Well said. As a man, you either let roll with it or get rolled under it. Doesn’t bother me, but it’s fascinating to see what the “other side” perceives as having it easy. What they don’t get is it’s all about self-esteem and confidence, which comes from within, not from physical changes like the trans movement pushes. If you aren’t confident with how you were born, mutilating your body is the last thing that’s going to suddenly make you a new person and boost that self-esteem. They have got to be the most insecure people on the planet. I truly pity those suckered by this fad.
It's also always the body positive types who change themselves the most.
It's interesting to be told to love your body, don't shame someone for their bodies, etc. by people with breast augmentation, ass augmentation and like ten pounds of makeup.
Exactly. This trans trend is nothing more than a disguised dissociative identity disorder. They couldn't cope with their reality so they tried to change themselves to live their fantasy: to be someone they're not.
And, yeah. If these people think it's easy to be a man, try shouIdering the responsibilities that are expected of men. It's easy to yeII muh patriarchy when you haven't had any of those.
They couldn't cope with their reality so they tried to change themselves to live their fantasy: to be someone they're not.
...and then more than that, they then demanded that everyone around them partake in their delusion and double think their way to believing that they really are the gender they want to be.
Really, really, really wanting something to be true makes it so, in modern leftist minds.
Those transes will throw on a skirt the instant they're expendable in a life-or-death disaster.
The ones in Ukraine found out the hard way when they got caught trying to flee the country and were sent right to the front since they were born as males.
Don't lump us all in with your twisted views. Yes, there are some women who might think that way, but far from all. My husband is supported, appreciated and taken care of. I do realize that he is carrying burdens that I could never do and I carry different burdens, that makes us whole.. together.
I suggest you find some healthy women to be around. Sheesh.
Well said. In relationships involving the opposite sex, the man has his role to play and the woman has hers. As best I can tell, all relationship issues stem from a lack of understanding ones role. The Bible tried to teach us, but we’re still fucking it up. Effeminate men catering to every want and need of a female is disastrous to both the relationship and society at large. The opposite is just as true, so-called “alpha females” will never find a man they respect.
Masculine and feminine energies are needed to build attraction, these both come from the man and woman respectfully. Change this order up and good luck maintaining your relationship. You may get lucky and find “short term” hookup success, but it will never last.
I'll give you 60-80% as bad eggs. That's because I know many women who are healthy, Godly women who support their men.
I never claimed to be perfect or to have a perfect marriage. We've worked hard for over 30 years.
I'm sorry that you seem to have only run into the bad ones. I hope you can rid yourself of some of the bitter feelings that seem to come through your post.
60-80% is still the majority of women. I understand the facts upset you, but it is the way it is. If you and your friends are not part of that majority, good on you. But most women under the age of 50 are as described.
Thats true that 60-80% are a majority. I guess it's more that in the original point, they say "Women will never understand". That's suggesting All women, which is why I chimed in. It seemed an overly broad brush. Maybe a qualifier would have helped?
Don't try quoting Tom Macdonald at me .. 😄
I don’t belive it's an overwhelming majority. That's our difference. I'm not on dating apps or Tik Tok, in bars or clubs though.. in places like those, yeah.. def.
I could throw it back on ya as to what "all" men seemingly want, of the buxom blond, anime girl, etc.. but, eh, idc that much.
Again, sorry that you have had such suck experiences. Blessings.
You are falling awry of the NAXALT fallacy ('Not all X are like that'), the mistaken belief that because you can name or know some outliers, that the center majority doesn't exist.
I don’t deny there are those in existence. I can't prove how many, as I have no studies to back either of us up.
It's more that in the original point, they say "Women will never understand". That's suggesting All women, which is why I chimed in. It seemed an overly broad brush. Maybe a qualifier would have helped?
If you're asking if I'm a woke feminist? Nope. I do believe in traditional roles for most people. There are always exceptions, obviously.
I do think that there are a lot of women and men out there looking for partners with entirely wrong motives. That wasn't the issue to me. It was the original assumption that All women are like that and I don't belive that to be true.
First, is "he" short? Ask men who are 5'1 about their dating lives. The ladies aren't lining up for them unless they happen to earn over six figures. Even then the ladies still aren't lining up.
Reality hurts.
If he wonders why what he earns and his height matter, then he has no clue how modern women shop for partners. Xe is probably like "Women don't care about what their partner earns. They're not shallow like men. They just want a man who is sensitive and will cry with them during the Notebook."
Yeah... Xe is about to discover the reality of the male dating world. It won't be fun.
I earn WELL into six figures in a rural, inexpensive area to live and I can't get a girl to bat an eye my way, even when I step out of my expensive car in front of them. Oh, they'll look at the car, then they'll look at me get out of it and suddenly their attention needs to be elsewhere.
Why? I'm 5'6".
I'm not fat or ugly in the least. I'm 190 lbs, work out daily, have a full head of well kept hair, a nicely trimmed beard and I can dress myself very well; not like some dumpy slob.
Any woman who married me realistically wouldn't have to lift a finger to work again outside of the home, but that six inches of height I'm missing is a deal breaker for them.
American women are superficial dumpster trash. Pure and utter garbage. I wouldn't marry an American girl, especially a college educated one, for almost any reason whatsoever. She'd have to be a unicorn that was raised under a proverbial rock before I'd even consider dating her.
You sound very bitter, so a word of advice. Instead of focusing on the faults of the women you seek to date, work on yourself. You may think this is cliche but it's the best thing you can do whenever you find yourself in a romantic rut. Having a partner whom you love and who loves you back for who you are (not money or car or height) is a blessing bestowed upon you by God. You have to earn it. Work hard on your own faults (anger, envy, pride etc.) and your romantic life might just improve...
You're confusing bitter with stated realism. All I did was quote facts emphatically.
I'm not in any kind of mental distress, romantically or otherwise. I'm not the problem... it's American women need to catch up. Sadly, this generation of American women won't catch up until they're herding cats around their miserable lonely apartment in their 40's wondering why the dates have dried up.
Sucks for them cause they sure as shit ain't latching onto me after they've wasted their youthful reproductive years blowing their backs out on men who discard them in the same bin with the soggy condom.
