Again, I'm sorry but I have NO ONE to help me. I've prayed and prayed and I don't know what to do. I will probably get ridiculed for this but I literally don't have a choice. I need advice . My son and only child is deeply into drugs and alcohol is on a fast downward spiral . I HAVE TO SAVE HIM. What can I do?
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Have you thought about asking Mike Lindell's people to help, they run drug rehabilitation programs.
https://lindellrecoverynetwork.org/
Yes I did think of it but I didn't have the link. Thank you. I also hope someone on here has had an addiction or a child with one and could tell me what they did. I'm thinking of doing something that's I guess, pretty extreme but I'm not sure that I should.
I have little knowledge of addiction to anything, or family members, but don't ever give up fighting. Not sure what you are thinking of doing, but I'm sure help is out there. God bless.
Lord, I lift this young man up to you. An only son that has lost his way. Please place around his shoulders your cloak of protection on his life. May his Mother be comforted knowing that there are many people praying for him right now. I bind the evil that is holding him captive by asking that your blood shield him from temptation. Give him your strength because he cannot fight this battle on his own. Give him courage to fight each new day. Give him hope Lord that he may see his future with a clear mind and a heart yearning to be free of those things that have caused much grief to many, especially his Mother, but more to himself. And Lord, may he feel your peace, the peace that passes all understanding as he battles enemies unseen, but very real in a physical way. We thank you that we can come to you and lay our burdens at your feet. This burden is too much for this Mother to bear. Lift her Lord today and give her your comfort and your strength and remind her that she is never alone when she places these burdens at your feet. May she feel your love today, as I pray this in your precious Sons name, Jesus Christ. Amen.
Thank you. I'm sooooo tired......
I cannot imagine the pain you are living. I will continue to pray for you and your son. God Bless.
Thank you.
You don't want to hear this, but tough love. You can help him most by cutting him off and letting him fall. You can't fix him. Only he can fix himself and he never ever will if you don't let him fall.on his ass and get desperate enough to change. It sucks. I did it to mine and he's great now. Hardest couple years of my life. It had to be done. Pray ceaselessly. Only God can save him. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Drug use may result from sadness. Maybe try to wake him up and make him eat every day. And have some good food thrown in maybe like a treat or pick-me-up. They say chocolate and diet coke makes you feel good. Simple enjoyable tasks might also lead to a feeling of accomplishment. Talk therapy, even, between you and him. I am not very experienced with addiction, but these things might help the underlying causes.
He's VERY sad and depressed because his girlfriend of 3 years ( who played constant mind games with him) broke up with him. He's gotten into drugs and alcohol before for short periods of time and then got clean. This time is the worst by FAR. He's a danger to himself and to me. He goes for like 24 hours then sleeps for maybe 2 or 3 and then goes for another 24 to 48 hours and very little eating. Can't get him councilling because he is un'vaxxed' and he wouldn't go anyway.
Sometimes depression makes one lose appetite. I agree with the nutrition part though.
People's brains don't fully wire into the adult configuration until 25 or so I reckon, especially men.
Mine was later than that.
23 is the kind of age where you can get very depressed because you can't quite assemble all your emotions and the world seems very daunting.
When he gets though this period, he'll seem like a different person (in a good way).
He probably needs vitamin c,d and exercise as well. Alcohol consumption lowers B group vitamins too. He may need some dietary iodine too.
You sound like a very supportive parent.
I HAVE TO SAVE HIM. He's ALL I have. And he's my son, if I don't save him no one will. There is no one else who cares about him. Literally. I can't live if he dies. I will try the NAC but I know he won't stop taking the drugs unless I force the situation. I am afraid going cold turkey will cause his heart to stop or something but I don't know what else to do.
Almost a month and a half. He's talked about it with me but he's addicted. He said he would ween himself off but he isn't. A lot of bad actors have come out of the woodwork to be 'buddies' with him. To use him. They are all drunks and addicts that are pretending to be his friends. They are connected to some VERY bad dangerous people. We are in VERY real danger in more than one way.
Getting him away from them is essential. They are also dangerous to you.
