Last week I made a good post about Grandma Anon for those asking for news. She had some good days last week, woke up but then would become "sleepy" and intermittently unresponsive. Then last Friday, she had the best night she's ever had and was awake and alert with the night staff, laughing, smiling. I got to see her around 6 am and talked to her and joked that she's always awake with me because I'm her favorite child. She looked at my phone as I showed her pictures of my boys and she said "they are good boys." The nurse had to change her since she kicked her poo bag, I got back to visit her and she was asleep. The nuero team that morning said she likely had one or two more nights in ICU then would transfer to a another stroke unit then go on to a rehab place. I was on cloud nine. I came back home to be with my family and she hasn't woke up since I left her. She won't respond to anything they ask. The ICU NP just had a hard conversation with my dad about the fact this might be how my mom will be the rest of her life. Sleeping in a bed, having to be fed through a tube and not controlling her bowels. I went from so happy last Friday to so much despair. Her neuro team has no idea what is going on and why she's declining and wont stay awake. Her scans look good, blood flow is moving to all parts of her brain, and she's not having strokes or seizures. I've felt messages from God telling me she's healing and she will get better. But then we hear this from the ICU team. I have no idea what to think or feel, but I do feel so much despair that we might have to make a really hard decision about the quality of her life.
Please pray for her and her family, especially my dad who has to be there all alone until we can make it there. Pray for me, I'm doubting if I'm even feeling messages from God at this point. Maybe I'm making it up to feel better about everything. I feel like such a dumby and I'm losing my faith she will be healed and I can hug her again.
Dear fren, whatever happens, do not lose faith. The goodness of our God does not depend on our getting what we think we want, when we think we want it. He is still good, He still loves you, and if you belong to Him in Christ, He promises to work ALL THINGS (even death) for our good. In the midst of it all, this is so very hard to see, but it is true nonetheless. For perspective, I’m not just sharing empty platitudes with you. A number of years ago, our family walked through the completely unexpected journey of losing a preemie twin at 9 days old. That is another story, but suffice it to say, I am intimately acquainted with grief and the questions you’re asking and always wondering how things might have been different. Similarly to your story, our daughter had one really amazing day before she suddenly took an unexpected turn for the worse. I pray for your mom’s complete restoration, but EVEN IF IT DOESN’T HAPPEN, you were given the gift of that beautiful day together. Treasure it and hold tightly to that memory no matter what the days ahead may bring. 🙏
I won’t lose faith, I love Him and he’s the only thing that has gotten me through this whole ordeal. I know he has a plan, and our suffering is used for good. My faith is shaken just in that I really really felt the Holy Spirit tell me she was going to be ok and get through this. So now I doubt my sanity in that, that I maybe am hearing something from the devil instead.
Perfectly said 🙏🏼
This.
Well said...at the end of the day this world ends; but Jesus is the only way. Praying for your Moms recovery Meek; but more importantly that you don't lose faith fren. God is good.
We’ve been praying for Grandma Anon. My hubby and I were talking to God about her yesterday. We will continue to pray for her, your dad and you. My husband said she’s healing when I read your post to him. Be patient. Don’t make any rash decisions yet. We are with you through this whole thing. God bless you all. Keep praying. God is talking to you. No matter what, you have a lot of people praying for you and you will make it through this. We’re asking for an Easter miracle. Please God. Help this family. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen.
Praying for an Easter miracle.
Prayer sent, fren. Stay strong.
Prayers for you and your family is this time of grief and fear. I agree with others who said your grandma is healing, as it is during sleep that much energy is diverted to healing. It is also possible that her good day with you was her "rally day", frequently seen especially in the elderly shortly before death. We had that experience with my dad. Either way, she will be healed and you will hug her again, in this life or the next. Do not give up your faith. If she goes on to heaven, you will be sad and miss her earthly presence, but how can you wish for her to be here rather than there. "There" is the goal for all of us. God bless you.
Yes I thought that to, about rallying day.