"American women are superficial dumpster trash. Pure and utter garbage." Those are facts? No, you're bitter, and the way you talk about women is ugly. Not a big surprise why you're not doing well with them. Millions of Americans - including women - are happily married, raising great families, and working to make America great again. Where I live, there are plenty of men around 5'6" and they do just fine with women. Maybe it's your location. I know a man around that height who said he didn't even know he was short until he moved to the Midwest.
What kind of woman are you looking for? A gorgeous, hot woman with long blond hair, long legs, perfect body, perfect teeth, no flaws? Or just an ordinary, pretty, caring woman who may not be perfect on the outside? Have you even looked at the latter? or just the 'hot' ones?
Dude, just stop. You are absolutely clueless. Being an man under 5”9’ is a severe handicap that very few American women will overlook. OP will have to go to a foreign country where the native men a tinier than he is in order for him to have a decent chance at finding a mate.
“You have to earn it.” Juxtaposed that advice to the women who throw themselves onto men who obviously “haven’t earned it” and you get begin the understand the confusion and resentment somebody could take with your suggestion.
I really think that the people down-voting these comments live in some kind of idealized 2010, or before, past. The dating world has change so drastically and completely since around 2010 that it's not even recognizable anymore.
The "just go out there and earn it and be confident and work out and dress better" crowd are truly and utterly clueless. I am a very confident man. I don't walk around staring at my shoes. I keep my head up, shoulders back, make eye contact, smile and am very sociable. I work out daily. I dress well, but not flashy... but I'm a swipe-right to the vast majority of women because I don't hit first six in the 666 rule.
Then I'll see a 6' tall dude meeting a woman out somewhere that I know she matched on a dating app. You can just tell when a couple is meeting the first time from a dating app. I can take one look at this dude and know he's gonna smash and trash her and then she'll be on tiktok tomorrow crying her eyes out about "Why do all the good men keep ghosting me after I let them smash me on the first date??!?"
You're both correct. There is a well established and a well acknowledged height advantage, but that could also be making him bitter.
Now that said, if you're into that sort of thing, there are a good few women out there who are specifically interested in having shorter men. They're just fewer.
Best advice tends to be just to get out, interact with people (as hilariously poorly timed as this is for 99% of the population) and live your life.
Looking too hard will just make you feel bitter. Showing off your money will just make you seem shallow or attract the wrong kind of woman anyway.
When you have a height disadvantage, the best thing to do is to focus on being social and being yourself.
Perhaps a new 3 piece suit would shift focus from your height and present a more traditionally masculine air.
Perhaps building your chest and arms up (don't forget your legs) will change your image. Maybe change the length of the beard, or shave it entirely. A good beard of various lengths can attract many different women, or put them off.
If you've got a beard, maybe get into the beardsman life. Experiment with different oils and fragrances. Scent is a powerful thing.
Presentation is important. There are many ways we can modify our presentation if we are trying to attract people. Key is to not become something you aren't though.
Looking too hard will just make you feel bitter. Showing off your money will just make you seem shallow or attract the wrong kind of woman anyway.
I think that’s where they get the term Napoleon complex. Most (not all) of the short men I’ve worked with always came off as insecure and had to flex to show what they have or who they banged or whatever thing they think tall men talk about. Just came off as off putting. The ones that loved themselves and their short stature always were easy going and good humored. And in turn had no issues with finding a mate bc they weren’t trying too hard.
It's kind of sad how women treat short men. I'm 5'3" and it's much more preferable to have someone closer to my height, then having to constantly stand on my tip toes or crane my neck.
I'm really not sure why so many women feel the 6' is a dealbreaker, what do you even gain by having someone you can't even kiss or hug properly?
I'm about 5'11", a little shorter by a very small bit. I'm not tall, but instead very broad. I lean into my broad stature. I like traditional men's fashion from ages past, e.g. a 3 piece suit vs 2 piece.
For what it's worth though, we all have disadvantages in our own ways. Men tend to like women shorter than them, so naturally that's a point in favor of the natural order.
It's how we can confidently lean into our advantages that gives us the greatest power over our circumstances.
When times get even harder I guarantee you that you will start receiving that attention. What you do depends on you. Just remember how they treated you when times were good. I'll never forget the "hey bighead" text I got from a girl who friendzoned me. Happened after the rent moratorium ended.
Oh yeah big time. I knew the moment she contacted me she just wanted a simp to do her bidding cause the first thing she started talking about is her financial issues and had asked me for money. I laughed so hard I almost got a hernia. Havent heard from her since.
In my opinion, confidence is everything. If you think it’s because you’re short, it is usually what manifests. I’ve dated short and tall guys and the height has never been a factor. If you exude real confidence within yourself, women know and are attracted to it. The women who snub you most likely have very low self worth and compensate through materialistic bs.
The woman he asked out probably also wants a working penis and someone who feels and acts like a man and who can give them children. Sounds like she had her period. I don't know any grown men who cry over one rejection. Depressed - Maybe but full out weeping?
Alot of the fake Trans are gays who can't accept they are gay for whatever reason and are looking to match their sexuality to their body. I doubt many or these people have true dissasociative disorders....more like extreme self loathing and gullibility.
I remember an episode of Rubin Report where Dave Rubin said that he considers the entire trans movement to be anti-gay since it obsesses about "fixing" people rather than encouraging them to accept themselves for being different. That reddit post sounds just like one of his examples, suddenly we can't have tomboys anymore gotta butcher them into fake males that nobody wants anyway when plenty of men and lesbians would have loved to have a tomboy partner.
Yes, unless your physique is at least part way to GigaChad, have political clout, lots of cash to show, then you have to be cleverer than the rest. Nothing is given, just like she was used to getting hit on, now she's the one that has to make the move and that goes against her genetics.
Of course, not being used to rejection from a young age, each one is devastating. Especially if she LOOKS like a trans. (Women can look more masculine than men can look feminine)
I really do feel bad for people like this. You can't treat an internal struggle with an external solution. Instead of being enjoyed to just be themselves and comfortable in their own skin, they either convinced themselves, or someone(s) else convinced them that if ONLY they transitioned, they would be happier.
