Asking for prayers frens.
🧘Mental/Physical Health 🏋🏼♂️
Just got blindsided with having to have a double hernia repairs, my child with Achondroplasia having to have his guide growth plates to fix his bowlegs taken out and find that my house needs a new roof and that cost is upwards of 35k. I make decent money (85k) and have some savings but I am unsure how I will pay for all of this. Insurance will help with the medical side a bit but it all has taken a toll on my mental health and am just asking for prayers. Thanks to this group and getting back to church and God has helped. This is just a lot to digest. Thank you all.
Heavenly Father we love you so much. Father we know u laid out our lives even before we were born. You know everything about us and what we can withstand. However we are human(as u know) and the weight of the world can often feel like to much. father I ask that u be with our fren here as they walk through this darkness. Give them peace and joy during this because you are God and u love us more than we can ever know. Guide there heart and minds so they can make the best choices through this. Let them feel the love me and so many others are sending there way. In Jesus Christ glorious name amen
I'm here if u need a fren to vent to. keep faith. Love u. God bless
Thank you so much. It has brought tears to my eyes so the kindness and sincerity. God is great, life is just sometimes so hard to handle. Thank you again.
Thank you! We will get through this is just a matter of how and when. Prayer is the best way to help alleviate some of the mental anxiety I experience daily. I'm less worried about me but most worried for my kids.
Amen!
May it be so. Amen.
Amen.
It seems like when it rains it pours but I’ve learned that’s exactly the time to lean further in to the Lord. He will bring you through it all. You’ll look back and wonder why you were so afraid and yes, I know that fear but I also have received miracles from God.
Lord Jesus our fren and your child is dealing with the trials of life. We humbly approach your throne of glory, grace and mercy and ask that you supply peace, comfort, restoration in health and finances for him/her and family. You know the situation and we give you thanks and praise in advance of all you’re about to do for our fren. You know our needs before we ask. You are mighty and merciful! All praise and glory belong to you! Amen and amen
Thank you! I need to further lean into him. My life has been quite the journey. As has most of everyone's. I just don't want to struggle like I feel I am..my depression and anxiety already have caused me enough grief, but as someone who lost everything in Hurricane Katrina, I know in hindsight I'll look back at everything here and see the blessing it was for me and my family.
I’ve been down that same road fren, not Katrina but at 30 years old in a state I never dreamed I would be living in, my 36 year old husband was murdered on his job as an EMT. It’s been a roller coaster ride ever since but I can assure you, there are blessings to be found now and especially in the future. I’ll be praying for you daily. You will get through this.
Wow. So sorry to hear. I was fresh out of college when Katrina hit. I landed on my feet in time. My first born has Achondroplasia (dwarfism) and that too knocked me down, now I wouldn't change it for anything. Was laid off at the end of 2020, son had his plates put in 12 days later, 4 days after that my father died. Landed on my feet, although I miss my dad so dearly. And now this. It's a minor bump compared to live iTself but just rough. However, youve ensured much with the loss you had and how it happened. This forum is full of so many good God loving people. The best is yet to come.
Special children are placed with special people. God bless you fren.
Amen fren. It sure is
God Bless you & your son fren! 🙏
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Came to say the same. Having whammy all at the same time is enough to drive you to your knees. Run to Jesus. And know that this too, shall pass. God bless you and your son. My prayers are with you .
Amen.
I pray for God's blessings on your household , love and comfort for you and your family. Today and into the future.
I appreciate your prayers and kindness. Thank you.
Amen! Cool! We do the same kind of prayers!
God please be by this child's side on his hour of need.
Thank you for the kind words and prayer.
You are welcome.
Take care of yourself and family.
Amen 🙏
Dear Lord, please send MZ & his child the people & resources they need. Bless their medical teams with wisdom & discernment. Let them be extensions of your healing hands. Bless him & his family, and all who know & love them, with the faith in Jesus who died on the cross for the sins of the world so that if we believe this, our relationship with you could be forever restored. Because of the redeeming work that Jesus has done, I stand firmly on the rock of salvation & bring MZ & his child into your presence with my prayers joining those of the others asking for health & healing, as well as assistance for their home repairs. Thank you, Father that we can come into your presence on behalf of others. Thank you for the providence and steadfast love you have for us that endures forever. Thank you for hearing our prayers. I ask all this in Jesus' Mighty name, Amen.
