My wife and I found out that her pregnancy isnāt viable and she has miscarried. Weāve wanted another child for so long and finally thought we caught a breakā¦weāre both devastated. Honestly trying (not very successfully) to not be bitter and angry as hell right now- canāt understand how two people tryig their damnedest to raise a family the right way keep getting screwed while plenty of others who donāt even want children seem to be popping them out. Iām sorry, I know thatās inappropriate, mean, petty and not productive etc but I canāt help but feel that way today. Just needed to vent. Thank you to all those who have wished us well, unfortunately, just wasnāt in the cards for us this time. Weāll just pick up the pieces and try again I guessā¦
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Sympathy and prayers for you. Miscarry is still losing your baby.
Sad. Wife and I lost 3 due to miscarriages. It's terribly painful. I hope and pray every day those 3 souls are in a better place and I can see them soon. OP said you wanted "another child" which I interpret as you have at least one already. Cherish what you have. They are precious gifts
Thank you fren.
Not to butt in, but if I may suggest Adoption as a separate route for an addition to your family....
There are many people whose Lives were forever changed due to caring parents willing to Adopt them....
Personally, I would probably be in Prison for some heinous Crime if I had grown up in an Orphanage, but instead, I turned out to be a Soldier, Welder, Cowboy, Lower/Middle/Top Management, and I can only blame my Adoptive Parents for any success I've had....
Look at Wendys, Dave was also an adoptee....
Y'all, All Good Parents, can do miracles when you Good Parents chose to....
You've inspired more pedes than you know, fren.
Thank you, thatās something that we will def put more thought and look into, youāre absolutely right fren.
Said a prayer over you and your wife. Thank you for sharing with us fren
I felt the same way when I was trying to get pregnant with my (now) 29-year-old. I remember driving down the street and seeing a visibly pregnant woman pushing a stolen grocery cart down the street with three kids in there. WTF? Prayers and blessings to you and yours!
Bless you both. This same thing just happened to my daughter 3 weeks ago. Girl has a golden heart. I pray she gets the chance to be that mother. I pray you all get another chance as well.
Thank you. Bless you and your daughter, Iām sorry for her loss as well. I pray every GOOD person who wants to be a GOOD parent gets that opportunity.
We went through the same thing and our rainbow baby is 3 mo old now
Thank you. Im sorry for your loss and Iām so happy to hear that!! We both wish all the best for your family. Love.
You will be in our prayers.
Thank you fren.
Kek thank you for sharing that. It was comforting and got a chuckle out of us in between tears.
Nothing wrong with being angry, it is important to vent when the need arises. Otherwise you will eat yourself and those around you up. I'm sure emotions are running high over there. When you feel an emotional explosion coming on, please come here and vent. We will be here. Stay strong and give your wife a big teary-eyed hug from your surrogate frog family.
I really appreciate this fren. Iāve been holding so much in for so long. Hard to vent otherwise sometimes. We will, we vent, grieve, pick ourselves back up and keep on truckin. What else can we do, right? Thank you fam.
Iām blown away by this amount of unexpected support. I just read all these comments to my wife and we both started crying (again). Iām at a loss of words and filled with gratitude. Thank you frens. Truly are my surrogate frog family. I love you allā¦.ya damn violent right wing extremists qanons KEK (sheās still more normie than us and stays out of Q stuff but was stunned at how honest and MORE HELPFUL these comments are.) Our love and thanks to all whoāve taken the time for thoughts or prayers. WWG1WGA
I'm so sorry for you and I agree, its heartbreaking to see those that dont deserve to be parents get pregnant easily. Please look into it and see if it's related to hormones or if she needs a procedure to 'tie her cervix' (sorry, simplest term). Not all OBs look at root cause. Please take care. Don't give up.
I will definitely look into that. Thank you for kind words and wishes fren. We wonāt; sheās tough as nails.
Love love love for you and yours. Give your baby a name and look forward to time together in eternity. Grieve well and live well.
I second these wise words of Annestaan.
Draw even closer to each other, name your precious angel and grieve together honoring the life God gave you for the brief moment. Know that you'll be reunited with your child someday.