I will get him to take it but I'm not sure it will help unless he quits the drugs. And the only way he is going to do that is if I physically detain him. How much per day?
He needs some form of rehab. Call Lindell and see if they can help at all. My brother was addicted to heroine. He has been clean for over 5 years now. He went to rehab but it was only one of those 30 day deals. He came home and was up to his same nonsense. Something snapped in him and he got counseling and quit the drug. Under no circumstances should you give him money. Offer to take him to rehab. Where is he getting money? I am sorry you have to go through this. I know it is not easy watching someone you love do this to themselves. God Bless
Give this a read.
https://www.aa.org/sites/default/files/2021-11/en_bigbook_chapt8.pdf
It's directed toward wives of alcoholics. I was in a similar situation, except I was the son and my mother was going completely crazy trying to "help" me. What she thought was helping was actually making it worse. The problem was that I didn't think I needed help because I didn't think I had a problem. That was something I had to figure out on my own and nothing in the world could have helped me until I saw the problem for myself. I eventually did, after a period of distancing myself from everyone who was trying to "help" me, basically they said fuck me, and I said fuck them,,, That only lasted a few months before I started causing my own problems and didn't have anyone left to blame, and that's when I did what I had to do to get help and clean up my act. When I first got sober and read "the big book" I remember thinking if my mother had read this chapter and took the advice I might have ended up in rehab sooner.
Try to find an ALANON meeting and just listen in, that may be what helps you out the most.
Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up. He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who neither feared God nor cared what people thought. And there was a widow in that town who kept coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’ “For some time he refused. But finally he said to himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think, yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’ ” And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust judge says. And will not God bring about justice for his chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off? I tell you, he will see that they get justice, and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?” Luke 18:1-8 NIV
https://bible.com/bible/111/luk.18.1-8.NIV
What is your child' s age?
23
Tobaccoroad. https://yewtu.be/watch?v=mfqq2Jkv64c
You cannot make someone clear up his act if there is no [de]claration of the will. All that you have left is your prayer and correct behavior. See prodigal son.
It worries you, bring it before God, leave it there.
He can't even concentrate or form any rational thought due to what he's doing and no sleep for days. The only thing I can think of is tying him up until it's out of his system. He finally fell asleep about an hour or so ago but as soon as he wakes up he will be back at it and on the go again for days if I don't do something.
An update with a few things. Some smartphone apps have shown to help with this
1.) Goal-based app; make any daily goal and a 7-step plan of action to accomplish it.
2.) Game that focuses on problem-solving aspect of the mind. (30 minutes per day 6 days a week) https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.projectevo.evo&hl=en_US&gl=US
3.) Daily heath tips for motivation (ex: Go walking, take a shower)
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5209607/ There may be better apps out there, do more research. I just read this study and those were the ones cited. From what I gathered 1 and 2 were the best of the 3, long-term.
Invest lots of time, reach out to whoever you can locally. I took my son to all sorts of random clinicians (psychologist, chiropractic, naturopathic, reiki) in the name of stress relief. It was time well spent, even if it was totally inefficient. The time together was key. I'd try classes too if they're open and in person. I'll join in prayer also.
I know a kid aged mid-20s who drinks beer a couple of times a week if meeting friends in the pub, but not at home. He sometimes does weed too. He seems fine to me and has steady job. Thing is though I know that his mum is worried about him and she thinks he is going off the rails. Not sure but I think she herself is teetotal actually so I guess she is sensitive to this sort of thing.
So I don't know you and I'm not saying anything, but maybe take a step back and take a hard look to make sure your son really does need saving from something. Sadly if he really does I don't think many parents have had a great outcome from trying to help in that situation.
If he was having the occasional beer and smoking some weed, I wouldn't be happy but I wouldn't be all that worried either. I'm talking vodka and meth. No sleep for days . been going on a month. He's gone from 160 pounds to 130. He's lost his job and is endangering his life and endangered mine a few days ago.
You're a saint for that. I am concerned about the support gang mom mentions. Meth heads have absolutely no compunction about taking anything. Beyond that I have no magic bullet to suggest, only that staying alive long enough eventually seems to work.