Spoiler: I'm female. I consider myself semi tomboyish. I dislike dresses, and preferred more mechanical toys instead of barbie dolls (even though I did have a few favorite plushies and stuffed animals.)
And this was ok for me. I like what I liked. I played (still played) video games, yu-gi-oh, watched anime, went into robotics classes in my high school. I never tried to 'fit in' with the other girl clicks, inside I just participated in things I liked, regardless of how 'male' dominant those areas seemed to be. I didn't care, and I wasn't ashamed.
There was one time however that I was criticized by my own mother that did piss me off. See, I happened to get my hands on a few pairs of sports shorts that fit and felt comfortable to where they'd just be my "walking around the house" kind of cloths, inside of just pjs, or nightgowns.
My mother disliked me wearing them for some reason, and made a snide remark about "Just get the surgery already". I did snap back at her and my father did defend me.
So, .. I guess I get it, that there are external pressures, pro and con, that could push someone in this direction. For me, I'm lucky enough that I (somehow) just grew up doing my own thing and being comfortable in it. I don't know what positive guiding forces in my life could have prepared me to just accept me for me. Maybe it's up to us individually to figured ourselves out.
Point being (and sorry for the ramble) I can't help but see posts like this and feel sorry and pity them.
I hope that, whatever the future has for them, with the irreparable damage they and other's have done to themselves, that they can try to find some kind of peace with it and move forward. Some good things can come from the bad. I pray they can find it.
I have one daughter like you. Mechanical, athletic amd a bit of a tom boy, but she is happily married to a man who likes to do guy shit and she simply enjoys it with him.
They work on cars together. Do cabinet making etc.
Yep. The lines were rightfully blurred on male vs female interests. Who cares if she plays video games or dislikes dresses? Video games are a medium like movies or books. (Male) Warriors of ages past literally wore glorified skirts.
Fashion changes. Fashion is also inexplicable sometimes and varies from class to class.
If nothing else, people need to come to terms with who they are, and not reject it. Improve themselves, yes. Strive for better quality of life, absolutely.
But if you were born male or female, that's just what you are.
You might make some fashion choices that are questionable, or you might rock that Scottish kilt.
But at least you make those choices based on who you are instead of rejecting it.
We don't get to choose our sex. We may not choose the sex we're attracted to, even.
But we absolutely make a decision when we reject ourselves.
I heard someone say not long ago: they're just confused.
There are a lot of them, too. They've been lied to by hell itself because the enemy HATES who they are, who they are meant to be, and who they will/can become.
And, I think our clean pretty facilities we have for churches are about to get flooded with these beautifully broken people. Because nothing can heal the real wounds they have but Jesus.
They are confused. And some of them will violently flail their arms and yell at you.
But this is what happens when you grow complacent. It's also what happens when you stand unwavering.
It's better to strongly control cultural progression to ensure that it doesn't become too bonkers than it is to plug your ears and strictly refuse it while it changes around you anyway.
We need to clean up messes left for us by the complacent and immovable masses that came before or even alongside us, and we need to figure out a way to strongly push out the trans bullshit if nothing else.
I am strongly convinced that at least 90% of our problems comes from breaking people's minds and causing them to reject themselves and think everyone else is rejecting them too.
You’re confident. That’s why. These people have insecurity issues. Their confidence comes from other peoples validation or material things.
One thing I do agree with these looney bins is that there is no fixed gender occupations or hobbies. Most of these interests are gender neutral and shouldn’t be stereotyped. If people have an inclination or are good at something, they should pursue it without gender judgement. It shouldn’t be forced though. The stereotypes exist for a reason bc they can apply to a large swath of people but equally large amounts of people could fall outside of the stereotype.
A straight woman wants a real cock attached to a real man, not a woman pretending to be a man with a butch haircut, tits cut off, and artificially created masculine features from hormone therapy. If a gal wants to scissor her partner, she probably wants another woman, not one that looks like a dude. Very sad state of affairs for some of these people. I can’t imagine being so confused.
This isn't just trans regret, it's how men are treated in modern feminazi dominated society. The majority of men, around 80%, are subhuman trash in the eyes of society. Only the top 20% of men who conform to the 6,6,6 rule are even worthy of female attention.
(6 foot tall, 6 figure income, 6" or bigger dick)
This moron transitioned from the sex that gets all of the attention, praise and validation to the sex that gets little attention, daily degradation and no validation whatsoever for their contributions to society.
The trans regret here is actually secondary. This woman just realized what it's really like to be a man.
It’s not even enough to have the 3 sixes. I have those traits. And I’m in good shape. And my face is slightly above average. And I still average about 1/50 success rate on dating apps.
I have just about given up actively swiping on the apps, it’s pointless. I just wait until I get likes and go from there. Which, to be fair, is better than most men get. Most men are invisible to most modern women. From my experience, it’s the height first. There’s some new phenomena in the last 10 years that’s convinced women that 6 feet tall is the norm. And that they automatically deserve someone that tall. Which is only a small percentage of men. So right off the bat, 70-80% of men are invisible, because the average height in the US is below 6 feet.
They all gonna end up angry single mothers in their 40s crying that all the good men are taken. They don’t even realize because they are so insane with standards, they don’t even know what a good man is. Plenty of very good looking dudes out there that are 5’9 or 5’10. And yet some overweight single mother of 3 won’t even look at them.
It’s hard not to become very cynical about women when you see the direction all of this is going.
What did he/she think would happen? I don't know why they convince themselves that they'll be happier living as the "gender" they identify with, only to find out they're not a man, but Frankenstein's monster.
This is what is so frustrating about this, watching from the outside. To so many of us it is so obvious this is not a physical issue but a mental issue. But instead of dealing with their feelings, they start cutting off parts and plastering on other parts. They take hormones that hurt their true, biological self. It's horrible. And they are doing it to themselves and when we try to warn them, we get shut us down as bigots. It's a terrible thing to see someone do to themself.
bottom line onclese the transition happens nobody wants to have sex with them..just the facts...heterosexuals want real women and real men Lesbians want real women and gay guys want men....they are stuck in a freakish no mans land that nobody wants...
