Breathe deep. Reflect on the years you were a defenseless child and your parents took care of your clothing and food while asking nothing in return. Forgive them for being stupid; truly they know not what they do.
They sound like a difficult case, but even they will wake up eventually. Don't give up on them, but don't forget that they have been brainwashed for decades longer than you have, and so be kind as their recovery will be harder.
Definitely find a way to earn money before moving out. Whether it's a gig job on Upworks or fiver, or a bus ride to a job at a store, you need a source of money to live on your own. A roof and bed, and daily meals should not be taken for granted. Prayer will help, too; God works in unexpected ways. Good luck and God bless
I would say the worst part is those sort of parents don't teach you the value of hard work and overemphasize school. You need to teach yourself discipline. There is a shortage of people willing to work hard.
I live on a farm. We like to get 18-20 year olds to stay for a while in exchange for some amount of work. It's funny to listen to young people whine while not doing nearly enough to pay for food and electricity. But after a few months they normally work out. They start to see how good it feels to finish something or how nice it is to walk around and see how you are improving the place.
It's hard to grow up, especially when you've missed important lessons. Staying with frustrating people who will pay your way is better then being homeless. Improving your self so you can be self supporting should be the goal.
It must be the food and water, because there are so many people in that age group who, in the peak of their life, cannot do 8 hours a day with just one or two days off. I don't get it. At 73 I still work, I would go crazy with nothing to do.
It is something. With the new labor laws lots of farmers want new workers to just do two days a week. two ten hours days of mostly driving a tractor slowly in circles. That would pay enough for them to rent a room and be independent. And I've learned we can't just throw a new kid out there. They won't make it. They have never done anything for that long. It's weird how many young people have never tried to do anything besides go to school and memorize.
Not at 22. And honestly even under 18, if they truly don’t want the responsibility and give no fucks about you, they could just put you up.. (for adoption - which is not age restricted). I met someone in life that actually happened to.
Psychic energy vampires, yes, and subs people seem to be able to shake it off more easily, but deep wounds remain and take time to heal. Praying for you
1st: CALL on the name of the LORD JESUS and put your FAITH in HIM.
2nd: HONOR and RESPECT your parents. You do not have to agree with them on politics. But the bible says that honoring your parents comes with a promise - a long life.
3rd:Be HONEST with yourself - do you have personal problems or addictions? Confess your sins to God and face your demons head on and God will give you the strength to overcome them.
4th - Get a job (any job) even if you have to walk or ride a bike in the rain to get there. Even if it is cutting grass or digging ditches. Get 3 jobs. You can not fix your car and take care of you problems if you are not working. Until you find a job WORK around the house for your parents for FREE doing anything you can - cleaning, changing lightbulbs, yardwork, etc... nonstop...(keep doing these things even AFTER you get a job)
5th- Once you save up enough money - find a deal, move out and rent a room maybe close to your job - do not get an apartment all by yourself - get a good roommate to share expenses.
6th- Surround yourself with GOOD people - (from church or work, etc) do not hang out with losers!
7th- Do not be idle (do not sleep late, do tv or internet or play video games at all...) until your life is turned back around
BONUS: think about what you want for the future - a family, a good job, a better life? You are young and it is all yours for the taking. Keep a positive attitude while you create a FUTURE vision for your life - and always say "MY BEST DAYS ARE AHEAD OF ME." cause with JESUS....they are!
This is the best advice anybody could’ve given you. Also find a Bible believing church, and start going to a men’s Bible study. That’s where you’re going to find the true support that you need on a daily basis. Men will be praying for you, they will be looking out for you, and I’ll be helping you to find a job, and a place to live with other fellow Christians. This is where you were fine true success.
No one gets their life in order overnight. It takes time and dedication to do.
Start a career not a job. Jobs can work short term but are very limited in growth potential. I know a lot of people who worked several jobs to get a career started.
3.Spend money only on what you need to build your life the way you are comfortable with. Once that is done you can think about "wants" vs "needs".
Learn. All the time. Not passively, actively. Actively work on what you need to start a career and once started actively learn to grow it. Always be the hardest working and most accountable.
Are you working? Could you share a place with 4 other guys, temporarily, in order to save money and be out of their house?
Have you ever heard of Dave Ramsey? If not, look him up. He teaches people how to get out of debt and build wealth. The main thing is to be able to pay for necessities, carry no debt and give yourself options.
Your income will be key to your success. If you haven't yet squared away your career choice, make that top priority. Figure out what you want to do and take the necessary steps to be qualified in that field. Good luck. Many have been where you are.
Thank you everyone for the helpful responses. I am trying to collect myself and just take it one step at a time, and be grateful for what I have in an otherwise extremely difficult situation (as I know so many are facing now). God bless
Jb, what Jimmer wrote above is the correct answer. It’s very difficult for us to ‘let go’ and put faith into something we cannot see or touch. Follow through with this, give your life to Christ. Repent of your sins and then ask for help. It will come.
^ This. I went the university route. 3 decades of exec / office bullshit and after a lot of slog and drudgery and dealing with unfathomable nonsense, I’m settled and comfortable. Most of my contemporaries from school went the trades route and were made before 30. Now all sitting pretty paying others to do their work.
