Tldr: Shes stressed about her job, relationship, money, house, and mental health
Help for Coworker?
My coworker, is going through a lot in a bad relationship.
Her boyfriend is unfaithful, engaging in virtual cheating and gaslighting her. They jointly own a house, but she pays rent, and her finances are strained due to a low-paying, stressful job with an abusive boss.
This situation is taking a toll on her mental health, causing frequent crying and illness. She is actively searching for better job opportunities to improve her circumstances and needs prayers and help for success in her job applications.
She seeks the courage to leave her abusive boyfriend, who threatens to leave her homeless if she does so.
He pays for the car, gave her leeway about rent, and is decent when other women don't come up.
Any advice on what to do for her safety, strength, and the courage to make positive changes in her life?
Before, she didn't want to leave because she said she wanted to build a life with him, but after she saw the messages and things he was paying for, she talked with me a bit to figure out what to do.
She's disappointed about the relationship and doesn't want to leave her dog, i think hes in both their names, but the arguing about the women is taking a toll.
She's almost 30.
I gave her some places to check out, a women's shelter etc. online resources and told her to continue saving money and keep job-hunting.
I can't do much since I'm in school and the apt I'm in is shared with 5 other people.
Heavenly FATHER we come before YOU on behalf of our sister Fiona. We ask that you fill her life with miracles, signs and wonders. Grant her heavenly visitations, angelic visitations, visions and dreams. We ask that YOU heal her mind, her body - cleanse her soul. FATHER please send YOUR holy warring angels and all angels of every ranking and division to surround and protect her. Blind the enemy to her. Envelope her in YOUR love and goodness. We ask for YOUR kingdom supply in every area of her life. Give her a heart of flesh and set it on fire with love for YOU. Gift her YOUR spirit of boldness, YOUR spirit of valor. Make her strong and courageous. We ask all these things for our sister in the Mighty NAME of JESUS. Thank YOU and Amen.
God bless you Fiona 🙏❤️
Thank you.
She should take a year's sabatical that requires little or no money. Look for a place similar to this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YOXkcz8j3Gc
Thanks
Amen great prayer fren
Amen
I was in a similar situation. Married early 20s to a guy who had to keep up with the Jones"s. I had great credit. Would convince me to put things on my credit card and he'd pay me back when he got his bonus from army reserves. (never happened). Felt pressured to get married and start a family. I married but knew I wasn't financially sound to have a kid. We had a house we couldn't afford. No savings. He went out and blew the only 1k we had saved on tattoos. He drove on his motorcycle drunk. He stopped coming home when I said I wasn't ready for a baby. The final straw was when my mom went into the hospital, then into a coma for 30 days. My then husband came to visit her 1x. I decided to divorce and, no lie, my mom woke from her coma.
I decided I would rather be single and fix my finances than to deal with a total jerk. I went back to finish my second degree at 26. I luckily sold the house for a profit and paid off my credit cards. All I had was student loan debt. When we split the house sale, he went to live his parents and he bought a boat. Lol.
I went to live in a nicer apt but still too much for one person could afford.
I met my now husband, going back to school. I wasn't interested in a relationship but it happened when I least expected it. We moved in together in a small 300sq ft studio with no heat or ac. It was miserable but worth it. He helped me get my finances on track. We saved money and now we have been together for over 15 years..
Best decision in my life was just to leave someone so toxic.
You teach people how to treat you.
It's not easy. But you learn from your mistakes and become a stronger person. She knows what she needs to do in her heart. She just needs reassurance everything will work out.
Idk where she's located but there's a pretty decent companies hiring, some even just require HS diploma, but excellent benefits. More job openings are coming open as well.
Hope it works out for her.
You're very strong. God bless.
Do you have a couch she can crash on? If she's paying the rent, and is half owner she may need the law involved. She leaves, she could be left with the bill but she can do bankruptcy. She has decisions to make and needs to think about her personal safety. I pray she finds a road that leads to safety and mental peace.
Right. Shes tight on money; hence the job hunting.
I don't have a couch. I share an apt. with 5 other people
Bless you! You're a good friend.
May God guide her and help her through this trying period so she may find the peace and joy He intends.