Seriously the only ones we see with tranny wives are the sick "elites" puppetting society and even those like the Faucis and Gates and Obamas and such are just foot soldiers beholden to the 13 Families who probably don't do this shit themselves.
Being seen as a man by who? Other trannies? She’ll never be a man or even a weak effeminate boy. She’s a mentally disturbed girl who mutiated her body.
You’re looking for your worth in all the wrong places. God created you in His image. You have a body, but whether it is male or female, straight or bi - it has a soul that was created to seek the Creator. The enemy will try to distract us from that truth by everything that is “of the flesh”. You haven’t found the satisfaction and happiness you envisioned because your soul still hasn’t connected with God. He loves you and wants a relationship with you. He will clear up your confusion and give you purpose that goes beyond your physical reality. To know Him is to find peace.
I bet the comments are blaming the girl for being "disgusted or pity", when in reality that's the OP (of that thread) projecting.
More than likely, even if they manage to pass as a dude, the girl just wasn't interested.
Turns out being the opposite sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Guys are treated as expendable, used and tossed away like last night's trash. This is the messaging of the last 15 years, and you get to taste the results.
We have to fight pretty hard for a good woman's interest now, both because of the advances in technology and changes in culture. They're not going to accept for just anyone; if you don't have what they're looking for, they probably won't even give you the time of day.
I, on the other hand, do feel pity for this person. They were misguided and misled, drawn in by a predatory people on a false basis of inclusivity, with pro-alphabet soup propaganda everywhere they looked.
Interestingly, women seem to be bisexual at a much greater rate than men. It's possible she would have gotten that date if she were a woman, instead of a woman trying to be something she's not.
Now u understand how the world through political correctness and wokism forced people to pretend to accept it. We dont have to accept this shit anymore so we won't. Instead of us getting g used to your deviance you can get used to us being free to express our disdain.
I think the answer would be to blame the world. Don't look inwardly or question your choices, look around you for a villain, and don't stop until you've concocted an entire planet of people that are responsible. Make your life all about victimhood and entitlement, with misery as your best friend.
You are not living in a new reality, but a fantasy. You will never be a man, so do the best you can to accept the fact that you are a woman. Stop trying to be God and humble yourself.
Trannies, whether fake men like this one or fake women, realize eventually that their dating pool is microscopic. Very few people want to date or have sex with trannies, even other trannies. I'm not sure why this discussion has turned into some male oppression debate and everyone's talking about how "he" needs to get used to being rejected like all men. The girl rejected him because she knows he's NOT a man, that he's growing a pathetic synthetic hormone beard on his chin, that his voice sounds like a teenage boy who's been sucking helium, and that he has an oversized clitoris instead of a penis - or worse, a grotesque, surgically installed penis that looks like a skin sausage with a gaping wound on "his" thigh where the skin used to be. No woman wants THAT.
There is a big debate going on right now about the fact that tranny women are taking over lesbian dating apps. The app mods and developers don't want to be accused of the dreaded "transphobia," so they allow trannies, but actual female lesbians are complaining because they don't want to have sex with men, even if the men have had their penises removed. Why? Because the lizard brains of normal human beings tell them to run from something as grotesque as a man pretending to be a woman, especially one who has mutilated himself. There is something mentally, emotionally, and spiritually wrong with such a person who would do that to themselves. And we all know this.
I've known two trannies, one who now lives as a man and one who now lives as a woman. The "man" found a lesbian to marry, but I get the feeling that the woman is at least partially using "him" for woke points. She's a feminist activist who doesn't shave her armpits and wears a pussy hat, so being married to a "trans man" makes her even more special and oppressed. The "trans woman" I know tries to date real women but never succeeds and most likely never will, and then complains about how lonely her life. And it's funny how you rarely see two trannies together. They don't even want each other.
The person featured in the OP thinks people see "him" as a man now. They don't. Most people can tell that he's pretending, and that's why they avoid him and that's why he feels invisible. Most people can always spot a tranny, but women especially have that talent because they tend to notice facial features more than a man might. And trans men always look off somehow. You can always spot the woman inside him, no matter how much they try to walk like John Wayne. This person has fooled himself if he thinks people don't know and that they're just rejecting him as a guy. Maybe some are fooled, but most can tell. And the lizard brain says to run.
It's a sad situation, made sadder by the fact that minors are now allowed to have these surgeries. I have a hard time feeling sorry for adults who choose this route and should understand the consequences of a lonely life, but I will feel sad for children whose parents have decided it would be wise to have their kids' genitals removed for woke points. And just think how many will be in this same boat in the next couple of decades.
By the way, there are dozens of transition regret stories on YouTube, but they get removed every time. And they're horrific. God forbid that the truth gets out, huh?
The mistake is being bi and still wanting a women.
Women do not want short , frail, effeminate men. Sorry.
Unless you are over average height most will ignore you. If you make good money some will ignore that. Women with kids already, fat women or green carders may go for you but thats it.
Welcome to being a man while being to short, weak and not masculine enough for womens standards.
Well said. As a man, you either let roll with it or get rolled under it. Doesn’t bother me, but it’s fascinating to see what the “other side” perceives as having it easy. What they don’t get is it’s all about self-esteem and confidence, which comes from within, not from physical changes like the trans movement pushes. If you aren’t confident with how you were born, mutilating your body is the last thing that’s going to suddenly make you a new person and boost that self-esteem. They have got to be the most insecure people on the planet. I truly pity those suckered by this fad.
It's also always the body positive types who change themselves the most.
It's interesting to be told to love your body, don't shame someone for their bodies, etc. by people with breast augmentation, ass augmentation and like ten pounds of makeup.
Exactly. This trans trend is nothing more than a disguised dissociative identity disorder. They couldn't cope with their reality so they tried to change themselves to live their fantasy: to be someone they're not.
And, yeah. If these people think it's easy to be a man, try shouIdering the responsibilities that are expected of men. It's easy to yeII muh patriarchy when you haven't had any of those.
It's not even just a disguised dissociative identity disorder.
It's a cultivated one.
They are doing everything they can to create these disorders.
...and then more than that, they then demanded that everyone around them partake in their delusion and double think their way to believing that they really are the gender they want to be.