Thank you for the words of prayer. Like many others who have replied, I'm so grateful for all of you to take a moment to prayer for me and my family.
You are so welcome!
Praying God will help with healing for your child as well as your own medical issues. And that he alleviates your financial struggles. He's there. He will walk through this with you, fren. You will survive.
I know he's there. I feel the spirit inside me as I am reading these posts. Your prayer truly mean so much.
I'm glad fren.
Thank you for the prayers fren..
35K is pretty high for a roof. Does the wood decking need to be replaced or just the shingles?
A couple of the metal roof companies were soliciting for houses for them to install for free to use in their ads. Maybe you can find one of those in your area.
It's because of it's pitch 10/12, and apparently 51 squares. Still seems high. More quotes to come.
One place I did not think to check with were local insurance company offices. They have to get repairs done, and know people with good skills and reasonable prices in the area. Went to several companies price-shopping for insurance, and mentioned my roof issue. One agent pulled open his desk drawer which was filled with business cards from all the local tradesmen, and steered me to a roofer. I was very pleased with his price and quality of work.
Hint: if there is any sort of storm damage like from hail that may have caused leaks, it may be covered by home insurance. See if the roofers find evidence, and if yes, then have the home insurance company send an adjustor, cross your fingers and pray. Worked out like that for a widow I know.
Thanks. Even if it's past it's useful life? I've heard of it but didn't think it would be possible because of it's age.
Just be careful if you use your insurance because if you have another claim, even a small one, they’ll drop you and it’ll be hard to get insurance. I know three people that that has happened to. If the roof is old they may pay for it but take off for it being old.
I agree with u/JFQ17 - call and ask, without submitting a claim. With a little grace from God, you might find folks who are willing to work with you.
You’re in my prayers tonight. Hang in there, fren!
Praying for you and your family. It's hard to have so many "must do" things at one time.
The Lord will refine you through the fire! May He comfort, heal and bless you, through this time and forever more!
Praying 🙏
Isaiah 43:2-3
2 When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee.
3 For I am the Lord thy God, the Holy One of Israel, thy Saviour: I gave Egypt for thy ransom, Ethiopia and Seba for thee.
Jesus commanded us not to be afraid but to trust. Trials come to strengthen our faith. God has the answer to all our problems and provision for our needs: praise, bless and thank Him for his love and faithfulness. He will never leave or forsake us. Remember Matthew 14:22-31
25 And in the fourth watch of the night Jesus went unto them, walking on the sea.
26 And when the disciples saw him walking on the sea, they were troubled, saying, It is a spirit; and they cried out for fear.
27 But straightway Jesus spake unto them, saying, Be of good cheer; it is I; be not afraid.
28 And Peter answered him and said, Lord, if it be thou, bid me come unto thee on the water.
29 And he said, Come. And when Peter was come down out of the ship, he walked on the water, to go to Jesus.
30 But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried, saying, Lord, save me.
31 And immediately Jesus stretched forth his hand, and caught him, and said unto him, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?
Don't look at the waves, look at Jesus.
Thank you! I appreciate the bible references and the time to prayer for me and my family.
God will meet your needs according to His riches in glory. Faith is believing what you can't see...
"Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me for I am meek and lowly in heart and ye shall find rest unto your souls..." Matthew 11:28-29
God is all you need..ask and ye shall receive...
God richly bless you and yours...life can be very tough at times but trust that God has it all under control.... Amen
Thank you fren! I truly appreciate your words.
Prayers for you brother. It has been tough on all of us. You are not alone. Some of the sweetest times I have spent with Father have been in my roughest times. I would not trade them for anything. Thanks for reaching out.
Hang in there. We are with you.
35k for a roof? Nope either thats a typo or they are ripping you off.
Well I thought it was a rip off as well. However I have a 10/12 pitch and 5100 sqft of roof..my house is on 2300 sqft but due to the complicated roofing layout, that seems to the price for architectural shingles. Not sure if 3 ply shingles are cheaper but are they worth it. I don't know.
Are they taking off the old shingles? Do they need to replace plywood or structure? 35k even with a modern 10/12 sounds like way too much. I am a concrete contractor. Mostly residential. I know exactly the type of roof you are talking about.