Thank you for sharing your private grief with your family here. The love on GA is palpable. I know you will both be lifted up by our prayers. Sending šš
Thank you so much. We will. All we can do is our best every day. Bless.
Yes.
Sending positive vibrations
Thanks, trying to keep it positive too.
I am so sorry for your loss. I feel the same as you about people that dont want kids but have tons of them just to abuse or use for welfare. Praying you will have a child.
Thank you fren! I know itās not nice or whatever but yea I canāt help but get pissed about that. We are trying so damn hard to do this whole thing right and just feels like another slap in the face. Weāll both suck it up and pick our heads back high. Just stings. We both appreciate your honesty and prayers. Love.
Keep your fingers crossed man, God is still there for you.
Thank you fren.
I've walked that path... several times. Sending huge, ginormous, all-encompassing love and hugs to you and your precious wife.
Thank you fam. Love and prayers back to you and yours. This is a special kind of pain and heartbreak and I hope all the best for you as well fren.
This pain hit our home about a year ago when we were pregnant for our first child and "devastating" doesn't even sum it up. The pain is a grief that can't be explained or understood unless felt, and the deepest of sympathies to your family from ours. We continue to try to get pregnant and while time is the only thing that has helped us heal, the sorrow is never gone. May you find the strength in each other to carry on and prayers and blessing to have the chance at parenthood again, soon.
Dear Lord, please comfort this husband and wife at the loss of their baby. You know the plans you have for them, one of hope & a future. It can be hard to see that from where they are right now. Please donāt let the what-ifs and if-onlys destroy them. Remind them you are with them and your love endures forever. Bless them with faith to trust you as you lead them from this dark valley and into your light. Comfort them with the everlasting life of salvation through Christ Jesus and fill them with your Holy Spirit and your peace. I ask this in Jesusā Holy name, Amen.
Please look into the role of gluten and fertility and miscarriage. Thereās a big connection there, surprisingly. My heart and thoughts are with you! And prayers to you bothā¦
I'm sorry for your loss.
very sorry. we lost three. ended up adopting two precious kids
I'm so sorry and feel your pain immensely. I had four known losses, one17 weeks, the last was Feb 2021 then was diagnosed with breast cancer aug 2021 resulting in double mastectomy and also radical hysterectomy. I lost my babies and my ability to ever have another, that loss was actually worse than the cancer diagnosis. Prayers that you and your wife will find peace and God will give more children.
Praying for you. I am so sorry for all of your loss.
Oh my goodness, Iām so sorry for your losses. Weāre crushed now, you must be an immensely strong woman to still be standing tall and strong. Bless you and your family. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story and support, we genuinely appreciate it.
God bless. He is good all of the time in both our trials and successes. I have found the poem by Cowper, God Moves in Mysterious Ways His Wonders to Perform to be expressly encouraging through these dark days.
So sorry fren. My wife and tried for 7 years before finally having triplets. Miracles do happen. Keep your head up. It will get better
Kek oh geez, idk if I could handle that much of a swing but youāre right, we just have to stay positive and trust. Thank you.
Sorry to hear that, my mom lost 3/6... I never had the pleasure of being a father, but I can understand the way you feel. God bless.
I felt those exact feelings when we kept trying with no success or with the pregnancy ending in a miscarriage. What finally worked is when I cut out processed foods and carbohydrates. Not sure if it had anything to do with it or if it was coincidence, but all three of my children were conceived while eating clean and very healthy. Just passing along what worked for us in hopes that it may help someone in return.
Yes I canāt help but overthink everything now. Will def both be re-analyzing everything and seeing what adjustments we can make. Thank you
God is making very sure your baby you two WILL have is absolutely perfect. Nature usually does know best. Try to trust in this. How could you not feel sad..and the other things you feel... Been there, fren! You know how so many couples try and try then say they have decided to adopt. Miraculously, when they quit trying so hard, suddenly they are expecting. I know its just platitudes. But Ive got a prayer in my heart for your child to manifest soon and you all to share a beautiful life!