Really, really, really wanting something to be true makes it so, in modern leftist minds.
They’re all about equality until it’s time to decide who gets the space on the lifeboat.
Or who gets the privilege of dying for their country.
Or who gets to check what’s going bump in the night.
No feminists in a housefire. Those transes will throw on a skirt the instant they're expendable in a life-or-death disaster.
The ones in Ukraine found out the hard way when they got caught trying to flee the country and were sent right to the front since they were born as males.
Don't lump us all in with your twisted views. Yes, there are some women who might think that way, but far from all. My husband is supported, appreciated and taken care of. I do realize that he is carrying burdens that I could never do and I carry different burdens, that makes us whole.. together. I suggest you find some healthy women to be around. Sheesh.
Well said. In relationships involving the opposite sex, the man has his role to play and the woman has hers. As best I can tell, all relationship issues stem from a lack of understanding ones role. The Bible tried to teach us, but we’re still fucking it up. Effeminate men catering to every want and need of a female is disastrous to both the relationship and society at large. The opposite is just as true, so-called “alpha females” will never find a man they respect.
Masculine and feminine energies are needed to build attraction, these both come from the man and woman respectfully. Change this order up and good luck maintaining your relationship. You may get lucky and find “short term” hookup success, but it will never last.
I'll give you 60-80% as bad eggs. That's because I know many women who are healthy, Godly women who support their men. I never claimed to be perfect or to have a perfect marriage. We've worked hard for over 30 years. I'm sorry that you seem to have only run into the bad ones. I hope you can rid yourself of some of the bitter feelings that seem to come through your post.
60-80% is still the majority of women. I understand the facts upset you, but it is the way it is. If you and your friends are not part of that majority, good on you. But most women under the age of 50 are as described.
Thats true that 60-80% are a majority. I guess it's more that in the original point, they say "Women will never understand". That's suggesting All women, which is why I chimed in. It seemed an overly broad brush. Maybe a qualifier would have helped?
Don't try quoting Tom Macdonald at me .. 😄 I don’t belive it's an overwhelming majority. That's our difference. I'm not on dating apps or Tik Tok, in bars or clubs though.. in places like those, yeah.. def. I could throw it back on ya as to what "all" men seemingly want, of the buxom blond, anime girl, etc.. but, eh, idc that much. Again, sorry that you have had such suck experiences. Blessings.
You are falling awry of the NAXALT fallacy ('Not all X are like that'), the mistaken belief that because you can name or know some outliers, that the center majority doesn't exist.
I don’t deny there are those in existence. I can't prove how many, as I have no studies to back either of us up. It's more that in the original point, they say "Women will never understand". That's suggesting All women, which is why I chimed in. It seemed an overly broad brush. Maybe a qualifier would have helped?
So are you a modern woman or traditional woman?
If you embrace the fact there are real differences between men and women, which it appears you do, you lean towards traditional.
If you're asking if I'm a woke feminist? Nope. I do believe in traditional roles for most people. There are always exceptions, obviously.
I do think that there are a lot of women and men out there looking for partners with entirely wrong motives. That wasn't the issue to me. It was the original assumption that All women are like that and I don't belive that to be true.
Your post is nothing but a collection of generalities. Most of which are fantasy.
First, is "he" short? Ask men who are 5'1 about their dating lives. The ladies aren't lining up for them unless they happen to earn over six figures. Even then the ladies still aren't lining up.
Reality hurts.
If he wonders why what he earns and his height matter, then he has no clue how modern women shop for partners. Xe is probably like "Women don't care about what their partner earns. They're not shallow like men. They just want a man who is sensitive and will cry with them during the Notebook."
Yeah... Xe is about to discover the reality of the male dating world. It won't be fun.
I earn WELL into six figures in a rural, inexpensive area to live and I can't get a girl to bat an eye my way, even when I step out of my expensive car in front of them. Oh, they'll look at the car, then they'll look at me get out of it and suddenly their attention needs to be elsewhere.
Why? I'm 5'6".
I'm not fat or ugly in the least. I'm 190 lbs, work out daily, have a full head of well kept hair, a nicely trimmed beard and I can dress myself very well; not like some dumpy slob.
Any woman who married me realistically wouldn't have to lift a finger to work again outside of the home, but that six inches of height I'm missing is a deal breaker for them.
American women are superficial dumpster trash. Pure and utter garbage. I wouldn't marry an American girl, especially a college educated one, for almost any reason whatsoever. She'd have to be a unicorn that was raised under a proverbial rock before I'd even consider dating her.
You sound very bitter, so a word of advice. Instead of focusing on the faults of the women you seek to date, work on yourself. You may think this is cliche but it's the best thing you can do whenever you find yourself in a romantic rut. Having a partner whom you love and who loves you back for who you are (not money or car or height) is a blessing bestowed upon you by God. You have to earn it. Work hard on your own faults (anger, envy, pride etc.) and your romantic life might just improve...
You're confusing bitter with stated realism. All I did was quote facts emphatically.
I'm not in any kind of mental distress, romantically or otherwise. I'm not the problem... it's American women need to catch up. Sadly, this generation of American women won't catch up until they're herding cats around their miserable lonely apartment in their 40's wondering why the dates have dried up.
Sucks for them cause they sure as shit ain't latching onto me after they've wasted their youthful reproductive years blowing their backs out on men who discard them in the same bin with the soggy condom.
"American women are superficial dumpster trash. Pure and utter garbage." Those are facts? No, you're bitter, and the way you talk about women is ugly. Not a big surprise why you're not doing well with them. Millions of Americans - including women - are happily married, raising great families, and working to make America great again. Where I live, there are plenty of men around 5'6" and they do just fine with women. Maybe it's your location. I know a man around that height who said he didn't even know he was short until he moved to the Midwest.
I don't fart rainbows and shit piles of glitter, so I reject the premise of that question.
Doesn't sound to me like your problem is height.
What kind of woman are you looking for? A gorgeous, hot woman with long blond hair, long legs, perfect body, perfect teeth, no flaws? Or just an ordinary, pretty, caring woman who may not be perfect on the outside? Have you even looked at the latter? or just the 'hot' ones?