How many bids did you take? Are they all similar? Have you asked around what neighbors have paid? 35k is just Wow!
Hey. Thanks for the response. I did talk to a neighbor and got another quote this afternoon. It was $21k with changing out both my skylights. Much more in line with my expectations.
Still a tad high but much better. Ill take my consulting fee in silver hehe.
Its very difficult judging prices right now. I am having a difficult time finding help. And even the inexperienced help is costing me a fortune in wages. Which of course raises the cost of my Worker Comp and Unemployment "contributions".
I have raised my prices too. I have had too. My costs are skyrocketing but builders are slow to keep pace. So I have to try and make up some of these losses through homeowner work.
I really hate doing this because I feel in the long run it is a detriment. But what am I to do? Most of us contractors are barely hanging on atm and when they raise interest rates again I see 2008 all over again. In 2008 if I hadnt had federal contracts with HUD and at the VA I would have lost everything. I dont have that this time.
But this time around all my equipment is paid off except for a couple trucks If the company loses them because it cant pay the bills Ill just retire. In 2008 I was early 40s with a couple kids still at home. This time Im 58, kids grown and gone, house and 3 different parcels around the State paid for in full. I dont want to retire though, I was hoping to do this forever at a slower pace. Maybe get rid of the builders production work and just do a few decorative and custom jobs for homeowners.
Sounds like you're in need of some prayers as well. I'll pray for you.
As for my situation it may be a tad bit high but with the complex roof I have, isn't over the top surprising. Beats the 35k quite and my first quote from another company was $48k. I'm going to get a few more quotes next week. We shall see.
Thanks for the conversation, and I do hope your work is consistent and allows you to keep working. I also hope this crapshoot of the past few years ends because it's not good for anyone.
We all need prayers brother. The world needs prayers.
The world needs Jesus. We've strayed too far.
Sending prayers your way!!! Praying for your child’s health too!
Stay strong. God never gives you more than you can handle. Perhaps a 2nd mortgage will help spread out the roofing bill. Be sure to hire a reputable company who will warranty the roof for at least 25 years. We tore off our roof twice, the first time the man went out of business, so the second time around we paid more and had a warranty that is transferable should we sell.
As time goes by, the 'putting on the armor of God' makes more and more sense to me. I know we tend to think and talk about it around here in terms of the big picture battle, but I think it applies to our own little personal battles as well.
I am kind of going through some similar stuff right now. My prayers are with you fren - WWG1WGA.
Update: while my surgery and my son's are still a little ways away, I did get good news about roofing. 21k all inclusive and more in line with my thoughts and that with two new skylights. I appreciate all the encouraging words, prayers and conversation. Keep praying for my surgery March 1 and then that whenever my kiddo has to have surgery it goes smoothly. God is great! Tha k you all.
Prayers going up.
If you have wind/hail insurance on your home ask a roofer to check to see if there is any hail damage on your roof tiles. You could at least get some money towards a new roof.
Lord, you are our provider and we ask you to send the provision our fren, who trusts that prayer is effective and we believe with him in faith because of your word, needs. I pray for the roof materials and labor to come his way through sales and friends, insurance, discounts, funds.... whatever way you choose Lord.... and that you'd pour out your peace just as plentifully as the provision this family needs. Amen.
Most roofs can be repaired, and don't need replacement,it can be put off for years. If you can do that it would help you budget the money for it.
Prayers on the way.
Please do not let them install the roof. That figure is much too high.
I have a little picture near my bed "when you go to sleep, give all your troubles to GOD, he will be up all night anyway."
Dear Lord God, please help our friend and his family make it through this time of testing. Please make their paths straight and their burden easy and light. In Jesus’ name we ask this. Amen.
Wow! God must really have a wonderful blessing coming your way because the enemy is working over time to destroy your mental well being. He knows if he gets into your thoughts and causes doubt that he can win. Put on the armor everyday and point your finger in his face and tell him he has already been defeated. Because our Father says that he will never leave the righteous forsaken. Just one day at a time. It’s going to be fine. Running off to pray for you right now ❤️🙏🏻
Just had my roof replaced & the roofer went to bat for me with the insurance agency.
Make sure you review your policy, it likely will cover roof replacement. It will likely be a fight to get them to do what is right, just go in with accurate info about the policy.
Prayong for you fren.
Praying for you and your soon, Midlife.
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