear that with infidelity issues a lot !
“Her hands were tied” . Her hands are supposed to be tied to you not the establishment ! So her job and money were important enough to her to make the decision to be disloyal to you ....you mention ..she could have spoken to you first ..so you are setting up yourself to dismiss this . You will here I’m so sorry , I didn’t want you to worry , I knew what you would say bla bla .. family turned against each other in other times in history, without TRUST you do not have a commitment....I suggest you listen to WHAT you said and understand that you need to dig deep into your own heart and soul because you are already making excuses for betrayal , disloyalty and STUPIDITY . Dear God man , let that sink in !
Pls OP listen to the above comment if you can't hear any other! I'm writing from experience. I ignored the small betrayals, thinking I was being a good husband. I want to go back in time just to kick the ever living shit out of my younger self for ignoring all the red flags! If you made a post about your misgivings, that should tell you that your situation isn't right.
I also had a fiancé that did things like this without telling me. I also ignored all the red flags until I had about 5+ on my mind. I began to question what I should do and then presented this stuff to someone I knew that would tell me like it is. They said what I thought they would but they had a good perspective and enough info to give good advice. Internet buddies don’t always know enough about the situation but it can still help. I would just add that OP should ask a friend that will be blunt and has years on you.
Been there, done that. Amen. THIS.
Sorry, but I think this is a big betrayal. It's not like: "Honey I bought the purple shoes even though we're short for bills this month".
It's literally a matter of life and death. It's also a big dent in trust.
Some things to consider:
-You and she were going to spend a life together. Is she your soulmate?
-How long will she be healthy? If she becomes an invalid will you take care of her?
-Will you be exposed to the spike protein?
-Do you want a family?
-Can she get pregnant in the future? Will there be miscarriages or birth defects? (The jab knocks out Syncytin which women need to make and maintain a placenta).
-Can you trust her? Does she make wise decisions? Will she be a smart wife?
The information is still new and evolving. A brilliant finding may reverse the jab. Right now it doesn't look too good. Perhaps they'll find a way of blocking the mRNA from making cells CONTINUOSLY churn out spike proteins. NAC will help the body remove the Graphene Oxide from the jab. Good Luck, fren.
I agree
I hope he listens to wisdom because we are told find wisdom above all else ,, you gave him wisdom if this young man can't understand that he'll someday also wish he could go back in time! I too would smack the piss out of my young self for my mistakes, I didn't listen to advice and regret is a powerful destructive force. "If only " that's our mantra and will be his as well if he doesn't heed to your wisdom !
It's hard for someone to respect others when they have no respect for themselves.....
Amen
They think they're being honest by telling you after they get it, when they know no matter the argument what's done is done.
Rather apologize after the fact instead of having the discussion before hand and given the chance to make a different decision. So in other words it's what she wanted to do in the first place because she didn't say anything upfront, and figures she will be forgiven after the deed was done and can't be changed.
Yup. Definitely a red flag from someone you are planning on marrying.
Asking for forgiveness instead of permission. I forgive you now pack your shit.
You mean WHO else will she do.
This is the best, balanced answer. The big problem is the fact that she did it behind your back. I'd be very careful from now on.
My gf got the vaccine, but we talked about it first. Told her she could quit, I'd support 100% emotionally and financially. She's not a fighter at all, her doctor boss made her crack up. I'm not happy at all about this, but there was no secrecy