I am a father of an extremely bright kid who I am encouraging to avoid university like the plague and gravitate towards the trades and honest hard work and widely transferable real skills that solve real-world problems, not the bullshit problems of the corporate/executive clown world.
When I graduated high school, I kept switching majors in college. Ended up dropping out and working in construction. Now in my 30s, I bought land cash and build my own house for a fraction of the cost because I knew how to build houses. I'm 35 and own my land and house free and clear.
Well done, fren. I achieved the same end result eventually but my path took 20 years longer, was riddled with debt, stress, and poor health from being a desk bound drone commuter careerist, and replete with mountains of bullshit. You are the kind of positive model I will share with my kid.
I don't know if your child likes the outdoors, but I do, so I bought land out in a forested area out in the country. My house is in the middle of the woods. It's an off-grid homestead with a creek. Solar panels power my house, I raise chickens, pigs and vegetables. I also like to hunt and fish and we have deer, turkey, rabbit and dove. I plan to dig a pond somewhere in these woods near the creek and I think my parents are gonna build their retirement cottage here too. And I have built everything myself. Working in construction, I was around enough of the other trades to where I was confident enough that I could teach myself how to run the plumbing, do showers and sinks, build cabinets, etc. I share this not to brag, but to show that it is 100% possible. Also, the main ingredient, I did all of this with a whole lot of prayer, and if it were not for God, I don't think I would have been as successful in this endeavor
More power to you, fren. I want to be you when I grow up. I am (slowly) on the homesteading route now since our move to the sticks. And yes, kid loves the outdoors. It was the main reason of many for leaving the city.
Craigslist, Next Door, Angie's List... post services, a guy like me is always looking for someone to dig a ditch or stain a deck and I don't mind picking them up. I have a kid across the street that didn't have a phone even and I cart him around for work, got him a phone and I'm working on getting him wheels.
Biggest thing is to stay motivated and honor your word. Activity and learning contribute to longevity... reliability and enthusiasm contribute to whatever career you choose.
Fix your fucking car. You aren't a man if you don't have a dog, truck and gun. Nobody taught me to work on cars, build guns or train dogs, I'm self taught and great at it all now. My mom is a bleeding heart liberal too... suck it up buttercup.
#1 - DO NOT FUCK UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARENTS!
Yeah I get you. It’s hard living with the brainwashed. Suck it up buttercup. No one said life was easy.
You need those relationships. So find a way to keep politics out of it and learn to live with them.
That being said you are an adult now, so it’s up to you to set your boundaries to “agree to disagree” but do so in a way that preserves the family.
If you are a God fearing person; God said to honor your parents. He didn’t say just the smart parents.
You will regret it if you damage those relationships. Maybe not this year, maybe not next; but they are family and they should be there for the rest of your life; unless you fuck it up.
Also, if he damages that relationship, he won't be able to help his parents when the truth comes out.
It's also good practice for building self-discipline...not saying anything when people say something stupid, learning how to gently change the subject, etc.
Standing up for one's self and going against the grain always requires sacrifice. For me it was the loss of 'friends' over the stupid vaxx'es, but in the end I was vindicated and it is [THEY] who have suffered from their decisions. And in the process, I found out who my real friends were... and were not.
Sorry that you have a tougher road than I did, but I'm just older and have managed to financially sequester myself from economic pressures. Hang in there and make your decisions based on knowledge, ethics, and honor. Be true to yourself.
When this passes, and it WILL pass in time, you will be able to look back and know that you stand on principles and did not take the easy way out. That road is for cowards.
First, learn to fix your own car. It will save you thousands $ throughout your lifetime. There are 1000s of videos on YT that show you how. A good set of tools is a must! You can get a good starter set from Harbor Freight at a reasonable price.
Next, as an Anon, you are tasked with helping others to awaken to the truth. As your parents have been indoctrinated to "trust the science", use that to your advantage. There are now countless studies that prove mask don't work, 300 Covid studies were flawed and withdrawn, ivermectin and hydroxichloriquine works, etc. Find the original studies online. Print them out. Leave them in strategic locations for your parents to pick up and read. They have to discover the truth themselves.
Family is everything. Don't loose that connection. How does God create diamonds? Time and pressure.
First of all, you're awesome. You're in that rare 6-10% that doesn't allow their cognitive processes to be influenced by you're environment. That will serve you very well in life, although it does make finding friends a little more difficult.
There's some good advice in this thread on money and employment and I won't repeat it as it's already been well said, so I'll share something different.
I've been through some very difficult times in my life. Some of them I looked back and I didn't know how I managed to get through them. After going through a few of those times, I started hanging on to a phrase whenever I would go through another one:
"Some day this will all be in the rear view mirror."
As simple (and perhaps stupid) as that sounds, it's given me strength to get through some very difficult times because it's a reminder that I've been through some serious shit and came out stronger on the other side.
You are the light in their darkness. They do not see it yet. it is your job to tell them.
You can only tell them if they are listening.
They can't listen to you because cannot hear you (like you said, brainwashed).
You need to break through that brainwashing. The only way to do that is by treating them will complete respect.
