AMEN! And this means, In an uncertain economy, that grandparents who may be better off should help a young couple keep the new mom at home, if necessary.
35 years of 4 children in school. 40 years of parenting minor children. My children are 40, 37, 21 and 19. We worked off shifts and weekends and expected nothing from the grandparents. I did my time. I’m not assisting Susie homemaker with her decisions at this stage of my life. The couple can figure it out like we did.
No, daughter one is a LEO and daughter two is a cosmologist. My two youngest went to private school that was full of “Susie homemakers” mothers. Their houses were a mess, their children took lunchables for lunch, and some came in wrinkled school uniforms. Yet these bastions of virtuous motherhood had no problem vilifying me and the one other working mom, a lawyer, except when they wanted a donation for their latest project. Then we were just fine and dandy. My children grew up with career parents. They are all grown, well educated, gainfully employed, and decent citizens. SAHM only works when they see as they should…their job.
I agree. Children grow up too quickly. I have never heard anyone say in their golden years of life that they wished they worked more and had less time with their children, especially when they were young. The rate at which a child grows in a year is remarkable. Having three at once, it went by at times as one long day. I would blink, and they (triplets) aged by a couple of years.
FYI, you cannot spoil a baby by holding, rocking and showing love. That connection is needed and wanted. Rock those babies to sleep, hold them when they want to be held because it goes by so quickly and they will not need you to rock them anymore.
Yes they do grow up so fast! I had 3 children also but not all at once, they were spaced out 4 yrs between first two, then 7 yrs between middle child & youngest. 2 daughters & son was the middle child (poor kid, he so wanted a little brother, lol). I was a stay at home mom.
I agree with holding, rocking & showing love to your babies. I rocked each child to sleep when they were babies. My husband used to hold them and dance with them when they were small. They need that connection with their parents.
Our 3rd will NOT have any formula. It’s a beautiful thing. We had to supplement our first two about 50%, 50/50 (maybe my wife was struggling biologically-speaking/not producing enough or maybe baby & her just couldn’t figure it out…). Anyway, our 3rd is rocking it. He loves to breastfeed, hates formula, haha.
Makes it hard for me when my wife has to leave for work for a few hours here or there... Nothing scarier for a man than a breastfed baby & being a male, stuck without Mom 😂. Luckily it is never for long & she is a small business owner/has her schedule which is very flexible.
^ Had to throw some praise out for my wifey.
So proud of her, my corporate job suffering leads to something good at least. We are trying to find a way to get me home too and be totally self-employed all around, home-schooled, duck the system.
You two sound like amazing patents - SO glad to hear you have dropped formula!! I pump milk and breast feed - no formula for baby. This kid EATS my goodness. Already 11 pounds at 4 weeks old give me a break CHONKY MONKEY
I did that, and my daughter is now 25, healthy and a beautiful person in and out...and it all happened with minimal support from her dad even when we were married. I also took her out of school early in 7th grade.
Even so, she got into college and aced it for 3 weeks...and then decided it wasn't for her. Independent, free thinking problem solvers don't usually emerge from 'the system.'
So thanks for the tribute to stay at home Moms. It's important work, and one of the most demanding missions we Humans face.
Wanted to share this also -> notice the JOY in the mother’s eyes.
I think many of us can lean toward the category or we are in the category of people who “struggle to find joy”. I know I do & looking at the blessings in my life, it is a daily sin that I am not ecstatic and FILLED with joy. Praying that those who fall into this category are lifted up by God & filled with joy in their hearts. Praying for mother’s to find joy in their day to day struggling with those little people they watch & take care of. It is no joke raising youngsters & being a stay at home mom. On the days I am a stay at home dad; I am beat by the end of the day sometimes because the selflessness involved can be overwhelming. But anyway— I’m getting long winded. I hope we can all find joy over the weekend regardless of situation & regardless of what happens in this insane world. Love to see parents raising their children with such joy. God please give us more of this!!!! We need it desperately.
