The husband keeps the household sane while the wife keeps the “temperature” of the emotions of the house in check.
My husband sometimes has to bring down the hammer because I’m overthinking (only the way women can) and he brings me back down to earth. On the other hand, I help bring peace to situations due to the ability to bring joy/peace easily.
There’s a balance placed by God that takes TWO people to keep it. When I wake up I have to choose to have a good attitude, if I don’t, the house “temperature” is already too low lol
Another key (for myself as a wife) is to choose to submit to my husbands role as leader of the house. I don’t get to pick and choose when he leads either, I have to humbly submit with a willing heart. That doesn’t mean I don’t have a say in things, it’s just that I recognize, for the most part, he is wiser than I am when it comes to stewarding our household and I honor his ability to do it.
Most females have been told their whole lives that “they don’t need no man” when we’re designed to complement each other. I’m thankful for my extremely blessed marriage.
Good share, I always saw it as her whispering over my shoulder her input, me doing what needs to be done. In the end I can take her advice but when it's all said and done, God holds me and me alone responsible.
The world would be a much better place if more women had the genuine humility to choose the wisdom you have chosen. I have no doubt that your entire household will be blessed as a result.
No one's perfect of course, and some days we make better decisions than others, but I greatly admire the guide stone you've committed to.
The modern welfare system we have today was started by LBJ an avowed racist of the Democrat party (as usual). His plan was to get the Blacks to vote for his party while destroying the Black segment of the population. His Great Society had welfare and rules for getting welfare. A woman could get welfare money based on the number of children she had AS LONG AS THERE WAS NO MALE ADULT WHO WAS ABLE TO WORK LIVING IN THE HOME. In 1965 the out-of-wedlock births in the Black community was at 25% today it stands at 90%.
I would say the LBJ and the racist Democrats have succeeded in destroying the Black community beyond their wildest dreams. They already had data on how to do this. They had studied what happed to the Native American communities after they were put on the reservations and given free money to live.
Re; reservation money.
Was just camping at Neah Bay WA and watched a surfer group (not sure if paid or charity) that I learned goes up and down entire West Coast teaching tribal children how ti swim and surf. Was cool to watch and while a good program, I was wondering why the tribal adults, aka parents and tribal leaders are not teaching these skills.
I actually worked with a black woman that told me (ashamedly) that her sister had kids for the money. She was on her who-knows-how-many and the responsible sister (my co-worker) was often having to help take care of them. Welfare is for those who can't do practical math.
They do exist. In line for books when I attended community college years ago, two young black women were talking about the cost of everything and how it was tough to juggle school and work. Another woman piped up and said “girl, have you a baby”. Yes, bring another innocent human into the world to further your own selfish interests. That’ll work out well for all involved 🤦🏼♀️
If 99% of men chose partners better we would still have a single mother crisis. If 99% of women chose better partners we would have stable families. Repeal the 19th
Suffice to say the nuclear family has been under attack for generations and our human nature makes it really easy for the enemy to confuse men and women about their roles. God’s model is for the man to love his wife and family as Jesus loves His Church - willing to take responsibility for them, willing to give His life for them. And the wife being “submissive” - well, that’s been misinterpreted by a lot of men who didn’t listen to the “willing to give His life for her”, as meaning license to “lord over” her and be the boss. So then women, being told to be “submissive” to their husbands bristle at the idea of being “under his foot” - when the intention has always been that the man is to be her protector and he’s meant to treasure her. Most men can do that with their children, but they fail to do it with their wives and then everything gets out of balance. Women “often set the wrong course” because they are forced to take on a role (or they deliberately take over the role) that they were never intended to fill. If there’s no father in the home, sometimes they must and lots of women have done an admirable job of raising children without a father, but it’s a tough job and many more have failed. So I don’t think we can “blame” either - life is hard. Tragedies happen and parents are left to parent alone. Extended families are not always willing or available to step into the gap. I think the real problem is that people don’t try hard enough - we’ve become a “throw away society” where we just have kids with multiple partners, where we don’t take seriously the responsibility of raising humans who are capable of contributing to society and giving back, where we find ourselves embroiled in family division and chaos far too often, to the detriment of kids, families, men & women and society.
How about when the man wants to be the head of the household, the “guide”, the boss or whatever you want to call him, but then only wants to sit on his lazy ass? So the wife can be the bread winner, raise the children, be the mother and father, help with homework, cook and clean and also take care of the yard and repairs of the house? Maybe some men should think about why women are done with marriage and family. Because there are plenty of the above type of men out there. I am not saying the same isn’t true of women, because it is. Some women want to play house. They don’t or won’t learn to cook (so they buy prepared food every night), don’t clean, don’t care about raising children (but they love the attention of being pregnant and use it as an excuse), want their student loans paid off, don’t want to work, want the biggest engagement ring, want a certain type of house. Yes both sexes have big issues/problems. Then when the marriage falls apart because of all the above, children become the pawns. So, I think both sides are becoming a little shy regarding marriage and family.
