For one, I worry about the psychological effects. Second, I worry about the pedos and traffickers who use the site. Not to mention all the rest of it. My wife justifies it saying “it’s set on private and I can monitor everything and only their little friends can see it. She doesn’t want to hear me about how that really doesn’t matter when you look behind the scenes at the social media sites. Please send me some reputable and objective info about why these sites are so bad so I can show her. Thanks in advance.
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First of all, you have to be 13 years old.
Secondly, tiktok is CHINESE MALWARE, banned by the US Military. ( Chicoms have access to ALL content on tiktok. Likely can remotely activate mic and video camera, as well )
Thirdly, WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU GIVING YOUR CHILDREN SMART PHONES? YOU ARE EXPOSING THEM TO PEDOPHILES!!
Tell your wife every kid in school knows go arounds for your parental security.
https://life.gomcgill.com/tiktok-magnet-for-pedophiles-experts-warn-parents
All of this.
Yes. The easiest one is that it is literally illegal for any American company to allow a child under the age of 13 to open an account. There is a reason for that. Maybe you should have her read about COPPA - https://www.ftc.gov/enforcement/rules/rulemaking-regulatory-reform-proceedings/childrens-online-privacy-protection-rule
Or you could always report the account to Tik Tok and they will have to terminate it. :)
Hear hear. Personally, I could argue 13 being too young for "social media". But that's just my opinion.
They don’t have smart phones. My wife is letting them use her phone. I refuse to let them have smart phones.
Why are you letting an 8 year old on ANY social media account?
More importantly, why are you allowing your wife to unilaterally make that decision?
DING DING DING, WE HAVE A WINNER!
Her boyfriend said it was ok, he was outvoted 2:1
Be a man, say no and put the wife in her place.
End of story.
They will both thank you later.
Have you ever argued with a woman?
A million times it feels like. Yup.
I feel your pain.
Yes
https://thenationalpulse.com/analysis/tiktok-controlled-chinese-communist-party/ "TikTok Is Controlled By The Chinese Communist Party – Delete It."
https://protonmail.com/blog/tiktok-privacy/
An eight year old does not belong on media period. An eight year old belongs playing outside in joy and health, and doing chores, and being educated in the immutable truths.
Find your balls ffs OP.
You may be able to find them if you look in the jar on your wife's desk.
Don’t get it twisted. I’m not backing down from this. I’m just trying to communicate more effectively to get the point across in a meaningful way. Yelling and fighting will make her only want to let them do it more.
CHYNA
not sure if you are talking about using TikTok on a mobile phone or laptop or desktop PC or whatever.
But definitely, mobile phones shouldn't be coming anywhere near the ear/brain of a child. Heck I'm nearly 55 and wouldn't put one of those things next to my brain.
I would simply have her watch the documentary/ movie, " The Social Dilemna". It was created by ex employees at Facebook/ Twitter / Google and whatever other social media, I cant remember them all. It is entertaining and informative. It really opened my wife and my eyes. Some quick research should also show that most heads of social media do not allow their children to be on social media. That should speak for its self. Summation: there is very powerful AI behind these platforms, that are targetting our brains. For those of us who's brains are not finished developing it only compounds the dangers. Computers are getting smart, but they are not benevolent. I dont want my children to have to battle intellectually with them. Hope this helps. Save our kids.
I tried to get her to watch it. She isn’t interested.
You are insane for letting them have smart phones in the first place. Grow a set.
They don’t have phones. My wife is letting them use her phone to do it.
The CCP hoover it all up, every little but of it.
I hope this is a troll. So many disturbing facets to one story.
Are you serious? Man up and be the head of your household. It’s not an option. Simple as that.
I did. And it started a huge fight. I’m not backing down, I’m just trying to have some useful info to back up what I’m saying to help her understand.
8 year olds need to be outside eating boogers and stuff. not dancing around for pedos on tiktok,.
Yes. I agree 100% lol. Especially the boogers part hahaa
What you do is:
Then ... tell her there will be no Chinese spyware in your house
Then ... tell her you will take her and the kids out to dinner tonight, and to be sure to wear something nice.
Then ... go remove the Chinese spyware from your house, and take your kids outside to play.