We have a great ‘system’ where we have 3 generations living under the ‘one roof’. We have two joined homes; son DIL and granddaughters in front and hubby and I at back. The yard is 1700 sq m so plenty of room for girls to run around, have gardens cubby house etc. My DIL went back to work and son is a mine supervisor with 3 days over weekend. We are there when needed and it’s a two way street with my son DIL there when hubby had heart attack. We have a family dinner weekly with other family joining us. The air is always filled with the noise of littlies as next door have similar aged children. But quiet when the older ones are at school. I would not recommend sharing a ONE home. Each family needs their respective spaces and the old saying ‘two many cooks spoil the broth’ sums that up perfectly. It is a big learning curve and discipline is always left to the parents, but we correct a situation, not discipline. We also have a fold out bed and I bought them special bedding with bush babies and Australian flora and fauna on it to make it ‘theirs’. If Mum is starting early, it’s sometimes easier when dad is on nightshift for the girls to have a ‘sleepover’ than to wander next door at 5:30 am and wait until they rise. No one’s sleep is disturbed. While not for all, I believe this situation will grow out of need as things spiral downhill as inflation eats into respective incomes. We love it and feel blessed that we can share in each other’s lives.
That is OP asshole. Jk. I have no clue who it is but baby and mama look healthy and I have a little one too. My wife so far hasn't had to go back to work yet and trying to keep it that way as long as possible!
Babies need their mothers. We shouldn't turn them over to careworkers if it is avoidable.
I am probably the only day care provider that wishes she were 'out of a job'. Every baby should have their mother home.
Agreed.
AMEN! And this means, In an uncertain economy, that grandparents who may be better off should help a young couple keep the new mom at home, if necessary.
No. I did my time in parental purgatory. Not doing it again.
What , pray tell, is parental purgatory?
35 years of 4 children in school. 40 years of parenting minor children. My children are 40, 37, 21 and 19. We worked off shifts and weekends and expected nothing from the grandparents. I did my time. I’m not assisting Susie homemaker with her decisions at this stage of my life. The couple can figure it out like we did.
No, daughter one is a LEO and daughter two is a cosmologist. My two youngest went to private school that was full of “Susie homemakers” mothers. Their houses were a mess, their children took lunchables for lunch, and some came in wrinkled school uniforms. Yet these bastions of virtuous motherhood had no problem vilifying me and the one other working mom, a lawyer, except when they wanted a donation for their latest project. Then we were just fine and dandy. My children grew up with career parents. They are all grown, well educated, gainfully employed, and decent citizens. SAHM only works when they see as they should…their job.
Many of them do- and homeschool them as well!
Sounds like you’re still in purgatory. Does the 420 mean you’re a pot smoker?
It’s my birthday. I’ve never smoked anything in my life.
I was a stay at home mom, my kids are all grown now. They grow up so darn fast, have to enjoy every minute you can with them!
I agree. Children grow up too quickly. I have never heard anyone say in their golden years of life that they wished they worked more and had less time with their children, especially when they were young. The rate at which a child grows in a year is remarkable. Having three at once, it went by at times as one long day. I would blink, and they (triplets) aged by a couple of years.
FYI, you cannot spoil a baby by holding, rocking and showing love. That connection is needed and wanted. Rock those babies to sleep, hold them when they want to be held because it goes by so quickly and they will not need you to rock them anymore.
Triplets - wonderful! My mum had twins late in life so I had to help, they kept us busy.
I bet they did! Never a dull moment with multiples.
Yes they do grow up so fast! I had 3 children also but not all at once, they were spaced out 4 yrs between first two, then 7 yrs between middle child & youngest. 2 daughters & son was the middle child (poor kid, he so wanted a little brother, lol). I was a stay at home mom.
I agree with holding, rocking & showing love to your babies. I rocked each child to sleep when they were babies. My husband used to hold them and dance with them when they were small. They need that connection with their parents.
Ive got a baby at my breast as we speak!
Our 3rd will NOT have any formula. It’s a beautiful thing. We had to supplement our first two about 50%, 50/50 (maybe my wife was struggling biologically-speaking/not producing enough or maybe baby & her just couldn’t figure it out…). Anyway, our 3rd is rocking it. He loves to breastfeed, hates formula, haha.