So the wife can be the bread winner, raise the children, be the mother and father, help with homework, cook and clean and also take care of the yard and repairs of the house?
That was me most of our marriage.
Did not plan on being the man and the woman, too.
It sucked.
I'm out shoveling snow while my lazy-ass husband was snoring in bed.
I'm up before 6 am getting the kids ready for school, making sure they have homework and lunch, driving them there, then coming home to start my 40-hour a week job.
While he slept until noon or even 1 in the afternoon.
Or... people because of human nature behave like dogs in Pavlov's experiment. Reward certain behaviors to get more of the same behavior. Free checks, food and healthcare for life. Have a baby, go to a cooperative doctor, more free checks for life. Although it is more prevalent with women because of the child-care responsibilities, it is same stimulus/response behavior observed in men.
Sure, but men have cognition and can interrupt that. Dogs can not.
There are both classical and operant conditioning to work with. One is the involuntary response to a stimuli, the other is a trained response to a stimuli.
Learned all that cool shit in college but I applied it in K9 training for the past 20 years. Humans can only be screwed with if tjey refuse to think. The government makes giving them the authority to think for them easy. So the lazy do it.
It was a form of protection for women, IMHO. Say what you want, women are less likely on the whole to do the full research any given topic, men more likely. I confess sometimes I don't like how slowly things get done (and sometimes it is as much my issue as anything else), but I have to admit when they do, they get done right!
There’s a spiritual order to life and that’s why the DS attacks the Man so it can then destroy the world.
Corinthians 11:3
King James Version
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Men and women socially are equals. This is how we were created: in Their image. Gender norms are a GUIDELINE not law. Forcing people to conform breeds rebellion. Always. People who swap typical roles should not be shamed or scorned. If God wanted us all to function the same They would have made us the same. What works in one family might not work in others.
While we can waste time pointing fingers at who's responsible for what, I believe the way forward is to think forward: let people figure out their lives for themselves and actually get out there and make the world a better place.
While the man is the head of the household, the woman is the neck, providing support, and helping ensure the man sees what he ought to decide and navigate well.
It's actually more symbolic of the church's role with Jesus. We are to be his bride, and to follow him - so the example is set for us here on earth now.
It certainly doesn't anger God if your wife is better at raising the kids or doing the accounting/finances in your home. You were both made for each other, helpers for one another, the ying to their yang. You might spend 60-80 hours a week working to provide while she runs the home (which was common in households going back millenia) - there is nothing wrong with it.
100% And the lack of men and men's roles in their families lives is costing our country greatly, everyday. It's the sort of thing where I think about my own faults concerning this, and try to do more and be more available. It is easy to 'check-out' with all of life's distractions (entertainment/work/news/friends/activities).
Many of you reading these posts ARE doing what you should be, and maybe wonder if it makes a difference. If you are only inspiring other men to also be good husbands and fathers, I'd say you are doing a great service to more than you realize and that doesn't even count the effect on your families' lives and wellbeing.
Note: The welfare system affected ALL colors of people the same. I worked security at a SNAP office and saw as many whites as blacks come threw. The intention of LBJ may have been racist, but Pantifa, BLM, SJW, and Karens/Kens come in all colors.
Actually, the welfare system was LBJ's invention of the Great Society. Up until then, blacks were mostly married when they had kids and both raised the children. Then LBJ, a Dem, realized that if he got the blacks dependent on welfare he'd insure they would vote Democrat forever. So, welfare to single women was increased and the more kids they had, the more money they made. This broke up the traditional family and the rest is history. It did exactly what LBJ predicted. It enslaved blacks to the welfare system by rewarding single parent homes with lots of kids and insured the blacks voted Democrat.
I doubt women on welfare "set the wrong course", because I don't know what that means. I do know that men have more inherent authority in a family, due to size, strength and louder voice, and this is why children obey their fathers faster than their mothers, so this is why we need to have fathers in the home. They are also role models as far a their behavior is concerned.
The husband keeps the household sane while the wife keeps the “temperature” of the emotions of the house in check.
My husband sometimes has to bring down the hammer because I’m overthinking (only the way women can) and he brings me back down to earth. On the other hand, I help bring peace to situations due to the ability to bring joy/peace easily.