Dude, just stop. You are absolutely clueless. Being an man under 5”9’ is a severe handicap that very few American women will overlook. OP will have to go to a foreign country where the native men a tinier than he is in order for him to have a decent chance at finding a mate.
“You have to earn it.” Juxtaposed that advice to the women who throw themselves onto men who obviously “haven’t earned it” and you get begin the understand the confusion and resentment somebody could take with your suggestion.
I really think that the people down-voting these comments live in some kind of idealized 2010, or before, past. The dating world has change so drastically and completely since around 2010 that it's not even recognizable anymore.
The "just go out there and earn it and be confident and work out and dress better" crowd are truly and utterly clueless. I am a very confident man. I don't walk around staring at my shoes. I keep my head up, shoulders back, make eye contact, smile and am very sociable. I work out daily. I dress well, but not flashy... but I'm a swipe-right to the vast majority of women because I don't hit first six in the 666 rule.
Then I'll see a 6' tall dude meeting a woman out somewhere that I know she matched on a dating app. You can just tell when a couple is meeting the first time from a dating app. I can take one look at this dude and know he's gonna smash and trash her and then she'll be on tiktok tomorrow crying her eyes out about "Why do all the good men keep ghosting me after I let them smash me on the first date??!?"
You're both correct. There is a well established and a well acknowledged height advantage, but that could also be making him bitter.
Now that said, if you're into that sort of thing, there are a good few women out there who are specifically interested in having shorter men. They're just fewer.
Best advice tends to be just to get out, interact with people (as hilariously poorly timed as this is for 99% of the population) and live your life.
Looking too hard will just make you feel bitter. Showing off your money will just make you seem shallow or attract the wrong kind of woman anyway.
When you have a height disadvantage, the best thing to do is to focus on being social and being yourself.
Perhaps a new 3 piece suit would shift focus from your height and present a more traditionally masculine air.
Perhaps building your chest and arms up (don't forget your legs) will change your image. Maybe change the length of the beard, or shave it entirely. A good beard of various lengths can attract many different women, or put them off.
If you've got a beard, maybe get into the beardsman life. Experiment with different oils and fragrances. Scent is a powerful thing.
Presentation is important. There are many ways we can modify our presentation if we are trying to attract people. Key is to not become something you aren't though.
I think that’s where they get the term Napoleon complex. Most (not all) of the short men I’ve worked with always came off as insecure and had to flex to show what they have or who they banged or whatever thing they think tall men talk about. Just came off as off putting. The ones that loved themselves and their short stature always were easy going and good humored. And in turn had no issues with finding a mate bc they weren’t trying too hard.
It's kind of sad how women treat short men. I'm 5'3" and it's much more preferable to have someone closer to my height, then having to constantly stand on my tip toes or crane my neck.
I'm really not sure why so many women feel the 6' is a dealbreaker, what do you even gain by having someone you can't even kiss or hug properly?
I'm about 5'11", a little shorter by a very small bit. I'm not tall, but instead very broad. I lean into my broad stature. I like traditional men's fashion from ages past, e.g. a 3 piece suit vs 2 piece.
For what it's worth though, we all have disadvantages in our own ways. Men tend to like women shorter than them, so naturally that's a point in favor of the natural order.
It's how we can confidently lean into our advantages that gives us the greatest power over our circumstances.
I’m almost 5’8”, so naturally I want a man that’s taller than me. Not knocking on men that are shorter than me, just my preference
When times get even harder I guarantee you that you will start receiving that attention. What you do depends on you. Just remember how they treated you when times were good. I'll never forget the "hey bighead" text I got from a girl who friendzoned me. Happened after the rent moratorium ended.
You dodged a bullet, imagine if you had been dealing with her freeloading ass the entire time.
Oh yeah big time. I knew the moment she contacted me she just wanted a simp to do her bidding cause the first thing she started talking about is her financial issues and had asked me for money. I laughed so hard I almost got a hernia. Havent heard from her since.
In my opinion, confidence is everything. If you think it’s because you’re short, it is usually what manifests. I’ve dated short and tall guys and the height has never been a factor. If you exude real confidence within yourself, women know and are attracted to it. The women who snub you most likely have very low self worth and compensate through materialistic bs.
The woman he asked out probably also wants a working penis and someone who feels and acts like a man and who can give them children. Sounds like she had her period. I don't know any grown men who cry over one rejection. Depressed - Maybe but full out weeping?
Alot of the fake Trans are gays who can't accept they are gay for whatever reason and are looking to match their sexuality to their body. I doubt many or these people have true dissasociative disorders....more like extreme self loathing and gullibility.
I remember an episode of Rubin Report where Dave Rubin said that he considers the entire trans movement to be anti-gay since it obsesses about "fixing" people rather than encouraging them to accept themselves for being different. That reddit post sounds just like one of his examples, suddenly we can't have tomboys anymore gotta butcher them into fake males that nobody wants anyway when plenty of men and lesbians would have loved to have a tomboy partner.
Yes, unless your physique is at least part way to GigaChad, have political clout, lots of cash to show, then you have to be cleverer than the rest. Nothing is given, just like she was used to getting hit on, now she's the one that has to make the move and that goes against her genetics.
Of course, not being used to rejection from a young age, each one is devastating. Especially if she LOOKS like a trans. (Women can look more masculine than men can look feminine)
I really do feel bad for people like this. You can't treat an internal struggle with an external solution. Instead of being enjoyed to just be themselves and comfortable in their own skin, they either convinced themselves, or someone(s) else convinced them that if ONLY they transitioned, they would be happier.
Spoiler: I'm female. I consider myself semi tomboyish. I dislike dresses, and preferred more mechanical toys instead of barbie dolls (even though I did have a few favorite plushies and stuffed animals.)
And this was ok for me. I like what I liked. I played (still played) video games, yu-gi-oh, watched anime, went into robotics classes in my high school. I never tried to 'fit in' with the other girl clicks, inside I just participated in things I liked, regardless of how 'male' dominant those areas seemed to be. I didn't care, and I wasn't ashamed.
There was one time however that I was criticized by my own mother that did piss me off. See, I happened to get my hands on a few pairs of sports shorts that fit and felt comfortable to where they'd just be my "walking around the house" kind of cloths, inside of just pjs, or nightgowns.