Thanking them for everything they give you. Offering to help in any way possible. stepping in an helping without being asked.
Let them know that they are important to you.
Learn to forgive because they are still dealing with you and any past issues.
In other words you have to be willing to change yourself before you can hope to change someone else.
You do that and they WILL notice. This is not an easy fix but it is the way forward.
This will change their perception of you because it has already changed you.
From that place of strength (ability to touch their hearts) you will be able to start sharing what you have found in your life.
I know that is a lot. I can tell you this, It will change your life. You will become a much better person. You will become a much happier person.
If you don't know already that is part of what the gospel is. Learning to love others as you love yourself.
Nothing is more valuable than your integrity, clear conscience and thoughtful decisions.
When I think of In Pursuit of Happyness, I'm reminded of the times I was down and out, with 2 little kids and abusive husband. Kept up 2-3 jobs. Now I'm not rich but OK, content, knowing I passed through it all and still kept my faith, my values and can give back. You CAN make it, never give up.
[*Yes, one day you may have to fight a ridiculously deadly vax mandate, and/or you may technically (or no shit) find yourself in harms way once or twice, AND you'll invariably only ever mention anything Q-related WHATSOEVER to maybe only 0.5% of the people you encounter here, BUT...]
Enlist in ANY branch of the armed forces. I recently retired from, and am partial to, the Army, but literally ANY branch will turn your life around, within 1-2 years, in the following areas:
reliable, steady income;
lifestyle-proportionate solid bank account;
as a lower enlisted, a car is technically optional;
vocational and technical skillset acquisition;
education;
life skills;
possibly great mentorship (always a crapshoot); insurance(s);
quality medical care (you and/or family);
basic allowances for food, and adequate housing and quality of life programs (housing benefits greatly amplified if enlisted in Air Force);
and garner a great sense of accomplishment and patriotic pride.
Does the military still mandate the jab? And with Ukraine losing and Biden bound to them, is the military a safe option for a person today? I suggest getting a job at the Post Office. Don't laugh, it's a steady income and it gives great retirement benefits. As a temporary worker (how you most likely would start) you still start at $20 an hour. The wages go up approx $1 an hour per year. If you do not have a degree, this is what I would suggest. It's also safer than the military.
Something I am always on the lookout for is someone who could help with tasks that I can no longer do myself. Not quite a handyman, but rather someone who can say lift a tv and hang on the wall, or move pea gravel around plants or to create a patio. You could advertise on marketplace, or if you know of an over 55 community. Also, i have seen a lot of you tube channels that show you different side hustles that cost little to get into.
Do you have a job? That is the first step towards getting your own housing. Stay busy and work hard, save up, you will be too tired to worry about what other people think or believe in.
The only thing I would add to what everybody else put here, is find yourself a trade. Trade schools will pay for your schooling, or you can get funding for that, and then pay them back. It’s not the same as going to college, because it’s affordable. But if you find a trade, you could live anywhere you want. There are so many options for men these days, because there’s so many beta CUCKS out there.
Looks like you've got at least six months of free lodging. Take it as an opportunity to get on your feet. It will not be easy, but with proper planning you will have a place to sleep AND you can make serious money to get your car fixed and save enough to rent a place. Don't be so down about your parents. Remember, it's their house and they set the rules, but you can mold the rules to suit your needs. Right now you need a roof over your head. But you also need a job, or two, or three. The longer you can stay out of the house working the less time you are there to interact with them. With three jobs you will be working 18 hours a day, seven days a week, but you will be making good money. Don't forget, you are very young, so you body can handle the extra work. If you have to push a broom at a school, or bag groceries at the local grocery store, then DO IT!. You might not like doing menial tasks but there is nothing shameful about earning money. Find a career you like and begin setting goals to get into that career. But first, for the next six months work like a dog and save every penny you can. Then move out. If your car cannot be fixed go onto Facebook marketplace and find a beater for five hundred bucks and drive it until the wheels fall off. OP, you can do this. It's called life and if you think this is the worst you life will be, then think again. Life is full of hurdles and this is a small bump. Learn lessons from the replies you've gotten and do not get discouraged with your parents. God bless.
I was in my 30's before I was able to drive a vehicle without wrenching on it routinely. There's plenty of how-to videos to fix your transportation problem. You never know it may open up new areas of employment you hadn't looked for. Manual skills are a ticket to steady income. Your parents are not your problem your lack of self sufficiency is.
Simply being aware of the situation is half the battle. It's unfortunate your parents are brainwashed NPC's, but it is what it is and it should not be your battle to fight. Confronting reality is something they have to do themselves. When their own logic conflicts with their perceived version of reality.. that is usually when you have a small chance to drop little red pills for them to digest. You can't start carpet bombing them with truth, it wont work. They will reject everything you have to say, regardless how true and obvious it is and respond with their feelings. They have to start questioning things and thinking logically on their own. Until then, they are very happy inside the matrix. The truth simply won't be for everyone.
