This is what winning the culture back looks like: “I Regret Being a Slut.” An essay by a former? feminist.
(bridgetphetasy.substack.com)
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That is an awesome article. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thank the brave author. She is a hero to stand up and tell the truth about being lied to and misled.
The problem is, she is still misled. She is going to tell her daughter that sex with anyone is OK as long as you love yourself. Wanna bet. God's design isn't some overbearing rule to make us unhappy. God's design, when followed will result in the greatest joy.
Just like the corruption of the young has been done progressively over at least 4 generations (in America). It may take 1 or 2 generations to rediscover God's path. I'm betting just one gen after the carnage from the vaccine and corruption is on full display. Those that survive will lead the way.
I'm not 100% with you on that. I think the greatest joy will come from not lying to yourself and not buying into the socially popular ideals just because they're socially popular.
Some people want to be a slut. I'm not going to say that's fine, but if it's what they truly want it's going to make them happier than following a set of rules laid out for them.
It's essentially the inverse of what the author outlined as her own rigid rules in the article. It doesn't take a leap to see why one might not like that or find happiness in that, either.
Ultimately the only way we find our happiness is to make our own ways, make mistakes, learn from them, learn about ourselves and improve ourselves. And we'll never get there if we're lying to ourselves.
I know the sex dynamic doesn’t always permit it but men should not waste their seed on unworthy women either.
Even more important given child support laws in most states. Only thing worse than being married to a mentally ill person is having to pay for them to f**k up your kids (reportedly).
If people were chaste and godly, there would be no need for divorce.
I just dodged this exact bullet. She hid the crazy well.
Who knew it was a documentary?
Truth be told the greatest lie ever told about the genders is that men are a ruthless horndogs that think about sex constantly and that women are somehow reluctant, prudish creatures.
The honest reality the inverse is more true. Women are, in my experience and the experience of the other men in my life, HORNY, and libidinous to an almost absurd extreme. Further women who don't have sex regularly become insane, increasingly so the longer they are forced into celibacy. The majority of porn is commissioned by and consumed by women, the majority sex toy sales are to women.
And yes female incels is a real thing. While a women generally can always find sex, she would have to lower her standards, and some of these women are convinced they are nothing less than petite aristocracy despite earning $15/hour, all while endlessly complaining that somehow no man is good enough for her. I know one, it was always amusing to watch her, a small time clerk, go on about how medical doctors, and other six figure male earners, were not good enough for her, for years until she is now overweight and 40, all while she rejected about 20 men in her social group. Because of course in no way ever, was she insane, delusional, and egomaniacal thinking she was worthy of a MD as clerk. Oh and she was a Hillary voter to boot)
Men by contrast, are easy to arouse of course as we all know well, and generally very agreeable to opportunities for sex. But in the end sex itsself is optional for the male mind. I've known single men who have simply decided the wretched state of modern "feminist influenced" women, coupled with the life-shattering, finically-ruining risks of a bad marriage means many men are openly choosing to forgo relationships with women simply because the orgasms are not worth the hassle, expense, and risk. But those men, who are NOT virgins and not incels btw, are perfectly sane during long stretches of voluntary celibacy. Several I know have openly sworn off women for the rest of their lives, because they cannot stomach the modern, entitled, greedy, selfish bitches feminism turn Amreican women into. But, end of the day, they are pleasant, well adjusted, stable in their jobs, happy keeping their own houses to themselves, and happy with their hobbies. They pick up a fling now and again, and then drop her, several I know "buy services" and carry on without a care in the world.
Sure there is a woman who remembers that men don't exist to serve them like slaves with open wallets, but they remain rare and are quickly snatched up. And the toxic influence of liberal feminism makes sure that the women who remember men are people, and not walking wallets slaves, are rare. That is the other Big Lie of feminism, that its the "Patriarchy" when the reality is they have make our world into one of legally-enforced misandry, just as BLM is forcing the implementation of "Reverse Jim Crow."
And I've yet to meet a sane female celebrate, yet to meet a sane feminist. It seems to be some kind of biological selection system, that is she doesn't make the cut and pleases men, thus gets sex regularly, to weed her out of the gene pool completely with non-functional insanity.
Its where the "karens" come from, toxic shrews of housewives who in their selfish narcissism have long ago caused their husbands to lose all sexual interest in her and sent their husbands looking to hookers or porn to sate his needs, who are thus untouched women who do nothing but make life difficult for everybody around them for their own amusement.
Which I think in the end is what pisses off feminists the most. MEN DON"T NEED THEM, but they NEED men. Which is why its "feminists are trying to push young men into thinking they are slavish horndogs, slaves their urges who NEED women, trying keep the social dynamic power in the lap of women, instead of what it always used to be, and SHOULD be: which is men and women working together to support each other. Not women living as parasites off a man's back.