My mother disliked me wearing them for some reason, and made a snide remark about "Just get the surgery already". I did snap back at her and my father did defend me.
So, .. I guess I get it, that there are external pressures, pro and con, that could push someone in this direction. For me, I'm lucky enough that I (somehow) just grew up doing my own thing and being comfortable in it. I don't know what positive guiding forces in my life could have prepared me to just accept me for me. Maybe it's up to us individually to figured ourselves out.
Point being (and sorry for the ramble) I can't help but see posts like this and feel sorry and pity them.
I hope that, whatever the future has for them, with the irreparable damage they and other's have done to themselves, that they can try to find some kind of peace with it and move forward. Some good things can come from the bad. I pray they can find it.
I have one daughter like you. Mechanical, athletic amd a bit of a tom boy, but she is happily married to a man who likes to do guy shit and she simply enjoys it with him.
They work on cars together. Do cabinet making etc.
Yep. The lines were rightfully blurred on male vs female interests. Who cares if she plays video games or dislikes dresses? Video games are a medium like movies or books. (Male) Warriors of ages past literally wore glorified skirts.
Fashion changes. Fashion is also inexplicable sometimes and varies from class to class.
If nothing else, people need to come to terms with who they are, and not reject it. Improve themselves, yes. Strive for better quality of life, absolutely.
But if you were born male or female, that's just what you are.
You might make some fashion choices that are questionable, or you might rock that Scottish kilt.
But at least you make those choices based on who you are instead of rejecting it.
We don't get to choose our sex. We may not choose the sex we're attracted to, even.
But we absolutely make a decision when we reject ourselves.
Well she is also a blackhawk mech and aerospace engineer.
I'm not very Athletic, wish I was though. Still! Glad you're daughter is happy being who she is. :)
I heard someone say not long ago: they're just confused.
There are a lot of them, too. They've been lied to by hell itself because the enemy HATES who they are, who they are meant to be, and who they will/can become.
And, I think our clean pretty facilities we have for churches are about to get flooded with these beautifully broken people. Because nothing can heal the real wounds they have but Jesus.
They are confused. And some of them will violently flail their arms and yell at you.
But this is what happens when you grow complacent. It's also what happens when you stand unwavering.
It's better to strongly control cultural progression to ensure that it doesn't become too bonkers than it is to plug your ears and strictly refuse it while it changes around you anyway.
We need to clean up messes left for us by the complacent and immovable masses that came before or even alongside us, and we need to figure out a way to strongly push out the trans bullshit if nothing else.
I am strongly convinced that at least 90% of our problems comes from breaking people's minds and causing them to reject themselves and think everyone else is rejecting them too.
You’re confident. That’s why. These people have insecurity issues. Their confidence comes from other peoples validation or material things.
One thing I do agree with these looney bins is that there is no fixed gender occupations or hobbies. Most of these interests are gender neutral and shouldn’t be stereotyped. If people have an inclination or are good at something, they should pursue it without gender judgement. It shouldn’t be forced though. The stereotypes exist for a reason bc they can apply to a large swath of people but equally large amounts of people could fall outside of the stereotype.
A straight woman wants a real cock attached to a real man, not a woman pretending to be a man with a butch haircut, tits cut off, and artificially created masculine features from hormone therapy. If a gal wants to scissor her partner, she probably wants another woman, not one that looks like a dude. Very sad state of affairs for some of these people. I can’t imagine being so confused.
It's honestly the same thing with guys who turn into women.
There are plenty of gay men who would take them for who they are, even just dressing feminine or whatever, but they want a real dick.
The moment you invert it, nobody wants to touch a gaping wound.
Same as who would want a dude with an artificial vagina?
You're missing a big part of this.
This isn't just trans regret, it's how men are treated in modern feminazi dominated society. The majority of men, around 80%, are subhuman trash in the eyes of society. Only the top 20% of men who conform to the 6,6,6 rule are even worthy of female attention.
(6 foot tall, 6 figure income, 6" or bigger dick)
This moron transitioned from the sex that gets all of the attention, praise and validation to the sex that gets little attention, daily degradation and no validation whatsoever for their contributions to society.
The trans regret here is actually secondary. This woman just realized what it's really like to be a man.
It’s not even enough to have the 3 sixes. I have those traits. And I’m in good shape. And my face is slightly above average. And I still average about 1/50 success rate on dating apps.
I have just about given up actively swiping on the apps, it’s pointless. I just wait until I get likes and go from there. Which, to be fair, is better than most men get. Most men are invisible to most modern women. From my experience, it’s the height first. There’s some new phenomena in the last 10 years that’s convinced women that 6 feet tall is the norm. And that they automatically deserve someone that tall. Which is only a small percentage of men. So right off the bat, 70-80% of men are invisible, because the average height in the US is below 6 feet.
They all gonna end up angry single mothers in their 40s crying that all the good men are taken. They don’t even realize because they are so insane with standards, they don’t even know what a good man is. Plenty of very good looking dudes out there that are 5’9 or 5’10. And yet some overweight single mother of 3 won’t even look at them.
It’s hard not to become very cynical about women when you see the direction all of this is going.
What did he/she think would happen? I don't know why they convince themselves that they'll be happier living as the "gender" they identify with, only to find out they're not a man, but Frankenstein's monster.
They get "con-vinced" would be my guess.
Someone needs to tell this kid to FUCKING MAN UP!
Can't man up since it's a woman pretending to be a man finding out the hard way that most women only want real men (or real women.)
I know. I am not good with sympathy but I am really good at hurting people's feelings.
Do the exact opposite of what you're thinking and you'll be an expert on empathy in no time.
This is what is so frustrating about this, watching from the outside. To so many of us it is so obvious this is not a physical issue but a mental issue. But instead of dealing with their feelings, they start cutting off parts and plastering on other parts. They take hormones that hurt their true, biological self. It's horrible. And they are doing it to themselves and when we try to warn them, we get shut us down as bigots. It's a terrible thing to see someone do to themself.
They're fake men, contrived. Glad I'm a real man.
I'm glad you are too.
Manhood is a great thing.