Going back n forth with them probably isn't in your best interest if they aren't smart enough to realize CNN is propaganda. I would suggest just focus on building yourself so you can get out of that situation and not have to deal with it daily. If you aren't working, then get a job that's walking or biking distance. Save what you can and get yourself self sufficient until you can move out and get some roommates. In the meantime, don't try to start any unnecessary battles. Liberals don't respond well to logic, they only respond with flaky emotions and victimhood.
At the end of the day, they are still your parents and I'm sure they love you. Be cordial and simply don't discuss politics or anything that's triggering for them. If they start with some shit, simply do not engage. You aren't obligated to respond to their crazy. Good luck
I believe that during this time each of us faces unique challenges, in addition to the shared struggle of being awake amongst the sleeping masses. Our endurance is being tested and strengthened. Almost daily we are forced to choose between what we know is right and the comfort that conformity brings.
Some of us were lost and adrift before we woke up. We are in the process of finding the path we were always meant to be on. The cliché "follow your heart" very much applies. No one else can tell you what choices you should make.
Echoing the words of Mr_A, there will come a day (perhaps in the next couple years) when your parents run headlong into a brick wall of truth. They will have a very difficult time, and you may be the only person who can help them through.
I don't know if you believe in God or have let Christ into your heart. Enduring mistreatment and judgement from your parents, then opening your heart to them with love and understanding when they begin to realize their mistakes...that seems like a very Christ-like thing to do.
Hope you can find a way to endure and rise above your situation. God bless you fren.
i lost my dad nearly 3 years ago & i still think about him every, single day. i sometimes think about the arguments or not-so-great moments between us & i regret all of it. i never told him in person how proud i was of him & how much i owed him for helping me in life.
don't sever your relationship with your parents, no matter how blinded or brainwashed they are. they have their faults to work out, just as you & i do, all of us.
be thankful they are allowing you back home, so take this time to focus on creating real stability for yourself.
auto detail is something my dad taught me when i was a teenager, so its a job that you can find pretty much anywhere in a place with some car lots. they also have jobs for going to auctions & driving the cars back to be serviced & detailed before put on the lot.
yard work is plentiful this time of year.
apprenticeships would be an avenue to look into.
i would recommend food delivery like Doordash, as you are technically an individual contractor, so i've not dealt with mandates, etc. , but you would obviously need your car repaired for that.
above all though, put your faith & life in the hands of the Lord God. Pray for guidance, strength & knowledge. i will pray that for you now.
Put on a MAGA hat pump your fist in the air and repeatedly yell power to the people! You have squatter rights now. They’ll fix your car and pay your rent to get you out. Problem solved.
One thing I have learned is that to make life go smoothly (and therefore according to God's design) you have to listen to your heart.
It sounds like you are already doing that to an extent by making the decision not to go back home, but you are still hung up on the results.
Whatever we experience is always temporary. If you can let go of your expectations with regards to results you tend to get better results, especially when you expect God/Jesus/Universe to help you along - you just have to keep an eye out for the signs.
Deep breaths, have faith and stay open to new opportunities - you never know what direction life will take you.
An example for you: Last year my wife and I decided to visit her niece and small child, even though we knew the child was ill with laryngitis (which I've never had before, but I've had tonsillitis loads of times).
We decided to go because we really wanted to see them. Unfortunately I got quite a bad case of laryngitis which meant that we had to cancel a long held booking for a weekend trip away for my wife and myself - something we haven't been able to do for several years, so it was really disappointing.
However, I made the decision to go in the full knowledge it might make me ill, so I accepted the consequences with good grace.
As a direct result of that we ended up going to a completely random event we would never have otherwise attended, where we met a couple who both my wife and I really got on well with and have since become firm friends with.
When I say that's a rare thing, it's a massive understatement. It's not really rare, it's unique (for us).
So, in deciding to visit our niece and accepting it when we got ill, and supposedly lost out as a result, we ended up much better off 6 months down the line.
You just never know. The only thing in life you truly control, is how you engage with life - your attitude and approach to life's challenges.
Having said that, a little luck doesn't go amiss, so best of luck, and good on you for sticking to your principles. If you change your mind just because it creates hardship, then it wasn't a principle - you clearly know that and that puts you well ahead of the game in my estimation.
Go to trade school. Become a plumber or electrician. Maybe a welder or carpenter. Stone mason - so many necessary skills out there to choose from. Learn the trade. Then start your own business as an army of one. I wish I'd done that instead of the college route.
I’m going to be blatantly honest with you. It’s their house, rent-free I’m assuming - that’s your only option. You have to make do with what you got, plain and simple. You can’t really fight or help others, until you’ve helped yourself and right now, frankly, you don’t have a leg to stand on…
Put your faith in God.
If you're actually reading the Q drops, it's pretty clear that you put on the Armor of God and exhibit faith.
You never know what opportunities God will place in your life of you take a leap of faith.
I took one a few years ago, ended up divorced and then ended up with the most amazing woman I've ever encountered. By far the most intelligent person I have ever met.
Good luck, anon.
You're in my prayers.
Breathe deep. Reflect on the years you were a defenseless child and your parents took care of your clothing and food while asking nothing in return. Forgive them for being stupid; truly they know not what they do.
They sound like a difficult case, but even they will wake up eventually. Don't give up on them, but don't forget that they have been brainwashed for decades longer than you have, and so be kind as their recovery will be harder.