This is full of good points
That was one of a number, really awesome lines.
Great article. Thanks for posting it.
Would bet $100 she went to a farmers market and noted all the no man cat ladies selling organic jam.
/inflection point
Wall effect
and I determine that even if you are, you need to make the public commitment first.
Restoration of the Family Unit is important. What most feminists don't appear to recognize is that for most of human history women were treated like, traded like cattle, and not able to vote. They have a lot of power, authority, and respect within the Family Unit and very little outside of the Family Unit where they are continuously abused by the government and treated worse than zombie slaves.
I'll take things that "post wall" females say for $400 Alex.
She's 43 now and has come to the realization that she should've used her good looks earlier in life to bag a better man. At 40+ she doesn't get so much as a slight stare from all the young bucks and high value alphas anymore and it pisses her off. She now has to "settle" for a beta.
Excellent article. Applies to men as well. Of course, society doesn't look down upon the man-whore quite as judgmentally as it does the slut woman, but the fact remains that not all men are looking for quantity over quality. I fall into that category, and even so, the number of women I have had sex with is embarrassingly high. Why? Not because I wanted to brag about bedding X number of women, but because I encountered a lot of women like the author of this article. Ghosted, one-offs, not by my choice, either. A lot of those were racked up during the dot-com boom, and I can tell you as someone who was in the thick of that, working at a dot-com, there was an especially strong epidemic of gold-digging whores at the time. They all wanted to date the CEO or someone with XXX options in their company. When new hires were given a Porsche as a hiring bonus (no lie), it kinda tilts the playing field.
I believe this is constant issue. Note that this is a standard method for gathering information about people to compromise them then or at a later time. Many "gold-digging whores" are actually agents getting paid by someone. Afterall, they are whores, right.
True, and as someone who is starting a consumer products company, I deal with a couple companies in China for a couple small parts that I can't have made in the US at anywhere near competitive pricing. I wish I didn't have to, believe me. I was going through Alibaba to locate suppliers, and before you know it, I am getting texted by some hot Chinese woman. It was pretty obvious that the CCP sent a honeypot to see what info they could get from me so they could back engineer my product. But homey ain't dumb.
She sorta gets it. Except she seems to be under the impression that men (in general) respect women who withhold sex. Most men looking for a hook up are turned off by a woman who is choosing to be chaste and are moving on to the next one. Women being “proud sluts” for those men is like shooting fish in barrel. Its not that withholding sex should be done to gain a mans respect its that if you withhold it and the guy doesnt care and is still really into you then you have a better gauge his true intentions. The withholding woman is respecting herself by weeding out the scumbags just looking for a hook up.
For normies it is though
Think of it, these people have no spiritual or existential purpose. They don't contemplate anything. Their time goes between work, Netflix, and published books. They rarely have love of God or country. And they're boring, bland, and basic "AF" Their relationships come down to physical chemistry and sexual compatibility
Sex and a vagina is probably all this smarmy, normie brunette has to offer
If I could only get my best friend/sista from another mista to realize that slutdom is not the answer... Will b sending this to her. Maybe she'll get the hint...
Not just leaving, tho, although the damage from that is likely to be great.
Relationship with father in general. Close? Good? Trust? Love? Had no real idea about this until I saw how my daughter was impacted by me and my behavior.
I don’t know about just a father leaving being the issue. I had both parents home but felt no love and my mother and sister picked on me about my looks and weight for years. I did go searching for someone to love me and ended up just searching for guys to treat/use me the way I felt inside so at least my feelings seemed justified
That is truly sad. I pray you have turned this around for yourself and found the support and love that you deserve.
Figuring it out and acknowledging it has helped but things are a struggle. Avoidance helps keep me from repeating the pattern but makes my depression worse. Plus being allow and staying to myself makes my anxiety/social awkwardness worse. Struggle is real
The internal work is always the hardest because it is difficult to turn off the tapes of negative self talk. I try to allow God to tell me who I am rather than listening to others, and especially myself. It helps when I can see myself through his eyes - because in his eyes, I do have real worth - and so do you.
I'll send it to her if you want.. just give me her number.
Kidding lol
sorta
Many people are majorly brainwashed and/or groomed by social media and women are especially susceptible for some reason. My theory is that their emotional nature blocks/overrides their discernment and critical thinking skills (assuming they had any to begin with).
My theory is bc women are in general social creatures, more so than men. Their need for social acceptance is higher and hence fall for social conditioning easier. Obviously generalizing, there are great many logical smart women on the other side of the spectrum, just talking about that middle bell curve area.
I heard an old saying that I feel sums it all up well - men are waffles and women are spaghetti.