Yes it is.
bottom line onclese the transition happens nobody wants to have sex with them..just the facts...heterosexuals want real women and real men Lesbians want real women and gay guys want men....they are stuck in a freakish no mans land that nobody wants...
"no mans land"...kek
Actual reality comes at you quick when your fantasy reality shatters.
Do they really not know that nobody dates trans people
Exactly! Where are these trannies with rich dating lives.
Seriously the only ones we see with tranny wives are the sick "elites" puppetting society and even those like the Faucis and Gates and Obamas and such are just foot soldiers beholden to the 13 Families who probably don't do this shit themselves.
Is this regret or just untreated mental illness?
It was mental illness that led to it to begin with.
She got what she wanted. now she is treated like any guy on earth is treated by any society. Invisible, Alone, and expendable.
Being seen as a man by who? Other trannies? She’ll never be a man or even a weak effeminate boy. She’s a mentally disturbed girl who mutiated her body.
So being trans was all about the attention…..!
WWG1WGA
You’re looking for your worth in all the wrong places. God created you in His image. You have a body, but whether it is male or female, straight or bi - it has a soul that was created to seek the Creator. The enemy will try to distract us from that truth by everything that is “of the flesh”. You haven’t found the satisfaction and happiness you envisioned because your soul still hasn’t connected with God. He loves you and wants a relationship with you. He will clear up your confusion and give you purpose that goes beyond your physical reality. To know Him is to find peace.
I bet the comments are blaming the girl for being "disgusted or pity", when in reality that's the OP (of that thread) projecting.
More than likely, even if they manage to pass as a dude, the girl just wasn't interested.
Turns out being the opposite sex isn't all that it's cracked up to be. Guys are treated as expendable, used and tossed away like last night's trash. This is the messaging of the last 15 years, and you get to taste the results.
We have to fight pretty hard for a good woman's interest now, both because of the advances in technology and changes in culture. They're not going to accept for just anyone; if you don't have what they're looking for, they probably won't even give you the time of day.
I, on the other hand, do feel pity for this person. They were misguided and misled, drawn in by a predatory people on a false basis of inclusivity, with pro-alphabet soup propaganda everywhere they looked.
Interestingly, women seem to be bisexual at a much greater rate than men. It's possible she would have gotten that date if she were a woman, instead of a woman trying to be something she's not.
Wait...what's wrong with being an effeminate man? I thought that's what they wanted, to get rid of "toxic" masculinity?
Good point.
Now u understand how the world through political correctness and wokism forced people to pretend to accept it. We dont have to accept this shit anymore so we won't. Instead of us getting g used to your deviance you can get used to us being free to express our disdain.
I think the answer would be to blame the world. Don't look inwardly or question your choices, look around you for a villain, and don't stop until you've concocted an entire planet of people that are responsible. Make your life all about victimhood and entitlement, with misery as your best friend.
You are not living in a new reality, but a fantasy. You will never be a man, so do the best you can to accept the fact that you are a woman. Stop trying to be God and humble yourself.
Here's what you can do
Quit believing the voices in your head telling yourself sex fantasy stories, quit pretending to be something you're not, and be who you really are
Some crazy chick
You're gone. Enjoy suicide
Mentally ill.
LOL
***hand rubbing intensifies...
Envisioning yourself as a man is delusion. Delusion is spiritual slavery.
Trannies, whether fake men like this one or fake women, realize eventually that their dating pool is microscopic. Very few people want to date or have sex with trannies, even other trannies. I'm not sure why this discussion has turned into some male oppression debate and everyone's talking about how "he" needs to get used to being rejected like all men. The girl rejected him because she knows he's NOT a man, that he's growing a pathetic synthetic hormone beard on his chin, that his voice sounds like a teenage boy who's been sucking helium, and that he has an oversized clitoris instead of a penis - or worse, a grotesque, surgically installed penis that looks like a skin sausage with a gaping wound on "his" thigh where the skin used to be. No woman wants THAT.
There is a big debate going on right now about the fact that tranny women are taking over lesbian dating apps. The app mods and developers don't want to be accused of the dreaded "transphobia," so they allow trannies, but actual female lesbians are complaining because they don't want to have sex with men, even if the men have had their penises removed. Why? Because the lizard brains of normal human beings tell them to run from something as grotesque as a man pretending to be a woman, especially one who has mutilated himself. There is something mentally, emotionally, and spiritually wrong with such a person who would do that to themselves. And we all know this.
I've known two trannies, one who now lives as a man and one who now lives as a woman. The "man" found a lesbian to marry, but I get the feeling that the woman is at least partially using "him" for woke points. She's a feminist activist who doesn't shave her armpits and wears a pussy hat, so being married to a "trans man" makes her even more special and oppressed. The "trans woman" I know tries to date real women but never succeeds and most likely never will, and then complains about how lonely her life. And it's funny how you rarely see two trannies together. They don't even want each other.
The person featured in the OP thinks people see "him" as a man now. They don't. Most people can tell that he's pretending, and that's why they avoid him and that's why he feels invisible. Most people can always spot a tranny, but women especially have that talent because they tend to notice facial features more than a man might. And trans men always look off somehow. You can always spot the woman inside him, no matter how much they try to walk like John Wayne. This person has fooled himself if he thinks people don't know and that they're just rejecting him as a guy. Maybe some are fooled, but most can tell. And the lizard brain says to run.
It's a sad situation, made sadder by the fact that minors are now allowed to have these surgeries. I have a hard time feeling sorry for adults who choose this route and should understand the consequences of a lonely life, but I will feel sad for children whose parents have decided it would be wise to have their kids' genitals removed for woke points. And just think how many will be in this same boat in the next couple of decades.
By the way, there are dozens of transition regret stories on YouTube, but they get removed every time. And they're horrific. God forbid that the truth gets out, huh?
Baphomet regrets.
This is tragic. And there are probably lots of people out there like this one.
The mistake is being bi and still wanting a women.
Women do not want short , frail, effeminate men. Sorry.
Unless you are over average height most will ignore you. If you make good money some will ignore that. Women with kids already, fat women or green carders may go for you but thats it.
Welcome to being a man while being to short, weak and not masculine enough for womens standards.