Definitely find a way to earn money before moving out. Whether it's a gig job on Upworks or fiver, or a bus ride to a job at a store, you need a source of money to live on your own. A roof and bed, and daily meals should not be taken for granted. Prayer will help, too; God works in unexpected ways. Good luck and God bless
I would say the worst part is those sort of parents don't teach you the value of hard work and overemphasize school. You need to teach yourself discipline. There is a shortage of people willing to work hard.
I live on a farm. We like to get 18-20 year olds to stay for a while in exchange for some amount of work. It's funny to listen to young people whine while not doing nearly enough to pay for food and electricity. But after a few months they normally work out. They start to see how good it feels to finish something or how nice it is to walk around and see how you are improving the place.
It's hard to grow up, especially when you've missed important lessons. Staying with frustrating people who will pay your way is better then being homeless. Improving your self so you can be self supporting should be the goal.
It must be the food and water, because there are so many people in that age group who, in the peak of their life, cannot do 8 hours a day with just one or two days off. I don't get it. At 73 I still work, I would go crazy with nothing to do.
It is something. With the new labor laws lots of farmers want new workers to just do two days a week. two ten hours days of mostly driving a tractor slowly in circles. That would pay enough for them to rent a room and be independent. And I've learned we can't just throw a new kid out there. They won't make it. They have never done anything for that long. It's weird how many young people have never tried to do anything besides go to school and memorize.
Not at 22. And honestly even under 18, if they truly don’t want the responsibility and give no fucks about you, they could just put you up.. (for adoption - which is not age restricted). I met someone in life that actually happened to.
Psychic energy vampires, yes, and subs people seem to be able to shake it off more easily, but deep wounds remain and take time to heal. Praying for you
He’s in his 20s, it’s not illegal for them not to provide him with food lol
1st: CALL on the name of the LORD JESUS and put your FAITH in HIM. 2nd: HONOR and RESPECT your parents. You do not have to agree with them on politics. But the bible says that honoring your parents comes with a promise - a long life. 3rd:Be HONEST with yourself - do you have personal problems or addictions? Confess your sins to God and face your demons head on and God will give you the strength to overcome them. 4th - Get a job (any job) even if you have to walk or ride a bike in the rain to get there. Even if it is cutting grass or digging ditches. Get 3 jobs. You can not fix your car and take care of you problems if you are not working. Until you find a job WORK around the house for your parents for FREE doing anything you can - cleaning, changing lightbulbs, yardwork, etc... nonstop...(keep doing these things even AFTER you get a job) 5th- Once you save up enough money - find a deal, move out and rent a room maybe close to your job - do not get an apartment all by yourself - get a good roommate to share expenses. 6th- Surround yourself with GOOD people - (from church or work, etc) do not hang out with losers! 7th- Do not be idle (do not sleep late, do tv or internet or play video games at all...) until your life is turned back around BONUS: think about what you want for the future - a family, a good job, a better life? You are young and it is all yours for the taking. Keep a positive attitude while you create a FUTURE vision for your life - and always say "MY BEST DAYS ARE AHEAD OF ME." cause with JESUS....they are!
This is the best advice anybody could’ve given you. Also find a Bible believing church, and start going to a men’s Bible study. That’s where you’re going to find the true support that you need on a daily basis. Men will be praying for you, they will be looking out for you, and I’ll be helping you to find a job, and a place to live with other fellow Christians. This is where you were fine true success.
This is the way.
This is the way
Are you working? Could you share a place with 4 other guys, temporarily, in order to save money and be out of their house?
Have you ever heard of Dave Ramsey? If not, look him up. He teaches people how to get out of debt and build wealth. The main thing is to be able to pay for necessities, carry no debt and give yourself options.
Your income will be key to your success. If you haven't yet squared away your career choice, make that top priority. Figure out what you want to do and take the necessary steps to be qualified in that field. Good luck. Many have been where you are.
Thank you everyone for the helpful responses. I am trying to collect myself and just take it one step at a time, and be grateful for what I have in an otherwise extremely difficult situation (as I know so many are facing now). God bless
Jb, what Jimmer wrote above is the correct answer. It’s very difficult for us to ‘let go’ and put faith into something we cannot see or touch. Follow through with this, give your life to Christ. Repent of your sins and then ask for help. It will come.
Try getting into an Apprenticeship. Electricians make very good money, so do plumbers. But they have a dirtier job.
^ This. I went the university route. 3 decades of exec / office bullshit and after a lot of slog and drudgery and dealing with unfathomable nonsense, I’m settled and comfortable. Most of my contemporaries from school went the trades route and were made before 30. Now all sitting pretty paying others to do their work.
I am a father of an extremely bright kid who I am encouraging to avoid university like the plague and gravitate towards the trades and honest hard work and widely transferable real skills that solve real-world problems, not the bullshit problems of the corporate/executive clown world.
When I graduated high school, I kept switching majors in college. Ended up dropping out and working in construction. Now in my 30s, I bought land cash and build my own house for a fraction of the cost because I knew how to build houses. I'm 35 and own my land and house free and clear.