Men have compartmentalized thinking. They can concentrate on one box at a time without being distracted. While in a particular box, men have the ability to focus on what is in that box with an intensity that most women seem to lack. But at the same time, most men cannot deal with another box until the one they are currently in is put back on the shelf - career box, family box, wife box, sex box, fishing box, etc. Men tend to stay in the box that gives them the most satisfaction while avoiding those boxes that are less satisfying. They also have the ability to not be in any box at all and just be - something most women can't fathom. I call it box decompression.
Women live lives where everything is connected to everything else in the bowl. Its a tangled mess to the average man trying to figure it out - and I think at times to women themselves. The sauce that clings it all together is emotion. Thier mind is able to go many places at the same time and not get dizzy from the experience. This connectiveness gives them the ability to multitask working with different strings of spaghetti all at the same time that would bring the average man to a complete standstill. Read the proverbs women in Proverbs 31. That women has a lot going on.
So, God made men and women different. Different, not just on the outside, but he wired our brains differently as well - all to serve different purposes that are supposed to work together for the whole. I think when men and women can finally see our sexual uniqueness beyond just biology and biological function, fully appreciating those qualities unique to their own sex, and can see and appreciate the unique differences in the other, then we may be able to get past some of the BS attempts at homogenization that ultimately are destroying both.
Epiphany phase.
Yep. This kind of self-reflection never happens while they're still attractive.
There's a wide chasm between being an uptight prude and an indiscriminate slut. Most women fit somewhere into that chasm. Unfortunately, the author chose to be an indiscriminate slut.
"Chose" is the operative word. Many people do not view being brainwashed, groomed, or coerced through peer pressure as a choice, yet it is, IMO. Looks like she woke up and chose a different path later. Many people prefer to be told what to do because it is so much easier to not think.
I mean I agree with what you're saying except the last bit: it SEEMS easier... In reality it's actually worse for you not to think.
But even that comes in varying degrees. Some simple folk just wanna live simple lives- I mean I think I'm a little higher functioning and I want a simple life too... It shouldn't be complicated. Or super hard.
Yes. I was being sarcastic. It is definitely worse not to think, but most people do not want to do it because it requires effort. That was my point. People are lazy, outsource their thinking to other people called "experts", get screwed over, then wonder what happened.
And get exactly what they deserve in the process...
She got married once and Divorced. Statistically speaking her 2nd marriage is even more likely to result in Divorce. And current statistical trends indicate the woman is the one filing the majority of the time.
Granted just because the numbers lean that way. Doesn’t mean it’ll actually happen. Truthfully I hope for the best for them and that it works out in the long run.
Good observation. I would bet higher probability of success in 2nd marriages for someone with this level of self-awareness and modified outlook (compared to 1st...assumption).
"The dark side of the sexual revolution is that even though it liberated women—unyoking sex from consequences has primarily benefited men."
Still the victim. She has learned nothing. Not all men want to boink sluts, but it suits her to think so.
The sexiest thing about a woman is when she is honest and doesn't play games. That mindset can stay with you well into your older years, because if you're relying on the physical part to get you through, at some point you're going to realize the short-sightedness of that position [pardon the play on words]. My first wife wanted sex all the time, on her terms, and it was up to me to step up. That became tedious to the point of resentment because it wasn't special, it was a chore. When I married my second wife, she had been through an abusive relationship so we were both tired of playing codependent games. We just wanted to share each other, and the sex came naturally and it was beautiful. Now, we are older and wiser, and are living in our final years, and personally the best thing is coming home from work to see her, sit down, talk, have a drink, hold hands and be honest. Shit, I don't need a heaven where everyone walks around on clouds. Give me a porch swing with my wife, and our dogs asleep at our feet, because that's all that really matters.
Nice! Only thing I’m missing are the dogs and the porch swing!
Yep! My wife was honest about her lifestyle choices, didn't try to hide anything and well... Honesty and truth win out overall. It doesn't matter what mistakes we've made. We're honest and open all the time and that's what makes it easy.
Hear Hear.
This mindset is why I've quit dating entirely. There are so many different "rules" and there are a billion excuses for her to think youre a creep. And it doesnt help that for a good 80% of men, online dating is like applying to a job. Cold approaching random women in public is just a crazy idea in 2022
Grace will lead them Home. (as it does all of us :)
Amen.
Of course. Nothing lubricates the cooch like power.
Dude the minivan market right now is insane. People are paying 10k over msrp. Can you believe that?
But otherwise, in more normal economic times, your analogy stands.
People are lost. The only true Savior: JESUS!
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I’m not speaking for all women. I know many women with a solid sense of self who happily have loveless sex. This piece won’t make them defensive. But a lot of women will read this and bristle, just like I did, when I used to read something that pushed back on the lie I’d built my entire identity around.