There’s a balance placed by God that takes TWO people to keep it. When I wake up I have to choose to have a good attitude, if I don’t, the house “temperature” is already too low lol
Another key (for myself as a wife) is to choose to submit to my husbands role as leader of the house. I don’t get to pick and choose when he leads either, I have to humbly submit with a willing heart. That doesn’t mean I don’t have a say in things, it’s just that I recognize, for the most part, he is wiser than I am when it comes to stewarding our household and I honor his ability to do it.
Most females have been told their whole lives that “they don’t need no man” when we’re designed to complement each other. I’m thankful for my extremely blessed marriage.
Good share, I always saw it as her whispering over my shoulder her input, me doing what needs to be done. In the end I can take her advice but when it's all said and done, God holds me and me alone responsible.
Great comments!
The world would be a much better place if more women had the genuine humility to choose the wisdom you have chosen. I have no doubt that your entire household will be blessed as a result.
No one's perfect of course, and some days we make better decisions than others, but I greatly admire the guide stone you've committed to.
My husband and I counterbalance each other as complete opposites. He often keeps me in check and stable and vice versa.
The modern welfare system we have today was started by LBJ an avowed racist of the Democrat party (as usual). His plan was to get the Blacks to vote for his party while destroying the Black segment of the population. His Great Society had welfare and rules for getting welfare. A woman could get welfare money based on the number of children she had AS LONG AS THERE WAS NO MALE ADULT WHO WAS ABLE TO WORK LIVING IN THE HOME. In 1965 the out-of-wedlock births in the Black community was at 25% today it stands at 90%.
I would say the LBJ and the racist Democrats have succeeded in destroying the Black community beyond their wildest dreams. They already had data on how to do this. They had studied what happed to the Native American communities after they were put on the reservations and given free money to live.
Re; reservation money.
Was just camping at Neah Bay WA and watched a surfer group (not sure if paid or charity) that I learned goes up and down entire West Coast teaching tribal children how ti swim and surf. Was cool to watch and while a good program, I was wondering why the tribal adults, aka parents and tribal leaders are not teaching these skills.
It’s a partnership. Hopefully husband and wife have the same goals for the family and can work together to achieve that.
And each balances the other, but logic trumps emotion.
Way too much emotion is in control currently in our government. Judgement severely lacking
I actually worked with a black woman that told me (ashamedly) that her sister had kids for the money. She was on her who-knows-how-many and the responsible sister (my co-worker) was often having to help take care of them. Welfare is for those who can't do practical math.
They do exist. In line for books when I attended community college years ago, two young black women were talking about the cost of everything and how it was tough to juggle school and work. Another woman piped up and said “girl, have you a baby”. Yes, bring another innocent human into the world to further your own selfish interests. That’ll work out well for all involved 🤦🏼♀️
If 99% of men chose partners better we would still have a single mother crisis. If 99% of women chose better partners we would have stable families. Repeal the 19th
Suffice to say the nuclear family has been under attack for generations and our human nature makes it really easy for the enemy to confuse men and women about their roles. God’s model is for the man to love his wife and family as Jesus loves His Church - willing to take responsibility for them, willing to give His life for them. And the wife being “submissive” - well, that’s been misinterpreted by a lot of men who didn’t listen to the “willing to give His life for her”, as meaning license to “lord over” her and be the boss. So then women, being told to be “submissive” to their husbands bristle at the idea of being “under his foot” - when the intention has always been that the man is to be her protector and he’s meant to treasure her. Most men can do that with their children, but they fail to do it with their wives and then everything gets out of balance. Women “often set the wrong course” because they are forced to take on a role (or they deliberately take over the role) that they were never intended to fill. If there’s no father in the home, sometimes they must and lots of women have done an admirable job of raising children without a father, but it’s a tough job and many more have failed. So I don’t think we can “blame” either - life is hard. Tragedies happen and parents are left to parent alone. Extended families are not always willing or available to step into the gap. I think the real problem is that people don’t try hard enough - we’ve become a “throw away society” where we just have kids with multiple partners, where we don’t take seriously the responsibility of raising humans who are capable of contributing to society and giving back, where we find ourselves embroiled in family division and chaos far too often, to the detriment of kids, families, men & women and society.
How about when the man wants to be the head of the household, the “guide”, the boss or whatever you want to call him, but then only wants to sit on his lazy ass? So the wife can be the bread winner, raise the children, be the mother and father, help with homework, cook and clean and also take care of the yard and repairs of the house? Maybe some men should think about why women are done with marriage and family. Because there are plenty of the above type of men out there. I am not saying the same isn’t true of women, because it is. Some women want to play house. They don’t or won’t learn to cook (so they buy prepared food every night), don’t clean, don’t care about raising children (but they love the attention of being pregnant and use it as an excuse), want their student loans paid off, don’t want to work, want the biggest engagement ring, want a certain type of house. Yes both sexes have big issues/problems. Then when the marriage falls apart because of all the above, children become the pawns. So, I think both sides are becoming a little shy regarding marriage and family.
