Heard some lady at the grocery store patting herself on the back, wishing herself happy Father's Day. It got me thinking about this epidemic of single motherhood and all the awesome fruit its bearing for our country. Ladies, we love ya, but you're not fathers. Period. If you were, we wouldn't have these army of children wandering thebstreets w drugs and guns in our cities. They blame the fathers for not being there causing this shit, but then claim themselves as fathers. Foolish.
Disclaimer: a father who was raised by a single mother.
I was raised by a single mother also. She worked two jobs for 14 years to clothe and feed us. Her experience was not a good one in dealing with my father, so I didn't have a good example of a father or a husband. Eventually I found my father. My heavenly father. I at least had a chance to be a good husband.
That last sentence. We can be all we missed and more, brother!
10.000 upvotes. Dads are indispensable.
Single motherhood is handed to women whether they want it or not.
Single fatherhood has to work like hell to get it.
Bring back the nuclear family --- it's good for everything.
Father died when I was 7, moms can NEVER replace a father. Boys and girls suffer when the father isn’t in the home. Girls raised without fathers seem to be bigger targets for pedos maybe boys as well I don’t know. They don’t understand pedos will take advantage of little girls desperate for affection only a father can provide. Speaking as a woman who was molested by her friends father and having a sister who was molested by our step father. I still feel sad sometimes seeing women who have their fathers and I’m middle aged with teenage children of my own.
Wow sorry you went thru all that fren.
Thank you, however I feel like I’m a better mom because of my trials. I know how better to protect my kids and I knew I wanted to make sure any kids I had would get a stable home with a mom and dad if at all possible. Death is out of our control, but my husband and I have a strong relationship. I am very open and straightforward with my kids depending on their age and their comfort level and I just pray I can raise good kids to become good adults and good parents and protect them from all the evil out there. My daughter has a friend who has had it pretty rough. She just lost her dad a few months ago, mom works a lot among other issues. I’ve talked with the girls about my own childhood while we hang out doing fun stuff her mom can’t do and she gets sad about it. I told her I understand but because of the things I learned or rather missed out on I better appreciate this time I have with my kids and this girl. She can some day make sure to be there for her kids
Fathers can physically be there but be indifferent or bad examples too.
Agreed, we had a terrible step father for a few years. He was a pathological liar and I’m convinced he molested his adopted kids that he says died in a car crash (they weren’t dead). My mom was lonely for years, I don’t blame her for wanting to have a companion, she just chose poorly and tried to make it work. He exposed my brother to porn and molested my little sister. I’m pretty sure he had borderline personality disorder, glad he wasn’t around long. The best situation for any a child is a good mom and a good dad doing their best, but no one is perfect and all parents make mistakes.
True.
Just as there are shitty moms, there are shitty dads. Not everybody who is a parent is cut out to be.
That said, THREE HURRAHS FOR GOOD DADS!
As a woman, I concur. This family instability is bullshit and us women were the fucking fools that let Marxism into the country. I hate feminists the most! Their ideas fucked my life. I volunteer to be the hang woman! Lmao!
That's pretty fucking based, if you don't mind me sayin'.
Lol. Thanks bro.
These parents out there doing a terrible job of raising their kids should get absolutely no credit for either Mother's or Father's Day. Single or not.
But the single parents, male or female, should totally be allowed to celebrate both days if they want to.
Some people are thrown into their positions without choice, sometimes under tragic circumstances. Their lives suddenly become infinitely harder and if they want to celebrate the fact that they're doing everything in their power to be a good parent to their children, why not let them?
Of course it can never replace having both parents, but they're trying their hardest. At least the good ones are.
This is what foundations like Big Brother should've been helping with. But if I were a single mother, I wouldn't trust that shit if you paid me to.
Hell yeah! I wanted to say this. A single mother has to have the role of both even if she can never fulfill them both. Not that they chose it, but they have a kid to raise and now have to earn the extra income (or ALL the ince at once since many were housewives before and now have to earn liveable wages). They have to play every role, from disciplinarian, to dishing out all the advice, for daughters AND sons.
Single moms have no one to rely on for support the way 2 parent households do, of course they can never fill the void, but they damn well have to try.
Same as single fathers, which seems to be less common.
Exactly.
Just because a man isn't going to be very good at doing his young daughter's hair for school doesn't mean that he shouldn't step up and still at least attempt it if the mother isn't in the picture. All the better if he cares enough to watch tutorials on it for her.
Same for women that still try to play catch with their sons and teach them the more masculine side of things as best they can.
I have worked with single moms for over 20 years. Many are doing the best they can to provide for their kids, but most are stressed, living in poverty and burned out. Yet the vast majority keep having children to different men in the hopes that this one will stay with them, but they never do. Liberals have told them for decades that they don't need a man, and that the government will take care of them. The pattern is now generational and will not change without turning back to God and the nuclear family with committed parents to raise the children. It is unbelievably tragic and sad to watch this unfold every day.
You just described my life to a T. Thank you for that.
I tried so hard to make it work. Had 2 kids. But the guy was an alcoholic, deadbeat, cheater and passive agressive. He gets to enjoy the good life, painting himself as the vicitim while I work. Thankfully I have a great husband now.
And for the those in the back who say I should have chose better.
I wonder how many men here have crazy ex wives with kids? But thats different?
I was sexualy abused, had a really dysfunctional family, and had my first kid at 16. Which I womaned up and raised to be a fine person. Both of my kids are in fact.
They work hard, are well behaved, and well loved. Before my husband came into the picture, tho he does help tremendously. Particularly to their self esteem and other complex aspects.