Or maybe you’re a trans or nonbinary person reading this, thinking “What quaint ideas about gender and sex this old trad con has.” And to that I’ll say, it makes sense to me that the generation of young women who have experienced and borne witness to some of the worst side-effects of unyoking sex from consequence and love that Perry meticulously outlines in her book, “rough sex, hook-up culture, and ubiquitous porn”—would take a look around and decide:
I’d rather be a man. Or more accurately, I’d rather not be a woman.
But maybe it’s the inevitable conclusion to the sexual revolution. Today’s youth are being fed an even more dangerous lie than the one that I was fed about loveless sex. I was told sex doesn’t matter. They’re being told biology doesn’t matter.
This is a tragedy.
Sex is overblown by both secular and religious camps. It and it doesn't matter. It's the act of procreation primarily.
Intimacy is a separate component all together.
I believe the answer to be education. Unbiased, straight forward and to the point. Idealism should be shared from all views and ultimately people need to make their own choices for themselves.
I'm sorry the author feels bad about who she is. I hope she comes around to see she is still precious and valuable and accepts who she is.
No mention of God or what life-fulfilling womanhood ought to look like (perhaps Mary would be the best example, no?) Instead, its the same ol’ self centered perspective of what’s best for ME?
Self-centeredness and the never-satisfied pursuit for self-pleasure will be the downfall of the family structure in our culture. Reliance on God is what reassembles it.
We can wait what her 3rd husband says to find that out.
Reliance on "god" or rather a perverted idea of Him is what got us here in the first place...
Wow there is a lot of Judgement in the comments. Don't ANY of you understand how badly most people were/are conditioned in especially the last 3 generations? How the "elite" have used media, food, water, air, propaganda, celebrities from all sides, i.e. movies, tv, sports, social media, etc. to dumb us down, brow beat us into excepting the way they wanted us to be. All for our own destruction. Common men and women have enough enemies to fight. STOP Judging..just stop.
Most people understand that the brainwashing, conditioning, and abuse on everyone has been strong. Your observations are spot on, and this is why we must work together and not allow the elites to divide us (men/women). Nothing wrong with a little judgement to help evaluate the situation. It doesn't mean the men are not going to step in and save their (and other women) when needed.
Unless, of course, they determine it is not worth the trouble due to majorly lost souls consumed by evil and hatred of men. And there are many of these that must be weeded out via some judgement, so we don't waste our time trying to save the unsave-able.
She's getting there, just hasent quite woken all the way up yet. Sex is never about empowerment, it's an urge - pure and simple.
Not whoring yourself out there implies both to men and women. Ideally finding the right person to share your life with should always be the more desirable long term outcome; spontaneous sex is a momentary urge -- is does not last forever.
In life there are short term and longer term goals. It's important to recognize both and distinguish the difference.
I am amazed that she was brave enough to reveal this very personal part of her journey. That took major, major guts...and tons of self-awareness. Someone brave enough to do this is brave enough to continue the journey.
Next, "I Regret Being An Asshole For Any Reason." It'll do even better.
I'm pretty much there. I'm harsh in my efforts here to inform, call things as they are and help facilitate a flow of information that allows each of us to make our own informed decisions for our lives. A lot of religious fundamentalism hinders this because they think themselves correct. They think themselves the arbiters of truth. Religious elites are very much the same as all the rest all the way down to the pedophilia...
If you choose for yourself willingly a life of religious devotion, great! Good for you! As long as you had all the facts presented aren't forcing ideas on people without listening to the ideas of others, you're a friend to me. There is ZERO justification for arrogance. It divides. It kills. I've resolved that I can be wrong on things and if I am, okay.
I don't think being harsh is rude, if the circumstances are correct for it. But there's never been a good reason to write off a fellow human being, even if they're a rainbow-painted Democrat freedom fighter with swastikas tattooed on both ass cheeks.
I read this to the end, it's a start but she still can't see half the picture, and the words she's gonna tell her new daughter, yikes
Very good. And true. And sad, very sad.
They’re starting to uncrazy…
Lmao:
"15 things Bridget Phetasy learned from getting naked online."
https://www.playboy.com/read/why-share-nudes
What a nut case!
“Saying “nudies are beneath you” drives me crazy. These remarks go up my ass sideways…”
It drives her crazy because this is her entire identity. Imagine how her life could completely change if she gave herself over to Jesus.
Imagine if people displayed Jesus's unconditional love instead of taking His name in vein to shame and judge her...
That’s one of Satan’s lies. God hates sin and followers of God should hate sin as well. If we didn’t judge, how could we lead anyone to Christ?
Seems she had to come to these realizations herself and not have it forced one way or the other...