That was me most of our marriage.
Did not plan on being the man and the woman, too.
It sucked.
I'm out shoveling snow while my lazy-ass husband was snoring in bed.
I'm up before 6 am getting the kids ready for school, making sure they have homework and lunch, driving them there, then coming home to start my 40-hour a week job.
While he slept until noon or even 1 in the afternoon.
And bragged about how little money he earned!
I thought I had married a man from a good family.
Found out too late I married a "chick." A bitch.
Forgive me. Needed to rant.
Or... people because of human nature behave like dogs in Pavlov's experiment. Reward certain behaviors to get more of the same behavior. Free checks, food and healthcare for life. Have a baby, go to a cooperative doctor, more free checks for life. Although it is more prevalent with women because of the child-care responsibilities, it is same stimulus/response behavior observed in men.
Sure, but men have cognition and can interrupt that. Dogs can not. There are both classical and operant conditioning to work with. One is the involuntary response to a stimuli, the other is a trained response to a stimuli.
Learned all that cool shit in college but I applied it in K9 training for the past 20 years. Humans can only be screwed with if tjey refuse to think. The government makes giving them the authority to think for them easy. So the lazy do it.
It was a form of protection for women, IMHO. Say what you want, women are less likely on the whole to do the full research any given topic, men more likely. I confess sometimes I don't like how slowly things get done (and sometimes it is as much my issue as anything else), but I have to admit when they do, they get done right!
There’s a spiritual order to life and that’s why the DS attacks the Man so it can then destroy the world.
Corinthians 11:3 King James Version 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Amen!
Men and women socially are equals. This is how we were created: in Their image. Gender norms are a GUIDELINE not law. Forcing people to conform breeds rebellion. Always. People who swap typical roles should not be shamed or scorned. If God wanted us all to function the same They would have made us the same. What works in one family might not work in others.
While we can waste time pointing fingers at who's responsible for what, I believe the way forward is to think forward: let people figure out their lives for themselves and actually get out there and make the world a better place.
Facts
While the man is the head of the household, the woman is the neck, providing support, and helping ensure the man sees what he ought to decide and navigate well.
Our welfare system encourages it.
It's actually more symbolic of the church's role with Jesus. We are to be his bride, and to follow him - so the example is set for us here on earth now.
It certainly doesn't anger God if your wife is better at raising the kids or doing the accounting/finances in your home. You were both made for each other, helpers for one another, the ying to their yang. You might spend 60-80 hours a week working to provide while she runs the home (which was common in households going back millenia) - there is nothing wrong with it.
I agree, I know lots of people in such situations. However if the children are going hungry then God expects the man to provide.
100% And the lack of men and men's roles in their families lives is costing our country greatly, everyday. It's the sort of thing where I think about my own faults concerning this, and try to do more and be more available. It is easy to 'check-out' with all of life's distractions (entertainment/work/news/friends/activities).
Many of you reading these posts ARE doing what you should be, and maybe wonder if it makes a difference. If you are only inspiring other men to also be good husbands and fathers, I'd say you are doing a great service to more than you realize and that doesn't even count the effect on your families' lives and wellbeing.
Note: The welfare system affected ALL colors of people the same. I worked security at a SNAP office and saw as many whites as blacks come threw. The intention of LBJ may have been racist, but Pantifa, BLM, SJW, and Karens/Kens come in all colors.
If you saw blacks and whites in equal numbers in the welfare office that suggests there are proportionally far more blacks on welfare than whites.
Was in West Orlando area called Pine Hills (nicknamed Crime Hills) about 80% black with a large portion of recent immigrant blacks from Caribbean.
Actually, the welfare system was LBJ's invention of the Great Society. Up until then, blacks were mostly married when they had kids and both raised the children. Then LBJ, a Dem, realized that if he got the blacks dependent on welfare he'd insure they would vote Democrat forever. So, welfare to single women was increased and the more kids they had, the more money they made. This broke up the traditional family and the rest is history. It did exactly what LBJ predicted. It enslaved blacks to the welfare system by rewarding single parent homes with lots of kids and insured the blacks voted Democrat.
So true
I doubt women on welfare "set the wrong course", because I don't know what that means. I do know that men have more inherent authority in a family, due to size, strength and louder voice, and this is why children obey their fathers faster than their mothers, so this is why we need to have fathers in the home. They are also role models as far a their behavior is concerned.