Amen
Praying for her. She may need an "angel" too, a brave and resourceful friend who can help in a material way, like getting shelter away from the boyfriend or finding a legal backup to get her value from the house as a stake to neutralize the boyfriend's threat of homelessness. Not that that will guarantee the end of him, he probably won't like his victim leaving. Leaving the abusive boss is as important, between the two of them the money situation is paralyzing her.
Yeah, I'm trying to go help as much as I can. I don't know much. I'm a student
She's looking at other jobs. She's applying
Be careful.
Heavenly Father, You know exactly what path Fiona needs to follow. Please open doors, hearts and minds to give her a clear vision of the decisions she should make. Place Godly opportunities in her path and give her the courage to take them. 🙏
Women's shelters should be helpful and they usually have attorneys who offer pro Bono services to someone in her situation who can help with the dog.
Been there, done that except for the money part. I know she is hurting, but now is the time to get ANGRY. Now is the time to tell yourself that 'this ain't gonna beat me.' She may have to take a loss with the car, the house and perhaps her much loved dog, but God will take care of her. Psalms 147:3 says 'He heals the broken-hearted and bandages their wounds.' and Psalms 34:18 says, 'The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and delivers those whose spirit has been crushed.'
Our Heavenly Father, I pray today for a young woman who is walking down a path that I myself have been down. I pray for her heart to be mended, her crying to cease, and joy to fill her soul once more. Give her the strength to pick herself up and shake off the bindings in her life that hold her there. Let her know that you are with her and that she will not fail. Make her much stronger and give her more financial support than she can imagine. And please Lord, place the man you wish her to have in her path and let her know he is the chosen one from you. I thank and praise you Lord for all that you have done and given as I ask this in the name of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen.
We cry out to God for her, she is in your hands God. Please direct her steps and help her find rest. I pray for her to find a Godly husband and partner who provides and protects. Bring along side her mentors who can guide her down a better path with you Lord.
Thanks, amen
You’re sweet ❤️
Sending prayers for your friend 🙏🏻
Prayers sent. May God's light and love illuminate and guide her.
Amen
She'll be in my prayers.
Prayers going up now fren. God bless u
Praying for Fiona.
“The word of the Lord you have spoken is good,” Hezekiah replied. For he thought, “There will be peace and security in my lifetime.” Isaiah 39:8
Does she have any relatives? You never know if even a distant relative can help. And if the situation is dire, it may be worth the trip to move out.
She has a cousin in SF, but that's hours away
Find a storage if have important stuff, if not, easy, just go w backpack or luggage.
Look for woman shelter, some place help transitioning to permanent housing. From there she could her brand new life.
Don’t wait if it is physical abuse. Verbal abuse can still buy some time.
She needs to get a pfa and name the house as place he cant go. Then leverage him to buy her out so she can restart her life. I have a coworker going through similar things. Prayers for her today. Life is too short to live like that. God bless. 💜🕊💜
No money though :/
Is there any alcohol or drugs involved by the BF? Al-anon may be helpful if so.
Not sure; but a lot of p*rn addiction?
She needs to dump that ungrateful loser. She is worth more than to be treated in such a way. That man is not worth saving, and it is not her job to "fix" him, he's got to figure that out on his own and get good with God as well. She deserves better than that. Please tell her that chucking that guy out of her life will greatly improve a number of things instantly, even if it hurts her to break up with him now. God will see her struggle and help her find a real man who will value her and help build the life she dreams of together. God bless her and I hope she finds happiness.
She's aware of that but has no money, and he pays for the car. The house is in both their names and the job she works at is 2 hours away from her hone.
Do you and her work at a place with a manager or the likes? Sometimes the help could be right in front of her. Maybe you both sit down with your place of business and talk about options. And just start with, she needs help. There are great people out there. We just have to learn to ask for help from those we see from day to day. For myself pride gets in the way. But hopefully, if I require assistance, I will humble myself enough to ask. It’s very difficult I know.
Maybe you and her could get a place? Maybe with one more roommate as well? To help with finances.
I hope all goes well for her. I know in my heart if she really gives this to the Lord, her needed strength and best advice will arrive. God bless both of y’all.
Our boas makes it known that she doesn't like my coworker and has encouraged her to almost quit numerous times.