Not saying fathers are indispensable. But Im not a pushover brainlet that would let my kids run rampant.
Sometimes people have it hard and shit happens. Sexual abuse is high for women. Some people have no support. Some single moms really are just in a bad position trying to make it work. And sometimes, dudes can be shitty too.
I avoided two crazy ex wives via discernment, and had plenty of sex with both of them. And other crazies too. No pregnancies until I was ready for one. One doesn't magically just get pregnant for having sex. Especially with us whiteys it seems. Some people do suffer adversity, you are correct. In fact most of us do. That's not unique. The choices we make surrounding that are what make us different. I pray all THE CHILDREN that have had this adversity forced upon them.
I am not saying I am a victim. Or I didnt choose the choices I did. Or that I am not responsible for them.
Im saying don't call us all single mothers shit for being single mothers. Everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes life is hard.
A lot of ppl here seem to be under the impression women are the sole person to blame for the situation and are bad people for being in that situation. No fault to the guy.
Like "all men are victims of the system and its womens fault."
Sounds like BLM and feminist..
Men have it hard but don't fall for the victim bait and blame our women. Blame the elitist. Blame the individual not taking responsibility, not the group you hate.
(Not you, just here in general)
I hear you! I'm not saying single moms are shit, mine was amazing. I'm just saying they aren't fathers, so they shouldn't play like they are. Distinctly different roles. I have come to terms that I harbor some resentment towards both of my parents for jot working it out so that's a valid observation. . Their issue was just not getting along. No abuse or neglect so blessed there!
Not placing blame or criticism, just saying mom's are not fathers, and do acknowledge that many guys aren't either, even if they have kids.
You are totally correct. However, I also see many men who aren't spending away money; they are incarcerated which leaves many moms high and dry and homeless when they go in. And then the moms move onto another guy and end up pregnant again. Wash, rinse, repeat.
Let's just be honest about it. They abuse and neglect her and the kids until the woman has no choice but to leave.
Looks like you just laid out the results of epidemic. It's like a snake that eats its own tail. It's hard to be or raise a man if you didn't have one. I know this from experience. But it's doable.
Mm, I think you're stretching it a little bit. Yes, a woman's nature is to care for others, but that doesn't mean women want to take care of their partner as heavily as most women end up doing. For decades now, women have been complaining about having to mother their husbands. No one wants that.
But men end up getting mothered by proxy because women are essentially forced to if they want anything to get done.
Sure, I agree with this, but I don't think you're laying enough blame at the hands of laziness and selfishness. I've seen plenty of young men raised by loving, attentive fathers turn out to be nothing but lazy and selfish and immature. My own father was super lazy while my Mom was pregnant with me, but once he grew up a little more, he refused to let my Mom shoulder all of the grunt work like she did while pregnant with me.
It's like something in him clicked, and a lot of younger men aren't having that 'click' occur for them.
Also, your argument kind of implies that women have all the knowledge required to become an adult innately, and that's not true. They end up just as lost and confused, but they still get pregnant and figure out how to raise children the best they can. They don't allow that fear, laziness, and selfishness to freeze them into laying all of the work at their husband's feet.
That's actually fascinating, thank you for sharing it.
Largely agree but blaming only the liberals is misguided. Too many men have become weak and selfish and refuse to stand up and participate in parenthood when they accidentally get a woman pregnant.
Many of the people in this forum shun those that get abortions and call them murderers, but then when they do the right thing and keep the baby even though the father makes it clear he'll abandon them, they're wrong for that too?
Going on to have more children is definitely stupid though.
I bet her kids are “out of control”
Moms are great at unconditional love Dads are great at inspiring kids to be their best.
One without the other leaves the kid pretty messed up.
It's an epidemic
The laws encourage it.
There’s no such thing as “single mothers”. There are windows and divorced and separated parents. That pussy didn’t cum in itself.
Crude, but accurate.
That makes no sense. A woman doesn't count as single if the father of the child is no longer in the picture? If she does, how does that NOT make her a single mother?
WHAT I mean is a lot of single women who are mothers seem to act like there never was a man, and surely there is no need for one.
There are single women who are mothers. There are windows, and separated parents. But there has never been a “single mother” since the bible.
Fuck that. Men play an important role in family life.
If the woman is single then the man is not playing an important role in family life though.
If it's not simply a matter of the woman being a POS, then maybe there's a reason she's acting like the man doesn't matter. Maybe he was abusive, or cheated, or abandoned his family. Why try to give a man like that credit?
A REAL man that stays with his family absolutely plays an important role in family life.
Single woman who is a mother. The term “single mother” is not possible and implies virgin birth.
What needs to change is the government encouraging single women by giving them handouts. I have known women who won’t get married because they loose their free money. Then they live with the father of the kid till someone realizes they are not committed to each other legally.
Considering what an arsehole my father was, I'm glad he fucked off when I was 11, but you're right, my mother wasn't a father figure - she was a steel magnolia.
A single mother can be forgiven if she's a widow. That is a tragedy we should not hold against her.
The rest, however...
Would it even be possible to turn these children into something better, given their mother thinks she is the father (is there some sort of trans-daddy or mommy identification here?).
With that kind of disadvantage, plus everything else wrong in their life, could a mentor of moral courage, rectitude and resourcefulness have a chance to create a branching off point in a child's life path?
These women put themselves in their positions: hooking up with losers who were there for one reason-convenient sex, men who were children who refused to accept responsibility for their actions, and you and baby daddy who didn’t use birth control.