Well done, fren. I achieved the same end result eventually but my path took 20 years longer, was riddled with debt, stress, and poor health from being a desk bound drone commuter careerist, and replete with mountains of bullshit. You are the kind of positive model I will share with my kid.
I don't know if your child likes the outdoors, but I do, so I bought land out in a forested area out in the country. My house is in the middle of the woods. It's an off-grid homestead with a creek. Solar panels power my house, I raise chickens, pigs and vegetables. I also like to hunt and fish and we have deer, turkey, rabbit and dove. I plan to dig a pond somewhere in these woods near the creek and I think my parents are gonna build their retirement cottage here too. And I have built everything myself. Working in construction, I was around enough of the other trades to where I was confident enough that I could teach myself how to run the plumbing, do showers and sinks, build cabinets, etc. I share this not to brag, but to show that it is 100% possible. Also, the main ingredient, I did all of this with a whole lot of prayer, and if it were not for God, I don't think I would have been as successful in this endeavor
More power to you, fren. I want to be you when I grow up. I am (slowly) on the homesteading route now since our move to the sticks. And yes, kid loves the outdoors. It was the main reason of many for leaving the city.
This is true. I thought about that as I said it.
If you're looking for work and want to learn mechanics I'm looking for a guy to train. Just saying.
Craigslist, Next Door, Angie's List... post services, a guy like me is always looking for someone to dig a ditch or stain a deck and I don't mind picking them up. I have a kid across the street that didn't have a phone even and I cart him around for work, got him a phone and I'm working on getting him wheels.
Biggest thing is to stay motivated and honor your word. Activity and learning contribute to longevity... reliability and enthusiasm contribute to whatever career you choose.
Fix your fucking car. You aren't a man if you don't have a dog, truck and gun. Nobody taught me to work on cars, build guns or train dogs, I'm self taught and great at it all now. My mom is a bleeding heart liberal too... suck it up buttercup.
#1 - DO NOT FUCK UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARENTS!
Yeah I get you. It’s hard living with the brainwashed. Suck it up buttercup. No one said life was easy.
You need those relationships. So find a way to keep politics out of it and learn to live with them.
That being said you are an adult now, so it’s up to you to set your boundaries to “agree to disagree” but do so in a way that preserves the family.
If you are a God fearing person; God said to honor your parents. He didn’t say just the smart parents.
You will regret it if you damage those relationships. Maybe not this year, maybe not next; but they are family and they should be there for the rest of your life; unless you fuck it up.
Also, if he damages that relationship, he won't be able to help his parents when the truth comes out.
It's also good practice for building self-discipline...not saying anything when people say something stupid, learning how to gently change the subject, etc.
Standing up for one's self and going against the grain always requires sacrifice. For me it was the loss of 'friends' over the stupid vaxx'es, but in the end I was vindicated and it is [THEY] who have suffered from their decisions. And in the process, I found out who my real friends were... and were not.
Sorry that you have a tougher road than I did, but I'm just older and have managed to financially sequester myself from economic pressures. Hang in there and make your decisions based on knowledge, ethics, and honor. Be true to yourself.
When this passes, and it WILL pass in time, you will be able to look back and know that you stand on principles and did not take the easy way out. That road is for cowards.
First, learn to fix your own car. It will save you thousands $ throughout your lifetime. There are 1000s of videos on YT that show you how. A good set of tools is a must! You can get a good starter set from Harbor Freight at a reasonable price.
Next, as an Anon, you are tasked with helping others to awaken to the truth. As your parents have been indoctrinated to "trust the science", use that to your advantage. There are now countless studies that prove mask don't work, 300 Covid studies were flawed and withdrawn, ivermectin and hydroxichloriquine works, etc. Find the original studies online. Print them out. Leave them in strategic locations for your parents to pick up and read. They have to discover the truth themselves.
Family is everything. Don't loose that connection. How does God create diamonds? Time and pressure.
First of all, you're awesome. You're in that rare 6-10% that doesn't allow their cognitive processes to be influenced by you're environment. That will serve you very well in life, although it does make finding friends a little more difficult.
There's some good advice in this thread on money and employment and I won't repeat it as it's already been well said, so I'll share something different.
I've been through some very difficult times in my life. Some of them I looked back and I didn't know how I managed to get through them. After going through a few of those times, I started hanging on to a phrase whenever I would go through another one:
"Some day this will all be in the rear view mirror."
As simple (and perhaps stupid) as that sounds, it's given me strength to get through some very difficult times because it's a reminder that I've been through some serious shit and came out stronger on the other side.
You are the light in their darkness. They do not see it yet. it is your job to tell them.
You can only tell them if they are listening.
They can't listen to you because cannot hear you (like you said, brainwashed).
You need to break through that brainwashing. The only way to do that is by treating them will complete respect. Thanking them for everything they give you. Offering to help in any way possible. stepping in an helping without being asked. Let them know that they are important to you. Learn to forgive because they are still dealing with you and any past issues.
In other words you have to be willing to change yourself before you can hope to change someone else.
You do that and they WILL notice. This is not an easy fix but it is the way forward. This will change their perception of you because it has already changed you.