When my dad passed he had been pretty much out of it. Then the day before he woke up and ask for his favorite snack, smoked oysters on ritz. Bless his heart.
As His child, you WILL hear the 'Shepard's' voice, trust and believe. Don't let the enemy's weapon of fear and doubt, destroy your peace. Praying that the Lord will bathe you and your family, with His peace. God bless you.
I went through a very similar crisis of faith with my own mother within the last few years as we slowly lost her to Alzheimers at the ripe old age of 48 to now at 52. It hurts so much and it's hard to understand gods plan and accept it when it's happening at home. If you genuinely believe god was speaking to you then there's a solid chance he was, we just don't always know what he's saying or his reasons and can only pray and accept what comes.
I pray for your grandmother and your family. I pray for her health and the health of your family around you. And I pray that if it really is time for Jesus to call her home to him that the love and care in your family right now brings you closer to each other and closer to god so that when the time comes you meet again in the kingdom of heaven.
Thank you for your kind words. She's my mother, and the only grandmother to my children, so I think a user here coined the term grandma anon from that. That's confusing I know. She has a very good spiritual backbone and knows that her body is just a shell and her soul longs to be with God. I'm selfishly wanting her here to be a guide to my children who love her so, as she was my primary babysitter. And she was my only friend the one I could have deep conversations with, ranging from Q posts to our thoughts on God, only she would understand and give me insights. Right about now is when I would call her and she would comfort me and get my head straight. I just really miss her already.
Praying for your Mother, Father and you. Lord please heal this good woman and let the ICU doctors be amazed at the quick and full turnaround. Let the hospital staff be dumfounded at the complete and total recovery. Show them your awesome power Lord. I pray this in your son Jesus name. Amen.
Prayers on the way for your family fren.
Dear God please be with Grandma Anon in her time of need. Take your hands and hold her and heal her if that is you will.
In your sons name Jesus Christ.
Amen.
Prayers still going to you & your entire fam meek.
In times like this I have needed to think eternally. God will embrace you & your family if you let him.
If he has told you she will recover, than I would expect it to happen. Though I too had to learn the difference between the holy spirit & my own emotionional internal dialogue. I am convinced that learning to accurately hear & discern the holy ghost/spirit is key to survival in these days leading up to what is coming. I pray what your heard is true, though if it is not, self reflection & growing closer to God to learn how to truly hear Him better, if needed, is far better in your life, along with your spouse & children's lives as well.
Being given the gift of having a fully coherent mother to share your time with is so precious. I have another friend who only got months of sleeping in a hospital next to his mother & working remotely so that she had someone there during her last months. She rarely recognized them & at times would tell staff to remove the stranger. It broke his heart every single time.
u/Christian_Patriots has some amazing personal insight into this grief cycle & how faith builds you up even stronger.
I love you meek & really hope things turn out the way you want. Keep close to God & know that he never gives any trial you are not strong enough to meet.
God is with you all. May he heal and restore your mother to good health and independence, joy and fulfillment. May he bless you all with comfort and ease throughout all of this.
In prayers.
(((Big hugs))) Prayers for your mom and your family. I know the body heals when we are sleeping, so perhaps your mom is hurrying her healing by sleeping.
Praying for Grandma Anon and your family.
I will certainly keep her and her family in my prayers. This is hard I know. Went through this last October.
Don’t lose your faith……sometimes it gets tested. Prayers for your dear mother and you, to be healed and to stay strong ! Everything is in Gods hands, he knows what he’s doing and always does the right thing…..one way or the other BE FAITHFUL !
Praying for you and your family. Please do not doubt your faith or your experience - and remember how much medical science doesn’t know and can’t explain. If you’re in a listening mood there was a Skeptiko podcast in 2022 that I found empowering as it relates to medical diagnoses. Basically the inverse of placebo effect which can be positive, and that the words perceived medical “experts” speak over and to us can direct negative outcomes like self-fulfilling prophecies.
https://skeptiko.com/steve-bierman-hypnosis-nlp-in-the-er-570/
Praying for Grandma Anon and for your family, Meek. My Mother had a stroke with after effects that sound a lot like Grandma's. God took the reins and brought her to Heaven. I know this is not the outcome you all want. We didn't want it either. Let go and give it to God. He will make the best decision for Grandma and for all of you.
