So, I am getting married soon and here in Michigan the restrictions are GONE as of tomorrow morning. This means that my reception can be indoors at full capacity. I sent an email to my family to this effect, and IMMEDIATELY one of my cousins got on my case about how her two year old won’t wear a mask, and they don’t want him around anyone unvaccinated so she’ll have to talk to his pediatrician and blah blah blah...what the fuck. This is SICK. He’s TWO and you’re perplexed that he doesn’t want to be muzzled?! I just don’t understand this anymore. People really don’t want to let go of Covid, it’s become their identity.
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^^^THIS.
In my day, one did not bring a 2 year old to a wedding reception.
Reason: he will act like a two year old, which is perfectly natural, but not appropriate for a wedding, which is to honor and witness to the bride and groom, without being distracted by an attention-getting toddler.
Yes, the bride and groom should hire a group of drag queens to keep the little ones entertained.
Not allowing kids to my wedding was a good decision. It allowed my relatives who wanted to let their hair down, to enjoy the evening and kept away the ones who would make the day all about THEIR kids.
That’s our plan. If you can’t be away from your kids for an evening, then don’t come. The day is about the wedding, not your kids. Byeeeee
It also makes planning the reception meals easier. You don't get, "my kid only eats chicken fingers." If there is a no-show with a family with a bunch of kids, then that's a lot more plates that go to waste. Over the years I've had a lot of relatives tell me it was the nicest wedding they had been to, all because of a no kid rule. Now I bring my kids to weddings if invited, but gladly leave them at home if not invited.
Tendies make the world go round
Definitely. If there was some prize guest who couldn't leave the kid(s) home, I would set up a special area and babysitter.
Then you piss off all the people who left their kids at home. I had a few cousins mad about it but most people enjoyed not having to trip over kids.
Some family members are not like all the others - can’t live with them, can’t kill them. So just avoid them.
You don't owe her anything, this is your wedding. Send her your condolences, tell her you'll be glad to visit with her after the Covid is over and then go on with your Plans. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials. God bless you both and many years of happiness.
In my state of NH, ZERO deaths of people between the age of 0-19. ZERO. But we see morons like this lady opining about the risk of going to an indoor event. Some people are too fucking stupid to save.
Plus we haven’t had mask rules here since what April? And there are still too many masked idiots out and about as we are nearing July.
Can I have her Invite? Consider this my RSVP, I will have The beef or chicken option, also I will have a +1 (which will be myself, but I eat for two).
Haha we’re having chicken AND beef so come hungry fren!
Agree with the consensus here. Uninvite them out of an abundance of caution...
Fuck that. Uninvited for being a dick.
Plus it’s their new religion, they have put so much faith into they can’t let it go now.
You know most people dont bring their kids to a wedding. I guess some do but tell her to leave him with a babysitter. Otherwise say adios.
I live in Michigan and would be happy to take their place. Just sayin. Congratulations!
I was about to type the same thing ?
I’m the bride. Thank you for your post ❤️ I have multiple BASED cousins and friends who are ready to kick people out if they’re trying to upset me in any way. I’m focusing on what’s wonderful and positive, but when part of that is supposed to be spending time with this cousin it smarts a bit.
Tell your cousin to fuck off and stay home. As a matter of fact, aend out an updated invitation that states if you are afraid, stay home, if you try to pull some bullshit when you are there, you WILL be removed, not asked to leave, removed. Fuck all of them and enjoy your wedding.
Planning a wedding is stressful enough. Bc of all this BS I had to scrape my original plans and am now replanning my entire wedding… because of this added stress, we’ve decided that we absolutely make the rules for our day, absolutely no exceptions. No children invited, no we won’t have a baby sitter, figure it out or don’t come. No masks, if it makes you uncomfortable we would be happy to celebrate separately with you at a later date (not really, but adds a wee bit of nicety haha).
If anyone invited doesn’t like what you’ve laid out for the day, don’t even entertain them, just say oh I’m sorry to hear you won’t be there, talk to you later!! They want to bitch at someone, don’t give them the satisfaction of letting it be you.
Save your money and ELOPE!!!
Congrats on your upcoming wedding. I wish you the best.
It is so frustrating to have family members that buy into all this crap. My daughter was excluded from her cousin's graduation party because she is not vaccinated. It is sad to see a mom believe that her 2 year old is at risk of getting the virus or would think wearing a mask is preventative medicine.
Try not to let it get you down. They are the ones that have to decide whether or not to let fear drive their choices. I hope they come around and will choose to be part of your big day.
You're so right it has become their identity, and given them a reason for existing. I think a lot of these people had a really sad, worthless life before covid. Now they are virtuous and can loyally serve their overlords.
Don’t let anything or ANYONE be so important to you that they can affect how you feel.
Weddings used to be very small, now it’s a big ego party
My insane liberal MIL was so mad about the venue we picked (she wanted us to get married in her backyard, where she could control everything and make sure everyone was miserable) that she got her whole side of the family to reject our wedding invitation. Honestly, it was awesome all those crazy people didn't come.
It's your wedding. If people don't like the way you are running it, they don't have to come and drink your free booze.
Thanks! She remains absolutely insane to this day. My husband and I are expecting a child in September and MIL ONLY uses possessives when discussing the baby with us - she always calls the baby "MY granddaughter." She's a very controlling/grasping person.
I would respond: I'm sorry you will not be attending my wedding. Best of luck to you and your family.
Congratulations, I hope your wedding goes well and that you and your spouse are on the same side of this issue
Kids cry and ruin the wedding anyway. Tell her keep her son at home. Otherwise, she'll just ruin your wedding (with or without the kid).
Don’t worry OP, many us have **those cousins.. it’s their choice to be retarded.
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So there you have it. It is their choice and you are sorry to hear they won’t be able to attend due to their own choices.
get a sitter
It's quite simple. Retract the invitation from anyone that wants to act childish like this. Problem solved. Wedding fixed.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding - may God bless your union and may you live in love and peace for all your days :) Having said that, tell your selfish cousin to stay home with her 2 year old. I'm sure you want all of your family around you, and you should have that because this is your day. But if covid has taught us anything, it's the reaffirmation that you can't reason with the unreasonable. As much as it will be disappointing to miss that person and not have them at your wedding, it will be a MAJOR disappointment to have them come to it, make it all about them, and be super pissed off on what should be the most special day of your life. You don't need that aggravation - there's enough stress in a wedding all by itself without having covid-crazies attending. I wish you all the best for a LIFELONG happy marriage!! :) God bless you!!
Tell her to leave him home. Maybe she will stay with him.
Update: Wedding was last weekend. Only 2 guests wore a mask. Lots of dancing, open bar was taken advantage of like an Amsterdam whore, it was an absolute blast. The PERFECT day. Thanks all for your prayers and best wishes!
Tell her to fuck off and enjoy your day man. Don't let those retards fuck your energy up.