From that place of strength (ability to touch their hearts) you will be able to start sharing what you have found in your life.
I know that is a lot. I can tell you this, It will change your life. You will become a much better person. You will become a much happier person.
If you don't know already that is part of what the gospel is. Learning to love others as you love yourself.
Nothing is more valuable than your integrity, clear conscience and thoughtful decisions.
When I think of In Pursuit of Happyness, I'm reminded of the times I was down and out, with 2 little kids and abusive husband. Kept up 2-3 jobs. Now I'm not rich but OK, content, knowing I passed through it all and still kept my faith, my values and can give back. You CAN make it, never give up.
[*Yes, one day you may have to fight a ridiculously deadly vax mandate, and/or you may technically (or no shit) find yourself in harms way once or twice, AND you'll invariably only ever mention anything Q-related WHATSOEVER to maybe only 0.5% of the people you encounter here, BUT...]
Enlist in ANY branch of the armed forces. I recently retired from, and am partial to, the Army, but literally ANY branch will turn your life around, within 1-2 years, in the following areas: reliable, steady income; lifestyle-proportionate solid bank account; as a lower enlisted, a car is technically optional; vocational and technical skillset acquisition; education; life skills; possibly great mentorship (always a crapshoot); insurance(s); quality medical care (you and/or family); basic allowances for food, and adequate housing and quality of life programs (housing benefits greatly amplified if enlisted in Air Force); and garner a great sense of accomplishment and patriotic pride.
You won't be sorry.
Does the military still mandate the jab? And with Ukraine losing and Biden bound to them, is the military a safe option for a person today? I suggest getting a job at the Post Office. Don't laugh, it's a steady income and it gives great retirement benefits. As a temporary worker (how you most likely would start) you still start at $20 an hour. The wages go up approx $1 an hour per year. If you do not have a degree, this is what I would suggest. It's also safer than the military.
Agreed, now is definitely not the time to enlist
Something I am always on the lookout for is someone who could help with tasks that I can no longer do myself. Not quite a handyman, but rather someone who can say lift a tv and hang on the wall, or move pea gravel around plants or to create a patio. You could advertise on marketplace, or if you know of an over 55 community. Also, i have seen a lot of you tube channels that show you different side hustles that cost little to get into.
Sympathies. Nurses can be even worse than teachers.
Go look in the mirror. Are you a man? Then realize you can do whatever you want if you set your mind to it. Find what you want and go full force
Do you have a job? That is the first step towards getting your own housing. Stay busy and work hard, save up, you will be too tired to worry about what other people think or believe in.
The only thing I would add to what everybody else put here, is find yourself a trade. Trade schools will pay for your schooling, or you can get funding for that, and then pay them back. It’s not the same as going to college, because it’s affordable. But if you find a trade, you could live anywhere you want. There are so many options for men these days, because there’s so many beta CUCKS out there.
Looks like you've got at least six months of free lodging. Take it as an opportunity to get on your feet. It will not be easy, but with proper planning you will have a place to sleep AND you can make serious money to get your car fixed and save enough to rent a place. Don't be so down about your parents. Remember, it's their house and they set the rules, but you can mold the rules to suit your needs. Right now you need a roof over your head. But you also need a job, or two, or three. The longer you can stay out of the house working the less time you are there to interact with them. With three jobs you will be working 18 hours a day, seven days a week, but you will be making good money. Don't forget, you are very young, so you body can handle the extra work. If you have to push a broom at a school, or bag groceries at the local grocery store, then DO IT!. You might not like doing menial tasks but there is nothing shameful about earning money. Find a career you like and begin setting goals to get into that career. But first, for the next six months work like a dog and save every penny you can. Then move out. If your car cannot be fixed go onto Facebook marketplace and find a beater for five hundred bucks and drive it until the wheels fall off. OP, you can do this. It's called life and if you think this is the worst you life will be, then think again. Life is full of hurdles and this is a small bump. Learn lessons from the replies you've gotten and do not get discouraged with your parents. God bless.
I was in my 30's before I was able to drive a vehicle without wrenching on it routinely. There's plenty of how-to videos to fix your transportation problem. You never know it may open up new areas of employment you hadn't looked for. Manual skills are a ticket to steady income. Your parents are not your problem your lack of self sufficiency is.
Simply being aware of the situation is half the battle. It's unfortunate your parents are brainwashed NPC's, but it is what it is and it should not be your battle to fight. Confronting reality is something they have to do themselves. When their own logic conflicts with their perceived version of reality.. that is usually when you have a small chance to drop little red pills for them to digest. You can't start carpet bombing them with truth, it wont work. They will reject everything you have to say, regardless how true and obvious it is and respond with their feelings. They have to start questioning things and thinking logically on their own. Until then, they are very happy inside the matrix. The truth simply won't be for everyone.
Going back n forth with them probably isn't in your best interest if they aren't smart enough to realize CNN is propaganda. I would suggest just focus on building yourself so you can get out of that situation and not have to deal with it daily. If you aren't working, then get a job that's walking or biking distance. Save what you can and get yourself self sufficient until you can move out and get some roommates. In the meantime, don't try to start any unnecessary battles. Liberals don't respond well to logic, they only respond with flaky emotions and victimhood.