Still praying fren. My children have included your mother & entire family in our prayers for meals & daily scripture study.
I hope your family is keeping love alive & finding ways to stay close to our Savior during this time.
I just read this reply and it sent chills all over me. Thank you so so much. i just made an updated post, so keep praying. She has a long long road ahead of her.
Prayers up 🙏
prayers and a Psalm, calmimg harp Psalm 98, if you can get these on to an MP3 player for your Grandma Anon: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMTUdRlJNtg (Psalm 98); https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgFk0lkoMsw (Harp Stillness in 528 Hz); https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPwAuH5egck (444Hz harp); more at their website https://www.calmingharp.com/
I pray for awesome news about Grandma Anon's strength and healing!
I feel for your dad. And you. I'm sorry for forgetting but did you say your dad lives near or with your gran? If your grandma goes through rehab and is then "sent home" be aware that home hospice is available to support the care giver. My fam has this. Palliative (comfort) care. But this can be a very long journey for family caregivers. No tubes, no resuscitation. Meds for pain only. And could go on with someone in a vegetative state for even a year or more. Do you have any Medical power of attorney or document gran signed about her preference re life sustaining procedures if terminal. I have someone who has such and I know if he was in a coma-like state he would not want to be sustained at the hosp. I don't think an unconscious person going longer than a month like that is reasonable if the patient has brain issue, or has cancer, and is being kept alive with tubes and are in a facility. With home hospice you have to really think it through because it is usually morphine for pain or afib, that helps with the passing. Not everyone can deal with that responsibility. I see fam caregivers own health being risked by days and nights of this. Yes I pray. For a miracle healing, or peace and for release, for everyone's sake. But guess what... it is painfully obvious that the answer turns out to be that it is totally up to the spirit of the ill one. My sister has fooled us several times. It's between her and God. So in my case with my sister, I pray now for her caregiver to keep their health and survive this. (Her daughter. They live 3000 miles from me) I would not bring an unconscious person "home" for hospice. Even if you have home hospice help. The remaining care a family member would have to do is extremely debilitating and could go on a long time. People think hospice is only 6 months. I took care of someone in hospice for years when I was doing my 22 years of home health work. And hospice people are not with you round the clock.
Let healing be to your mother in Jesus's name Amen. Let peace and strengthened faith be to you in Jesus's name. AMEN
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God will make her better. Understand it’s His will, not our own. Doesn’t mean you’ll get what you want, it’s what God wants for her. If she passes, she will be truly healed. I myself have another family member being buried today. Another funeral in this supposed winning war. I’m not winning. We won’t win, not in this world. But we will with Jesus. He is the way. I’m guaranteed the win because my savior defeated this world. And I’m with Him, through thick and thin. Keep your focus on God, don’t be distracted by worldly things. And because of sin, we will all die. It is a worldly thing. But it’s not eternal death, as long as you’re right with God, Jesus, death is only a stepping stone. Just like it was for Jesus. He is the way, and we will follow His path to the cross. We know His path, upon that cross. The world spat on Him, beat Him, tortured. And He overcame the world. So will we. If she is fading, and nothing can be done, then be thankful. God is taking her home. And no one can stop that. Thank you Jesus. For your promises. For your forgiveness. For your love. If you are indeed taking her home to be with you Lord, then we will rejoice. As you rejoice in Heaven for us. Thank you.
By the stripes of Jesus...
Don't give up hope yet. Give the brain some time to heal. Give her love and keep talking to her. Let her know how many strangers are praying for her.
Praying Fren.
Praying for all of you.
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Hold on fren - God will do what is right for you all. Praying for you and your family. 🙏🙏🙏