Do not ask questions. Do not ask permission. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Just do what you were meant to do.
;-)
At the very least, I would suggest only allowing internet use in a family room. This way you can easily see what’s going on.
I am sorry that your concern wasn’t enough. It may be possible to communicate with her in a “we are husband and wife, why won’t you trust me?”
If she needs reasoning to k w why to say no then it's too late for your wife.
this is a bullshit post
notice how OP asked for advice and has not responded to a single comment
DISCORD SHILL baiting Patriots into slamming females like his imaginary wife and painting himself as a CUCK patriot
I'm a wife. I can say I prefer when my husband leads yet still have a hard time submitting sometimes. It can pay to think of direct and simple was of just listing your concerns, and then letting her think on it. She's probably the one in charge of the kids most, and I know that the allure of something that takes their attention and gives mom a break can be so big. I think maybe a compromise that might prove your point could be good. Perhaps you can ask her to make them get off all social media for a week, tell her you know it will be hard (and plan to give her an hour at least to herself sometimes midweek) and then see how they change. I bring it up because our own kids used to be SO screen focused and our older girl used kids messenger back when I was using Facebook and got pretty well addicted to it. Since myself and my husband left social media, so there was no access, the kids have really both stopped using their tablets much at all. It's partly a leadership thing: they saw parents feel better and have more fun and be more attentive without the screen. And it's partly that kids brains are so plastic that once you take away the addictive thing, they repair to health quickly. Now our kids play Barbies or do art or drive me crazy begging to get outside all day long instead. So, long story short, a social experiment might be worthwhile. Once she sees manners and attention spans improve and anxiety go down because of less stimuli, she might be more open. Also, we take our kids outside at home or to parks that are wooded and calm at least a few long hours a week. Children today lack the biorhythm stabilizing effects of being out in God's world.
8 year olds shouldn't be on the internet. Period. They should be outside playing with friends, riding bikes, kicking balls... etc etc.
The internet is not meant to replace good parenting.
They fm don’t have a phone. She’s letting them use it on her phone.
I can’t say I disagree with you. I absolutely know it will go down that road. We just had a big fight and I think I made my point. We’ll see what happens.
They will be brain dead by 12
It's a waste of time. Huge time suck. Put them in a class where they learn something and then have them practice when they get home. Getting your kid hooked on a dummy device is just bad parenting.
Ok, you didn't seem to get much here in the way of actual reference content, aside from OhWell's top post.
Here's a video I always pull out when someone asks the question you did, OP. It's not the best, but it's pretty good.
Stop Watching Tiktok by Moon
A man knows what is right and does what is right.
What a time it will be to live when the entire culture our country can be compressed into 60 seconds, or 150 characters.
"funkefresh82 3 months ago +1 / -1
Say what you want about TikTok... there’s a lot of stuff like this on there I’m not seeing anywhere else."
Guess he's on the Toc, based on his post....dont think he's a shill...asks lots of questions rather than checking things out for himself...but I would venture to say that as a user of the site, he should have the answer to his question...
Let’s see here… I’m an adult nearing 40. My brain is developed and so is my personality. I’m able to make rational decisions on what to believe and engage in and what not to. I see a lot of political things on there that I happen to agree with as well as some funny things as well. I am an adult and able to decipher what’s what. I’m not an 8year old. I don’t have an account. I’m not even on Facebook anymore. I scroll through and find things I think are interesting. You can’t compare apples to oranges. I’m not putting myself on there as an yeay old. Give me a break with this quoting me in this comment.
My comment was 2 fold..one in regards to the fact that others were suspicious of you being a shill (which is a big problem here these days) so I always look back over a person's history to "research" and make my own opinion of the person...then I ran across your response that I quoted which implies you are familiar with the site in more than just a passing as you reference "a lot of things" thus you should be able to judge the value of the site...and make this personal decision with your wife without input from strangers...
I apologize if I offended you...was not my intent.
Tell her to search on yandex.com for videos of naked women on TikTok.
Here's just one of the search results: https://xhamster.com/search/naked+tik+tok+video
It’s simple: you’re the man of the house, so what you say goes. No questions asked. Weak men arguing with their wives is sad.