At the end of the day, they are still your parents and I'm sure they love you. Be cordial and simply don't discuss politics or anything that's triggering for them. If they start with some shit, simply do not engage. You aren't obligated to respond to their crazy. Good luck
I believe that during this time each of us faces unique challenges, in addition to the shared struggle of being awake amongst the sleeping masses. Our endurance is being tested and strengthened. Almost daily we are forced to choose between what we know is right and the comfort that conformity brings.
Some of us were lost and adrift before we woke up. We are in the process of finding the path we were always meant to be on. The cliché "follow your heart" very much applies. No one else can tell you what choices you should make.
Echoing the words of Mr_A, there will come a day (perhaps in the next couple years) when your parents run headlong into a brick wall of truth. They will have a very difficult time, and you may be the only person who can help them through.
I don't know if you believe in God or have let Christ into your heart. Enduring mistreatment and judgement from your parents, then opening your heart to them with love and understanding when they begin to realize their mistakes...that seems like a very Christ-like thing to do.
Hope you can find a way to endure and rise above your situation. God bless you fren.
i lost my dad nearly 3 years ago & i still think about him every, single day. i sometimes think about the arguments or not-so-great moments between us & i regret all of it. i never told him in person how proud i was of him & how much i owed him for helping me in life.
don't sever your relationship with your parents, no matter how blinded or brainwashed they are. they have their faults to work out, just as you & i do, all of us.
be thankful they are allowing you back home, so take this time to focus on creating real stability for yourself.
auto detail is something my dad taught me when i was a teenager, so its a job that you can find pretty much anywhere in a place with some car lots. they also have jobs for going to auctions & driving the cars back to be serviced & detailed before put on the lot.
yard work is plentiful this time of year.
apprenticeships would be an avenue to look into.
i would recommend food delivery like Doordash, as you are technically an individual contractor, so i've not dealt with mandates, etc. , but you would obviously need your car repaired for that.
above all though, put your faith & life in the hands of the Lord God. Pray for guidance, strength & knowledge. i will pray that for you now.
good luck anon! stand tall
Put on a MAGA hat pump your fist in the air and repeatedly yell power to the people! You have squatter rights now. They’ll fix your car and pay your rent to get you out. Problem solved.
Lots of great tips on here.
One thing I have learned is that to make life go smoothly (and therefore according to God's design) you have to listen to your heart.
It sounds like you are already doing that to an extent by making the decision not to go back home, but you are still hung up on the results.
Whatever we experience is always temporary. If you can let go of your expectations with regards to results you tend to get better results, especially when you expect God/Jesus/Universe to help you along - you just have to keep an eye out for the signs.
Deep breaths, have faith and stay open to new opportunities - you never know what direction life will take you.
An example for you: Last year my wife and I decided to visit her niece and small child, even though we knew the child was ill with laryngitis (which I've never had before, but I've had tonsillitis loads of times).
We decided to go because we really wanted to see them. Unfortunately I got quite a bad case of laryngitis which meant that we had to cancel a long held booking for a weekend trip away for my wife and myself - something we haven't been able to do for several years, so it was really disappointing.
However, I made the decision to go in the full knowledge it might make me ill, so I accepted the consequences with good grace.
As a direct result of that we ended up going to a completely random event we would never have otherwise attended, where we met a couple who both my wife and I really got on well with and have since become firm friends with.
When I say that's a rare thing, it's a massive understatement. It's not really rare, it's unique (for us).
So, in deciding to visit our niece and accepting it when we got ill, and supposedly lost out as a result, we ended up much better off 6 months down the line.
You just never know. The only thing in life you truly control, is how you engage with life - your attitude and approach to life's challenges.
Having said that, a little luck doesn't go amiss, so best of luck, and good on you for sticking to your principles. If you change your mind just because it creates hardship, then it wasn't a principle - you clearly know that and that puts you well ahead of the game in my estimation.
Go to trade school. Become a plumber or electrician. Maybe a welder or carpenter. Stone mason - so many necessary skills out there to choose from. Learn the trade. Then start your own business as an army of one. I wish I'd done that instead of the college route.
You mean you chose the former?
Yes, my bad.
Nada problem. Yeah, living with people who're out of touch with reality is not workable long-term. I hope all these suggestions can help you escape.
Thanks.
I’m going to be blatantly honest with you. It’s their house, rent-free I’m assuming - that’s your only option. You have to make do with what you got, plain and simple. You can’t really fight or help others, until you’ve helped yourself and right now, frankly, you don’t have a leg to stand on…
Are you working?
Saving up for apt?
Open to moving to a more affordable location?
When I was rock bottom, I joined the Navy! They give you everything needed to get back on your feet, saved my life...........
LOANS.. TRADE SCHOOL.
Put your faith in God. If you're actually reading the Q drops, it's pretty clear that you put on the Armor of God and exhibit faith. You never know what opportunities God will place in your life of you take a leap of faith. I took one a few years ago, ended up divorced and then ended up with the most amazing woman I've ever encountered. By far the most intelligent person I have ever met. Good luck, anon. You're in my prayers.