Makes it hard for me when my wife has to leave for work for a few hours here or there... Nothing scarier for a man than a breastfed baby & being a male, stuck without Mom 😂. Luckily it is never for long & she is a small business owner/has her schedule which is very flexible.
^ Had to throw some praise out for my wifey. So proud of her, my corporate job suffering leads to something good at least. We are trying to find a way to get me home too and be totally self-employed all around, home-schooled, duck the system.
You two sound like amazing patents - SO glad to hear you have dropped formula!! I pump milk and breast feed - no formula for baby. This kid EATS my goodness. Already 11 pounds at 4 weeks old give me a break CHONKY MONKEY
HAHAHAH no kidding. Sounds just like ours. Can’t even find clothes for this behemoth.
LOL d’aww He don’t NEED clothes no wayyy ❤️
Im afraid my 1 month old may need size 2 diapers soon 🤷🏼♀️
Wonderful job. All of your diligence will pay off! Breastfed babies get a boost to their IQ!
Don’t mind me, just being a stay at home dad over here 😅
Can we please change 'sex work' to 'being a whore'?
whore.... sounds so unclean.... lol.. almost as bad as a "liberal woman"....
I did that, and my daughter is now 25, healthy and a beautiful person in and out...and it all happened with minimal support from her dad even when we were married. I also took her out of school early in 7th grade.
Even so, she got into college and aced it for 3 weeks...and then decided it wasn't for her. Independent, free thinking problem solvers don't usually emerge from 'the system.'
So thanks for the tribute to stay at home Moms. It's important work, and one of the most demanding missions we Humans face.
Wanted to share this also -> notice the JOY in the mother’s eyes.
I think many of us can lean toward the category or we are in the category of people who “struggle to find joy”. I know I do & looking at the blessings in my life, it is a daily sin that I am not ecstatic and FILLED with joy. Praying that those who fall into this category are lifted up by God & filled with joy in their hearts. Praying for mother’s to find joy in their day to day struggling with those little people they watch & take care of. It is no joke raising youngsters & being a stay at home mom. On the days I am a stay at home dad; I am beat by the end of the day sometimes because the selflessness involved can be overwhelming. But anyway— I’m getting long winded. I hope we can all find joy over the weekend regardless of situation & regardless of what happens in this insane world. Love to see parents raising their children with such joy. God please give us more of this!!!! We need it desperately.
Worse might be the stay-at-home/work-at-home moms who still prostitute, bringin' "johns" in da crib (so to speak)
We have a great ‘system’ where we have 3 generations living under the ‘one roof’. We have two joined homes; son DIL and granddaughters in front and hubby and I at back. The yard is 1700 sq m so plenty of room for girls to run around, have gardens cubby house etc. My DIL went back to work and son is a mine supervisor with 3 days over weekend. We are there when needed and it’s a two way street with my son DIL there when hubby had heart attack. We have a family dinner weekly with other family joining us. The air is always filled with the noise of littlies as next door have similar aged children. But quiet when the older ones are at school. I would not recommend sharing a ONE home. Each family needs their respective spaces and the old saying ‘two many cooks spoil the broth’ sums that up perfectly. It is a big learning curve and discipline is always left to the parents, but we correct a situation, not discipline. We also have a fold out bed and I bought them special bedding with bush babies and Australian flora and fauna on it to make it ‘theirs’. If Mum is starting early, it’s sometimes easier when dad is on nightshift for the girls to have a ‘sleepover’ than to wander next door at 5:30 am and wait until they rise. No one’s sleep is disturbed. While not for all, I believe this situation will grow out of need as things spiral downhill as inflation eats into respective incomes. We love it and feel blessed that we can share in each other’s lives.
You are very blessed.
Very.
That looks like a "reformed" sex worker.
That is OP asshole. Jk. I have no clue who it is but baby and mama look healthy and I have a little one too. My wife so far hasn't had to go back to work yet and trying to keep it that way as long as possible!
GOOD FOR YOU! Class Act Award Goes Out to You From Me..
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