Prayers brother
Hang in! Terrible, I know. We had 2, lost 3 to miscarriage over a few years, and then had our third. You are not alone - it's just that no one tells you it is a common occurrence.
Exactly. Weāre so tired of the tip toeing and baby gloves. Weāre a big boy and girl and can handle the truth. These comments have been so much more helpful than the docs or even our family. Thank you so much fren!
Our family has been there, too. My prayers are with you. š
I have a friend that suffered three miscarriages in a row. She got pregnant finally a 4th time and now has a beautiful son. Keep faith.
Thank you, thatās what weāre trying to focus on. Appreciate you.
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Feel for you. Our #2 is a rainbow baby and a real blessing. He wouldn't be ours now if we didn't go through it. Don't give up.
Yes, we know what you mean, our first is a rainbow too, we just obv didnāt want to do this every time. Thank you for your encouragement fren.
Iām sooo sorry, fren! I feel your pain. My husband and I havenāt been able to successfully conceive after our daughter was born in 2016 and we are apparently suffering from whatās called secondary infertility. I had a gynecological operation back in the fall of 2020 and was able to get pregnant in February 2021, but I miscarried and have been able to get pregnant since then. Iām very thankful that God at least blessed us with our miracle daughter but as you said, itās so hard to not become bitter when it seems like so many people are just popping kids out right and left that donāt really care or even worse are terminating their pregnancies when there are plenty of us who would do anything to have a baby. My heart hurts for you and your wife and I will keep yāall in my prayers! šš
Thank you fren, I ache for your pain and losses too. Itās happened a couple of times now and I know thatās where our brains are drifting but weāre trying to stay positive and saying we will try again. It is just so incredibly difficult not to be bitter, I know I need to be better but damn it stings. Thank you for sharing and for your thoughts and prayers. Our little family appreciates it and will be sending prayers and good vibes your way as well. Love.
{{Hugs}} fren. Happened to us as well. And, I know each individual feels the pain differently. For me, personally, I had āstickyā blood, which kept clogging the umbilical cord. I ended up taking a baby aspirin every day three months ahead of trying again, and then throughout both successful pregnancies, stopping about a week before delivery so as to not bleed out. No doctor will recommend this.
But, I do have to wonder with all of this CV crap these last few years, if more women are experiencing the same.
Prayers and love to you both.
Thank you fren, youāre kindness is appreciated. That is very interesting, I will def be looking into that further!
All the prayers to you and your wife. I would say though bitter, prayer is the quickest way to reconciliation which will ultimately improve your physical health as well as spiritual. There is a ton of power in our thoughts and emotions. I hope you can both mend a quickly as possible.
Thank you for your kindness fren.
Praying for both of you. We lost several, whom I trust weāll see someday in heaven. God has also blessed us with other wonderful children. He understands the suffering of parents losing a child. Hang in there, donāt give up.
Thanks, yes weāre tryin to focus on our wonderful son and that we can always try again. Thank you for your kindness.
Been there, done that and it is terribly heart breaking! All I can say is that God blessed us with 4 adopted children, all as babies with one set of twins! So very thankful for those 3 Moms who chose life for their babies. Treasures to us! I wish you both the best and a healthy pregnancy next time :)
Thank you Kathryn. We will looking at that route as well after hearing so many stories from amazing and loving frogs like you. We still have hope that the best is yet to come, one way or another. Thank you for kind support.
My wife and I have been trying for our first and no luck yet. It does seem cruel that the worst people seemingly get pregnant so easily from one night stands, by accident, while hopped up on drugs etc yet good people really desperate to have children struggle even when they do everything from tracking ovulation, nutrition/diet and timing everything correctly.
Exactly! Itās such a slap in the face, Hell, maybe weād both be less stressed and better equipped if daddy gubment paid for everything too! But alas, our white privilege of working 60hrs a week prevents that. (Sorry I know thatās bitter and not helpful but I feel for good patriots like you and your wife who, like us, want NOTHING more than to do this [Life] the RIGHT way and canāt seem to catch a break). Thank you fren and our thoughts, prayers and love are with your family as well. Best of luck!